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Wedding guests cancelling on the day of wedding - very upset

Charlotte, 17 September, 2024 at 14:24 Posted on Just Married 0 1
I got married on Saturday - the day went well.


One issue I am struggiling to process and think clearly about has been people who cancelled at the last minute.
I was very, very upset on Friday evening after cancellations of a family of three (at 6pm) and another friend with a plus one (at 7pm) Both sent texts. I have not replied to either. Reasons were they have colds and did not want to spread it to others at the wedding.Another cancelled at 11am via text (friend and her husband) due to a headache on the day of the wedding as I was getting ready. I have not responded to her either.
Another plus one cancelled as there was no dog sitter and another plus one cancelled as his father was unwell. I did not mind these two and both called me and explained and I was understanding.


I still feel very hurt and disappointed by these cancellations. I have gone out my way throughout the course of our friendships to always be there for people to attend their celebrations, birthdays etc. I have started crying again thinking about it.
I am just sad more than angry. Our wedding was £300 a head which I appreciated was our choice.
Does anyome have any advice about how I can put this into perpective and move on? I do not want to speak too much to my new husband about it as he knewHow upset I was and I do not want him being more upset too.

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Latest activity by RomanticGreenStationery27135, 3 October, 2024 at 22:54
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    I've only just seen your post - I hope you are feeling better about this now.

    It sounds as if the cancellations you were upset about were the ones from the people who had colds. While it's upsetting that your friends weren't at your wedding, I actually think they were being very considerate by not coming. At most weddings, there are likely to be at least a couple of people who are in poor health/elderly/immunocompromised, and even a cold can be serious for someone who is frail. (Also, unless they have Covid tests to hand, they wouldn't know if it were more than a cold). I'd be gutted to miss a friend's wedding if I went down with a respiratory infection the day before, but at the same time, if I felt well enough to go and just turned up anyway, I'd feel really guilty about potentially making someone else really ill.

    If you are mostly upset because they texted instead of called, remember that again, this might have been them trying to be helpful. They may have assumed that you would be very busy and not wanted to take up your time with a phone call.

    Either way, it's not worth letting their absence spoil either your friendships or the memories of your wedding day. Focus on the good memories from your friendships and the good memories from your wedding. In time, the disappointment will fade.

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