AIBU?? Landlady related (again..)

I think she should lay down set rules if it's that big an issue for her rather than making passive-aggressive comments.

TBH I'd be looking for a new landlady ASAP. She seems to be the sort who will always think she is right, as its her house (which is fair enough) which is a pita for you. She sounds like a nightmare, some people want the lodgers (and therefore ££) but not the 'stuff' that goes with having lodgers.

Im glad its not just me

the problem is im in a bit of a job quandry, slight possibility I wont have a job in the new year (very slight) and if I do have a job dr shoes will be getting a job up here so will be moving back in with him - so not sure if its economically worth / feasible moving

Any one have a room to rent in the Ware / Hoddesdon area, I come with a bike (so need storage) and a car and a few pairs of shoes (?), I need to be as cheap as poss (paying two sets of rent) but not with a pyscho landlady or a hovel....

Too much to ask ??

Mostly 1 occasionally 2, Im happy to cook with her, she seems reluctant to though

WZS. I think you ought to negotiate something concrete; it may help to clear the air a bit. She needs to realise that you need adequate time every night to cook a meal, though.

Bit out of left field, but could you or the LL cook for all 3 of you on a couple of evenings?

But from what you've been saying about her behaviour overall, I think you need to start checking out house shares in the local paper. It sounds like she wants your money but not your presence, so you would probably be better off moving on.

Could you suggest that all three of you need to sit down (I seem to remember that you think Mr LL is more reasonable) to discuss how it works? Would time slots be the solution?

As some of the other posters have said, she wants the money of a lodger without the inconvenience of one. What she probably should have advertised for is a bloke who comes in late with a takeaway every night. What did you agree about using 'common' facilities before you moved in?

I don't think I could relax in a house with that much tension... She's probably not going to change, so I think if I were you I would probably look for somewhere else.

I am another one who would probably suggest that you share the cooking and cook for eachother - seems silly to me to cook twice if you could just share the chore?

Could you maybe come up with a rota?

If I was living with someone else I would try and have the best relationship as possible with them and if I could not achieve this, would probably move out.

I haven't seen your other posts though for all I know this woman could be a super freak ?

The only problem with us all cooking together is - they eat a lot of meat and I only eat fish and chicken - most of their meals are bolognaise, shepherds pie, steak, chilli etc from what Ive seen they eat very few vegetables (mainly potatoes) and I dont think I could eat like that

I tend to just have pasta with sauce or fish or chicken with vegetables in teh evening, lunches tend to be rice or couscous with vegetables

At the beginning they didnt say anything about not cooking or cooking at certain times

I think they said something about their previous lodger - they never saw him and he never eat in but then they said they wanted someone different to him...

Seems as you all say they want a lodger without having a lodger...

I have a feeling she will moan at me today, by the looks / sounds of it she has a day off (still in bed when I got up) and I was up early this morning (6) as I cycled in - Ive probably woken her up.. I will say tough, you wake me up at 5 every day normally so you cant have it both ways

Im considering other places but until I know whats happening with my job its going to be awkward as I might only want it for a few months...