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Gemma
Beginner September 2026 East London

Advice- Best Friends unable to attend my wedding

Gemma, 15 January, 2025 at 13:59 Posted on Off Topic Posts 0 25

I got engaged in September last year it was the most amazing day of my life- anybody that knows me it’s a day I have waited for all my life, through the ups and downs over the years through ex relationships I still knew my true love would eventually ask me to marry them!

A few months down the line I went out with my 3 closest friends explained we had got a date in mind for the wedding and advised them it would be a destination wedding as that’s where we got engaged it meant something to us. The dates we thought of were Sept 2026 however 2 of my friends are teachers and as soon as I mentioned the date they said no we can’t come to that went so off and quiet with me it was all so awkward. Everyone else I have invited can make it, my sister as a MOH and I have a close friend as a bridesmaid (who is my best friends cousin by the way makes things weird) ever since then things have just been awkward- my best friend has booked her wedding 2 months before mine now even though she wasn’t going to get married until 2027 however I am happy for her- I can’t help but feel like as they are not coming to my wedding, they haven’t even tried to seem bothered or asked me any questions they are just not interested. I don’t think it’s intentional as I’m sure deep down they are gutted they can’t make it however it all seems to be about my best friends wedding before mine as this is the wedding that everyone can attend. All the questions are for her, all the celebrations are for her! It just makes me sad a little like nobody cares for mine. I get subtle digs too like when she asked us to be bridesmaids she was saying I don’t understand how people can have a wedding and not have their closest friends there. It upsets me, it ruins the wedding planning for me, I sent them save the dates, I added them to my wedding list and I’m inviting them to the dress try on and the hen do’s and everything it just won’t be as special as they are not actually involved in my wedding. I even suggested a live stream too so they can watch the ceremony I wanted them to be as involved as possible but there just seems to be a lack of interest- any suggestions on how I could involve them more to make them feel more included that would be great?
I understand they are teachers, it’s hard to get time off or almost impossible! My partners friends are teachers and they have managed it some how, it’s the lack of trying for me they said no straight away (couldn’t of even faked it or said they would try) however I can’t ask everyone else that can make the wedding to pay double the price as 2 people can’t make it, plus August weddings make everything so much more expensive like the hotels alone! September is a special month for us and it’s what we as a couple wanted. People say that weddings are about the couple not everyone else don’t they?
Part of me also now feels a bit sour towards her wedding I shouldn’t feel like that it’s just how I feel and I’m trying to just forget about it and be happy for her but I just feel a bit low about the whole situation! The hen do’s will be awkward as I’m just not over the moon about the whole thing so I just feel stuck! Any advice or just someone who understands how I feel out there would be so comforting :-/ sorry to sound like a crazy bridezilla!











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Latest activity by Александр, 30 July, 2026 at 14:48
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    Genius July 2020 Monmouthshire
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    It sounds as if both you and your best friends are sad that they won't be able to attend your wedding.

    But the difference is that you are the person who has chosen to pick a venue and time that they cannot attend. There's nothing wrong with that - you have every right to pick a date and venue for your wedding that is 'special' to you, but it's unfair to pick a date that your friends have already told you in advance that they can't make and then feel 'sour' because they can't make it. You've prioritised a 'special' month and location over your friends being able to attend - that is your choice and you need to own it.

    It also feels a bit unfair to blame your friends for 'not trying' to get time off. Just because other people who are teachers have managed to get time off doesn't mean that your friends should also be able to get time off. Different educational establishments and different teaching roles have different rules. If your friends already knew that they would be unable to attend on the date you were considering, it would have been dishonest of them to lie to you and pretend that they might. Also, if you were only 'considering' the date at that point, they might have wanted to let you know immediately that they could not attend so that if their presence at your wedding was important to you, you could pick a different date.

    As for them being uninterested in your wedding, they may find it hard to talk about a wedding from which they have been excluded, even if they understand your reasons. Some people would find it comforting to be able to go to dress fittings etc under these circumstances, while others would just feel it was rubbing their noses in it.

    As for your friend choosing to move her wedding forward by a year, that almost certainly has nothing to do with you - people bring weddings forward for many different reasons - job changes, desire to start a family, concern that relatives won't be well enough to attend if the wedding is delayed or that a loved one with a terminal illness might die...the list is endless. Since most of the reasons are deeply personal, it wouldn't be surprising for someone to move their wedding date forward without giving a reason.

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    Hello,

    1. Acknowledge and Validate Your Emotions

    It’s natural to feel disappointed when you’ve dreamed about this day for so long, only to feel like some of your closest friends aren’t as involved. It’s okay to feel hurt—it shows how much these relationships mean to you. However, try not to let those feelings overshadow your joy for your wedding and your partner. This is your moment, and it’s important to center that joy.

