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Adding an extra bridesmaid after Covid

HappyBrownDecor8538, 28 July, 2020 at 22:25 Posted on Planning 0 4
Hi everyone



I really need some advice! We have had to postpone our wedding from July 2020 to Sept 2021 due to Covid. We got engaged in Aug 2018 and I asked my 3 bridesmaids pretty much straight away. My brothers wife is my maid of honour we are so so close shes like a sister to me, I also asked one of my bestfriends I met at University I was a bridemaid at her wedding and I'm also a godmother to her little boy and the other bridesmaid is my Fiance's sister we get on so well and shes really important to my Fiance. I wanted to keep it at 3 initially to keep the costs down as I have paid for bridesmaid dresses/hair/make up etc. It has been weighing on my mind pretty much since I asked my bridesmaids that I should have asked my other best friend from Uni as well. We are extremely close but lost touch after uni for a couple of years as she lives in London. Since we got engaged we have became really close again and talk all the time and always make the effort to see other. I really feel like I will regret not asking her to be my bridemaid but really worry that she will be offended that I didnt ask her when I asked everyone else. Covid has put things into perspective and makes me realise how important she is to me and how much I would love her to be a bridemaid.
I just worry she will be upset or think that I'm only asking her now because things have been postponed I dont want her to think she is an after thought. I don't know how to word it to her or how to even ask her? She is coming up this weekend with her boyfriend so I thought it would be a good opportunity to ask her then? Also means I need to get new dresses because they have all sold out and I can't get another one for her ?
How do you think I should go about it? Or do you think I've missed my chance and it will look bad?
Thank you!

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Latest activity by Octoberbridev.2, 30 January, 2021 at 21:35
  • MrsW
    Dedicated May 2022 South West London
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    It sounds like your relationship has changed since you first decided your bridesmaids, and I expect she feels that too. I would be frank and tell her that as you have gotten closer again more recently, you've been thinking of her more and more and say pretty much exactly what you say above:

    "I really feel like I will regret not asking her to be my bridesmaid... Covid has put things into perspective and makes me realise how important she is to me and how much I would love her to be a bridesmaid."

    I'd be touched if it were me. She can always just say no...

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    Beginner October 2021 Devon
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    This is my exact situation. We have been friends for years, lost touch for around 4 years but have got back to how we used to be and I feel like I will regret her not being there.


    I also already have the other 3 bridesmaid dresses which are sold out so would mean re-buying them!! Not a cheap decision - not idea what to do?!
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    Beginner September 2018
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    I asked my friend to be bridesmaid and she was over the moon it was so special asking her, she completely understood why I hadnt asked her initially! I was so nervous to ask her but I dont regret it at all! I need to buy new dresses but in the grand scheme of things her being by my side is more important! I'll try to sell the old dresses and put the money towards getting new ones hopefully!


    If shes really important to you and your close now and cant imagine drifting again, I would absolutely ask her! She will understand and will be so happy you asked! Go for it! X
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    Beginner October 2021 Devon
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    I asked her and she was so happy and I managed to find the original bridesmaid dress for her woop woop!! Thanks for your help, Kim so glad I did this ♡
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