After some etiquette advice here please!
So, last year I moved back near my home town with FH. A friend I'd known from school reached out and we met up towards the end of last summer. Before then, I'd not seen or spoken to this friend in YEARS, but when we were about 14-16 she was one of my closest friends. Let's call her Ashley.
Ashley is engaged, and was when we first met up with her and her fiance. Immediately after this first meeting we received a save the date to their wedding - which felt a little weird but nice. I since found out her wedding is 100+ people so we may well be seat fillers but I'm not sure.
Since then, FH and I have obv got engaged ourselves and booked our venue - it just so happened that the only free Saturday at our venue was the weekend after Ashley's wedding so it feels awfully close to go to theirs to potentially not invite them to ours.
We've seem Ashely and her FH three times in total. But Ashley does message me A LOT about wedding stuff and I'm finding it a bit awkward chatting to her about it given that we haven't sent them a save the date... They are currently on our maybe list but I'm definitely getting a strong vibe they want to be invited, even though they know we're only planning on a small wedding.
I have no issues with her or her fiance and would be absolutely fine with her attending, it's just that our wedding is 50 people and we have less than 10 spots left so I feel a bit nervous giving up two of them to people we've only just got back in touch with...
It may be that we become close friends between now and the wedding, given that we now live nearby to each other, but the last time we met up FH said he wasn't so sure how much we'd have to talk about if we weren't both getting married :/
Any advice?