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Ajx
Dedicated April 2024 West Yorkshire

3 weddings in a weekend?

Ajx, 27 February, 2023 at 12:07 Posted on Planning 0 6

Hi all,

Sorry this might be long haha

We've found ourselves with 3 weddings in the same weekend in November and I am stresssssed.

Myself and my FH are bestman and chief bridesmaid for his all time best friend on the Saturday, we've known about the date for nearly a year and all has been well.


Fast forward to last night when my oldest school friend popped round and told me she's getting married and they've set the date for November. They are having an Asian wedding on the Friday of the same weekend and then an English wedding on the Sunday and we've been invited to both.


None of these wedding are close to each other and would require a lot of travelling, something my partner is saying is ok but as I'm CB and he's BM for the Saturday wedding I don't want to let them down and be late to their prep on the Friday night.


Is it unreasonable to say we'll just go to the Saturday and Sunday weddings and not attend the Friday wedding or should we just power through and go to all of them?

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Latest activity by Dmvnow, 17 August, 2023 at 14:22
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    VIP April 2022 Wiltshire
    Charlotte ·
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    I think that your idea of doing the Saturday and Sunday is more than reasonable. As you have major roles in the Saturday wedding then you cant commit to the Friday I am sure she will understand. is an unfortunate situation, but you have already committed to the other one which would involve Friday prep, which as the CB and BM you absolutely will be needed!

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    Expert July 2023 Cornwall
    Anonbride ·
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    I think your instinct is right and you need to decline the Friday. Regardless of how much you may or may not be needed on the Friday for prep, last minute panics, or anything else on that day, you'll likely have an early start on the Saturday being key members of the wedding party and you don't want to let your best friends down by being super tired, hungover or risking finding yourselves stuck if you have a nightmare travelling!

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    Beginner March 2018 New York
    Joshua ·
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    It's understandable to feel stressed and overwhelmed with three weddings in the same weekend, especially when you have important roles to play in one of them. Ultimately, the decision on which events to attend is yours and your partner's, but there are a few things to consider to help make the best choice.

    Firstly, it's important to prioritize the wedding where you have specific roles as the best man and chief bridesmaid. It would be best if you were available to support your friend throughout their big day, and being late or missing their prep could cause unnecessary stress and anxiety for them.

    Secondly, consider your own well-being and travel arrangements. It's okay to acknowledge that attending all three weddings could be stressful and exhausting, and it's reasonable to prioritize your own mental and physical health.

    Finally, communicate with your friend who is getting married on the Friday and explain the situation to them. It's important to be honest and upfront about your conflicting commitments, and they may be understanding and supportive of your decision.

    In conclusion, it's reasonable to attend the Saturday and Sunday weddings and skip the Friday wedding, but ultimately, the decision should be based on your priorities and what is feasible for you and your partner. MyAccountAccess


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    Dedicated June 2023 Essex
    Kirsty ·
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    I agree with the above. As you have committed to the Saturday one already and have major roles, that is your priority.

    You are still making an effort to be there for the couple on the Sunday, so they should understand why you cannot attend the Friday. It isn't like you are missing the whole wedding for this couple, you are just missing the Friday part due to a prior commitment. If they are friends, they will understand.

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    Beginner June 2023 Maryland
    Landstar ·
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    JONTY ·
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    Hello AJX,

    When faced with three weddings on the same weekend, it's important to communicate openly and honestly with all parties involved. Evaluate your priorities and discuss your concerns with your partner. Communicate with the couples getting married, expressing your excitement but also the logistical challenges you're facing. Explore alternative solutions such as attending the Friday wedding for a shorter duration or delegating responsibilities to others. Ultimately, decide based on what feels suitable for you and your partner while considering your commitments and well-being.

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