Disappointed by my wedding

I think post wedding disappointment is common for brides as so much pressure is piled onto them these days to have the 'perfect' day. So a certain amount of post-wedding analysing and anxiety is not surprising.

Having said that, to still be feeling disappointment over your wedding nearly a year after is quite excessive. If it's something you are struggling to move past, perhaps you might benefit from some counselling? It's such a shame to have the early years of your marriage spoiled by regret over what is, after all, just one day.

I'm sure your friends enjoyed your wedding - different people behave in different ways, so maybe you just had a quieter bunch at your wedding than were at your friends. Besides, the main point of a wedding is to support the couple getting married and to wish them well at the start of their wedding - and you don't need to be on the dance floor all night to do that.

Hopefully, you can remind yourself of all the good things that happened at your wedding, accept that maybe your expectations were too high to be realistically fulfilled and move beyond your feelings of disappointment to happiness. But if you can't, then please do get some professional help - there's no shame in needing some support in getting over something that is putting a damper on your life.

I'm a bit worried about getting people up and dancing too having forked out for a live band but at the end of the day there's things you can't control. A full dance floor is never guaranteed and you're definitely not the only one to have guests stood outside or in the bar.

I wouldn't worry that people didn't have a good time though. Sounds like they were enjoying the weather!

As for the photos I feel like that was kind of your photographers fault not yours. Ours has asked for lists of all the group photos we want. They should be organising everyone and making the most of the photo time.

Hopefully it will help to write this post and accept certain parts of the day weren't as good as you hoped but then move on and focus on not forgetting all of the good bits.

I really feel for you, its so upsetting that you feel that way. Im sure your guests had a lovely time, perhaps they all were catching up outside? I know this happens a lot at weddings and sometimes if the bar is outside of the entertainment room that can often deter people from staying on the dance floor.

When we hired our band we were very lucky, we were given fantastic advice which helped our day run smoothly, without this expert advice I feel we would have made some really bad choices, after all wedding planning is such a new and sometimes very overwhelming thing to most Brides/Grooms, we had so many problems with our catering it nearly ruined our day the food was over an hour late because of lack of staff and the food ended up being awful! our veggie guests options were just total poop and I often think about what our guests must have thought. At the same time though I do read comments like yours and realise that so many of us experience difficulties on our wedding day and Im not alone in feeling the frustration.

For anyone else reading this thread for advice, definitely hire a reputable catering company, look into their previous work, ask questions and see if you can sample some of their food also make sure their team is big enough to cope with the size of your wedding party.

Our band were The NeoRoots Function Band, I can not express enough how fortunate we were to have found this band, they went above and beyond their job role and made our day, I have recommended them to everyone because I believe that everyone should hire them for their day, I guarantee it will be the best decision you make.