I think some of you are well looped into this... but basically we're having a small wedding and (for various reasons) have decided not to invite aunts and uncles on either side which FMIL is not happy about. FH put his foot down on this a little while ago and politely explained the situation to the aunts and uncles personally too - as far as I'm aware, they are a bit disappointed but understanding.
We were meant to visit FMIL and go for a big family lunch this weekend. Unfortunately, I had a horrible burn accident, was in a lot of pain and had been advised by 111 that I was in shock and had a list of symptoms to look out for over a 24hr period that might mean going to A&E so I obviously couldn't go (all good now just a bit sore). FH got guilt tripped by his sister into going without me as apparently FMIL was all stressed about work and was really sad not to see him - I encouraged him to go as I knew she'd be upset if he didn't and my parents could look after me. FH doesn't drive so he had to make a multiple change 3.5hr train journey each way to visit her as I wasn't able to drive us up.
He's just told me that the only thing she spoke about when he arrived was the aunts and uncles not being invited. She got really upset and said we were being mean for not inviting them. He didn't go into details but said that they then stopped speaking to each other, didn't speak for the rest of the day, and he had to get a lift back to the station from a different family member after the lunch.
It sounds like FH has held firm and she's made him feel terrible about it, so now I'm feeling terrible that he's in this position. What can I do?
Oh, and I found out the convo about my burn went something like:
FH: "Chloe's hurt and might have to go to A&E, unfortunately won't make lunch."
FMIL: "I had a feeling something like that might happen today..."
FH: "What do you mean by that?"
FMIL: "I don't have the energy to discuss Chloe right now."
So basically she hates me.
All in all I'm feeling pretty f***ing fuming towards her, but trying not to show it to FH as he's having a horrible enough time from her himself and don't want to add me getting angry on top of everything!