Hello folks!
Welcome to your new married lives! I hope you all had amazing days. Despite a lot of stress leading up to the wedding (including not even seeing my dress or having the first/final fitting until 7 days before the Big Day - I might do a separate post about that) it was a wonderful day and everything went really well. Due to the pandemic, we couldn't have an evening do at the time, but that didn't spoil things. We extended the meal with a cheese board course and as it was a 4pm ceremony, the whole evening ended around 10-11pm anyway.
Did you have any wedding day drama? I had a few things but wasn't going to let them spoil the day for me.
Leading up to the wedding, the top table situation was a bit stressful. We've both got divorced parents who have re-married and were only allowed 6 max on the top table due to COVID. We considered my Dad and stepmum (as he brought me up alone) and the Groom's Dad and his new wife. Groom's sister kicked off saying that was not fair and his mum and her husband needed to be there. Groom's Mum and Dad wouldn't sit together so he decided his brother (best man) and his wife would represent his family on the top table. Groom's sister rang him ranting that wasn't acceptable and I needed to make sure my Dad wasn't on the top table as that wouldn't be fair. In the end we felt it was easier to have a sweetheart table and have just us 2 on the top table and parents could sit on the main tables.
My "best friend" was one of the bridesmaids but was completely disinterested. Didn't ask if I needed any help at all, no mention of helping to plan a hen do. When we asked when she would be arriving for the wedding she would ignore the messages. I set up a bridesmaid WhatsApp the week before to let them know what time to come to the room and she said "Brilliant. Just what I wanted this morning. A Bridesmaid group chat". She ended up driving 3.5 hours on the morning of the wedding to get ready. Turned up on time, but brought her boyfriend to the room to "hang out". He helped himself to the prosecco I'd bought for the girls and just sat around. She said "I feel bad as he hasn't got anywhere to go". When my dad came to the room to see me he was in the way for the photos/videos. My stepmum bought her lunch before the ceremony and she didn't even say thank you, whilst getting hair and make up done she made a big drama about how they'd not booked a hotel room for the night and "might have to stay in your bridal suite tonight on the sofa". She didn't bother saying hello to my brother and his family and then to top it all off when we opened our cards the following day the only people who didn't send a card were her and her boyfriend. The bridesmaid didn't even bother to send a card.
The Groom's sister had said her husband needed to have a buttonhole, so we got one for him but then Groom's mum was fuming because her husband should have had one too apparently. Where do you draw the line?! Should my sister in law have a bouquet because she is married to my brother?! So Groom's stepdad ended up being in the Groomsmen pics in a totally different suit.
That's only the stuff I know about, who knows if anything else kicked off?!
Aside from all that it was a brilliant day and really enjoyed it. Hope you ladies had great days too. 