2Nd discussion regarding dress

Hi, I’m looking for some advice. Me and my mum have now had a disagreement. The first one started when I was living at home. When I recently got engaged, my mum was saying in front of my fiancée that when we go bridal dress shopping, it’ll just be me, my mum and sister and that my fiancée mum has her own daughter to go bridal dress shopping with. When she addressed the situation again without my fiancée being present i told her the truth and said I wanted it to be me, her, my sister, his mum and sister to go together and choose a dress. She got really upset about it and ended up saying “it’s fine but I won’t be there” and because I’m not a confrontational person I then thought it could just be me and her for the first bridal shop we go to and then invite everyone else a long, just to make her happy. At first it was because she didn’t know his mum very well so we’ve spent time out together in hope she would change her mind. Now I’ve moved out the subject has come around again and even tho she keeps saying it’s my wedding and i can do what I want, when I told her what I wanted it caused another argument to the point I feel deflated about it. She also said she would help us by buying the dress. I get she doesn’t want other people’s input and opinions to influence my decision on the dress but I don’t know what to do.


Am I being selfish?