Apologies for another Christmas post.
Ok so I said to H that I would really like christmas alone, 7 years out of 8 I have had H's mum at ours for dinner etc...this year I want to be alone, H and I have had a hard year and our relationship isn't great and we are trying to work on it and I can do without H's mum trying to interfere. I mentioned to H that would he tell his brother that we want to be alone this year, its just the one day, she can come Boxing day if she wants and that it would mean so much to us if we could be alone.
Fast forward to yesterday when H comes home to say that his brother is off to his Wife's friends house for Christmas day so we shall have to have MIL instead cos he doesn't want her there. H say that we are going to be alone, its just one day and he retorts "tough she ain't coming to us as we will be out, if you don't have her send her to Ireland where her cousin is, she will like that"
I am furious about it, BIL knows damm well we can't say that to MIL as she has a tendancy to try to commit suicide if she is lonley and to be quiet honest telling her something like that would tip her over the egde and it would be down to H and I to sort it out again like the last time she did it and the time before that. Don't get me wrong I normally cope with her being with us but I just want to do what I want to do for a change and not what others want me to do.
I don't think I am being unreasonable in my request but they obviously think I am ?
