Post wedding blues - struggling to move on

It seems to be increasingly common these days. I suspect it is because, as you say, there is so much pressure to have the perfect day and months if not years of planning go into it, so you can be left feeling a bit flat once it's all over. I suspect very few people experienced wedding blues in the days when weddings were much smaller, simpler events!

The best thing is to occupy yourself with something else to fill the gap left by the wedding planning. Maybe take up a new hobby, join an evening class or start a DIY project. And when you find yourself thinking something negative about the wedding, consciously look for a positive thought with which to replace it - 'starving' the negative thoughts of attention and 'feeding' the positive thoughts - because what we feed grows stronger.

It's completely normal to feel a mix of emotions after your wedding day, and what you're experiencing sounds like a case of post-wedding blues. It's understandable, especially considering the stress and challenges you faced leading up to the big day.

Remember, weddings are often portrayed as perfect fairy tale events, but the reality is they come with their own set of highs and lows. It's okay to acknowledge the difficulties you encountered and to feel a sense of loss now that the planning and anticipation are over.

Try to focus on the positives and cherish the wonderful moments you shared with your loved ones on your wedding day. And don't hesitate to seek support from friends, family, or a professional if you're finding it difficult to move past these feelings. You're not alone, and it will get easier with time. Take care! 💕

I understand how you're feeling right now. First, let me confirm something: the emotions you're going through are quite common and are often referred to as post-wedding blues or post-wedding depression. Despite weddings being joyous occasions, the preparation and stress leading up to them can deeply affect one's emotions.

Firstly, what you're experiencing is normal. A wedding is a significant event in life, often accompanied by intense emotions and pressure. You may have gone through months or even longer of nervousness and anxiety. These feelings don't just disappear when the wedding day ends. Instead, some people may feel a sense of loss, emptiness, or low mood after investing so much thought and energy into preparing for the day, only to suddenly feel a void when it's over.

Secondly, feeling unable to focus on the positive aspects and noticing more of the negatives is also normal. This could be related to the stress and anxiety you experienced during the wedding preparations. During that time, you might have been more focused on problems and challenges rather than enjoying the moments of beauty. This mindset won't change overnight, but you can work on gradually cultivating gratitude and a more relaxed mindset to ease these feelings.

Lastly, remember that you're not alone. Many people experience similar emotions after their wedding. Sometimes, sharing your feelings with your partner or close loved ones can help you better understand and manage these emotions. Also, don't forget to give yourself time to adapt to your new life status and roles—it's a completely normal and necessary process.

If you find that these emotions are affecting your daily life or lasting for an extended period, considering seeking professional mental health support is a good idea. They can offer more specific support and advice to help you through this emotional transition.

I hope this information is helpful to you, and I wish you the gradual process of stepping out from the shadow of your wedding day and rediscovering the joys of life.

I'm sorry you feel like this. But I hear this is perfectly common. This is what I'm worried about also. We got engaged in July 2022 and get married this October 2024. So we've had a lot of time in between to plan and think about it all. But now its all coming so quickly. I have enjoyed planning it but there's so much stress that comes with it; hoping everything will be perfect.

I agree with the others. Try and focus on the positives on your big day. Maybe plan something for the two of you, be it a trip or an activity to make sure you remember it is about the love the two of you share. All the best