Wedding Disappointment

I am sorry you feel this way, it is so hard as i feel so much pressure is but on the Big Day and the slightest thing can make you feel it was not perfect. I would say you need to concentrate on the positives, in that you are now married, as you say, you were lucky to be able to do it. Did any of your guests complain? I bet they all had a great time and were happy to be part of your day. As hard as it is, you cannot change it and constantly over thinking it and beating yourself up is not helping. Your Hubby loves you for who you are not your size and that is all that should matter. I really think you need to try and forget it and move on, set yourself some goals to focus on, if you want to loose weight an maybe you could look to do something special on your anniversary like a couples shoot, not necessary in your wedding outfit, but it will give you something to aim for. I get it is easier said than done, but please try not to let it control your feelings ever day, you have an amazing life ahead of you to look forward to with your Hubby so don't let one day bring you down. I really hope you can find a way to get out of this funk and concentrate on your future together

So sorry to hear you are feeling this way. My main advice would be to try your best not to focus on what in the grand scheme of things is just one day and instead on the fact that you get to spend every day for the rest of your life with the person you love more than anyone else in the world...a marriage Even if you do it for no other reason than for the sake of your OH as you've mentioned it upsets him to see you upset.

I know that's obviously easier said than done. A) weddings are so expensive, you don't want that to have been for no reason and B) there's so much anticipation there's bound to be an element of feeling like it hasn't lived up to the hype but you can't change it now so dwelling on it won't ever make you feel better or help you move forward.

Chin up x

I'm so sorry. There is just SO much pressure over weddings these days, so it's not surprising to feel a bit let down. And the pressure increases when you've had to postpone as there's this feeling that the day needs to be even better to make up for the delay. I suspect that years ago, when people just had a simple ceremony and meal and then got on with life, they didn't have these let downs because they didn't have the pressure in the first place.

I'm not a fan of the 'best day of your life' idea anyway. To me, it seems really sad to view the very first day of your marriage as the 'best day' because it kind of implies it all goes downhill from then on! Maybe try to think of it as being the first day of your new life as Mr & Mrs instead? And that better days are still to come.

I'm sure it was a wonderful wedding day and you looked beautiful in spite of how you feel. I've lost track of the number of brides I've heard saying that they hate their wedding day look so much they can't bear to look at their pictures - and every single time, when I see those pictures, there is a stunningly beautiful bride, looking totally amazing. We are our own worst critics.

Try challenging those negative feelings. Was it really the 'worst' day of your life? You got married!