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    2. Understand Their Perspective

    Teaching is one of the most demanding professions, and getting time off during term time can be nearly impossible, no matter how much they may want to be there. Your frustration may stem more from the lack of effort or engagement on their part, but it might help to recognize that their reaction could stem from guilt or disappointment in themselves. If they feel helpless about attending, they might unintentionally pull back emotionally.

    3. Set Clear Boundaries Around Comparisons

    It’s tough when your best friend’s wedding is overshadowing yours, but remember that these two events are not in competition. Your feelings of hurt and jealousy are valid, but don’t let them fester. You can be happy for her while still feeling a bit sad about your situation—it’s possible to hold both emotions.

    That said, if she’s making digs like the comment about “closest friends being at weddings,” you might consider addressing it gently. For example:

    “I understand it’s tough for you not to be there, but comments like that hurt because it makes me feel like you don’t value my choices or understand how important this is to me.”

    4. Look for Ways to Involve Them

    You’ve already gone above and beyond to include them with save-the-dates, hen do invitations, and even the livestream idea. If you want to try more:

    Personalized Involvement: Ask them for input on something small, like music playlists or ideas for guest favors. It could make them feel included without needing physical presence.

    A Special Role: Assign them a meaningful role they can fulfill remotely, like writing a heartfelt letter or video message to be read or played at the wedding.

    Post-Wedding Celebration: Plan a casual get-together after the wedding to celebrate with those who couldn’t attend. This could help bridge the gap.

    If you’ve tried these things and still feel the lack of effort on their end, it’s okay to step back and focus on those who are showing up.

    5. Protect Your Joy

    This is your wedding, and ultimately, it’s about you and your partner celebrating your love. While it’s disappointing that some people can’t be there, don’t let their absence diminish the magic of your day. Shift your focus to those who will be there and the beautiful memories you’re about to create. Surround yourself with supportive people who are excited for you.

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  • Gemma
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    Thank you for your interesting response… I take that on board- I don’t feel the need to comment on half of the stuff you have mentioned as I don’t really feel like you read my original post correctly but thank you I appreciate it!
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  • Micah
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    Congrats on your engagement! It sounds like you’ve put a lot of thought into making your wedding special despite the challenges with your friends. I know it’s tough when people can’t attend, but focusing on what makes you happy is what matters most. By the way, if you need a fun distraction during planning stress, I’ve been enjoying the Hill climb apk —a great way to unwind and clear your mind!

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    I'm really sorry to hear this, it must be so disappointing. Try to focus on the loved ones who will be there to celebrate with you. Perhaps you could plan a special dinner with your richard mille watches friends after the honeymoon to share the memories.

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    You’re not being a bridezilla at all — your feelings make total sense. It’s not just about them not coming, it’s the lack of excitement and involvement that hurts.

    Honestly, sometimes people pull back because they feel awkward or guilty they can’t attend. Instead of big expectations, try small ways to include them — ask opinions, share updates casually, keep it light. That can bring back some connection without pressure.

    At the same time, focus on the people who are showing up for you. That’s your real support right now.

    And when it all gets a bit overwhelming, taking a quick mental break helps more than you’d think — even something simple and distracting like a quick interactive game des tours en ligne avec progression rapide https://jeu-des-tours.fr/ can help you reset for a few minutes.

    You can feel hurt and still be happy for your friend — both are valid. Just don’t let this take away from your moment.

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  • Gemma
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    Thank you for your response...

    A lot has changed since I made this post. My teacher friends have now managed to book on for the weekend which of course is brilliant news as that is all I wanted. Now since that post my guest list has got smaller and smaller which was expected with a destination wedding. However it has gone from 50 to about 19 people and no doubt more are still going to drop out. One of my best friends came to see me yesterday and told me she was having a baby which was all very unexpected. Her and her partner of 7 months are now having a child due in November which is wonderful news. I am not entirely a baby person have no plans on having children. To me getting married is my baby that is all I have ever wanted. My other friend was also there advising she will be trying for a baby too so may not be attending.

    So again as happy as I am for them this whole situation was planned, was it done intentionally I don’t think so but I now booked my whole 2 week holiday around my ‘pregnant’ friends made sure I was sat next to them on the plane rather than my husband to be so they all felt included so now I am sat on my own on the plane. I booked rooms for them in the hotel so we were next to each other and organised all their hair and paid for it all. Booked some lovely restaurants and things to do for our week holiday and now it’s all just gone to rubbish again.

    Now I am in a predicament do I just remove them from being bridesmaids altogether they clearly aren’t coming even though they said they will try and I still need to get them maternity dresses and get them alerted which I am paying for. Now where do I go from here. I am so unhappy with the whole thing, most of the guests coming now are my partners friends I just have a few family members and it’s just embarrassing.

    Trying my best to stay positive but I am a really unhappy lonely bride.

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