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Katamari
Beginner August 2008

AIBU? PIL related.

Katamari, 6 August, 2008 at 20:43 Posted on Planning 0 20

PIL2b just rang and they want to come over next week for tea in the evening. H2b has already sort of agreed then told me after he came on the phone and I really don't want them to come.

My argument is that we get married on the Friday and we finish work on Tuesday. Therefore Monday and Tuesday we are probably not getting home till around 5ish or 6 in my case and I really don't want to be entertaining guests then. On the Wednesday its mine and H2bs last full day together before we get married so I wanted to go out for a nice lunch, just the two of us and have a coupley night in. On the Thursday our parents will be picking us up to take us to respective houses and on Friday - we get married!

The weekend is being spent cleaning and packing so that isn't really an option either. H2b thinks I am trying to avoid them, but I am trying (rather unsuccessfully!)to tell him that I don't deal well with stress and certainly don't need the hassle of people. I know I will be hell to live with next week as I am dreading being in the spotlight (although really looking forward to getting married!) and I need to try and stay chilled, which isn't going to happen with PIL2b around, albeit only for an evening.

What would you do?

(edited for spelling)

20 replies

Latest activity by lucylu, 7 August, 2008 at 09:24
  • Koobie
    Beginner September 2008
    Koobie ·
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    I understand where you are coming from. I felt the same as you before my wedding. How about seeing your PIL but explaining to them you can only see them for an hour or so?

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  • Katamari
    Beginner August 2008
    Katamari ·
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    They would have a bit of a drive to come and see us, so it would be a bit rude to chuck them out after only an hour. ☹️

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  • Spring
    Beginner February 2008
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    I think you ABU. They are probably going to be an hour, just to say hello. My Mum came up 2 days before and my MIL lived with us at the time. You can't stop for 1 hour and have a cuppa? What is it you think you will be doing?

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  • L
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    Well why dont you ask them to come to the lunch and then explain that you have loads of last minute thing to be getting on with etc to get them on their way?

    its better than having them at home with you as its always harder to get them to leave! lol. in a restaurant you can just get up once you have finished ?

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  • K
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    kentishbride ·
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    Personally i would agree with you. i wouldn't be wanting anybody round for dinner that week but i would maybe agree to lunch somewhere and then make excuses of things to do after 2 hours max. That way everyone is happy (sort of ?)

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  • Katamari
    Beginner August 2008
    Katamari ·
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    Oh I don't know, maybe I am overeacting and being a brat.

    After a day at work I am generally knackered and really don't want to enterain people. Also I really don't deal with stress at all well - I know its time I started - and was generally planning next week as just chilling out with a couple of glasses of wine after work and obsessivley double checking everything!?

    If PIL land, they will be here from about six till at least half nine as they have quite a drive to come over. I'm touched that they want to do it, but I know I will start panicking as all FIL2b has done lately is grill me on the finest details of the wedding.

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  • Spring
    Beginner February 2008
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    I saved all my stress up for the night before and then some of the girls on here had to calm me down ?. Mum took me out for a meal the night before and i calmed down. Could be worth it for you just to switch off for a bit

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  • Snow Patroller
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    I'd try for a compromise - meet somewhere for a coffee or something half way?? Although I'm sure they'd understand with it being a couple of days before your wedding if you ring and ask them to postpone it .....

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  • Spring
    Beginner February 2008
    Spring ·
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    I think they would even understand if you just gave them 10 mins and then left your H2B to it.

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  • Katamari
    Beginner August 2008
    Katamari ·
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    <brat strop> Why do you girls have to make me see sense?<brat strop>

    I'm going have to go and apologise to H2b for the tantrum I threw and pick my toys up aren't I??

    Merci beaucoup (I think!)

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  • Braw Wee Chanter
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    Yes you're BU. Not like you at all although I know you have a bit of a trip switch when it comes to PIL.

    *tip-toe* Maaaaaaybe they'd like to see their son for a couple of hours before his wedding day. Maaaaaybe they know that the actual day will be manic and they won't get chance to spend much direct time with him then. The may even like to see you too.

    *runs and hides before Katamari starts throwing dirty cutlery*

    x

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  • Katamari
    Beginner August 2008
    Katamari ·
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    Shurrup you, who asked for your opinion? <covers up thread title>?

    I'm going to finish my wine, then go and apologise <sigh>

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  • Braw Wee Chanter
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    Stop it now, that last fork just barely missed my eye ?

    x

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  • Katamari
    Beginner August 2008
    Katamari ·
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    Sorry petal - my aims a bit off today.?

    Ok - glass of wine empty, going to apologise. I HATE when I am sort of in the wrong!

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  • Braw Wee Chanter
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    You were aiming for my eye?! ?

    Good job you drank that wine else you'd be wearing it!

    Ok well good luck with H2B and erm, I love you really. But not really.

    x

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  • Spring
    Beginner February 2008
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    ?

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  • Katamari
    Beginner August 2008
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    You can pipe down as well.?

    H2b nearly dropped dead at my apology and I had to repeat it then swear on Brownie Guides honour that I wasn't winding him up. I hope you are all happy now!?

    God, I can't wait for this wedding to be over and done with then I can go back to normal(ish)!

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  • texasgirl26
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    texasgirl26 ·
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    Do I need to bring some body armour to do the getting ready photographs? ?

    Try not to worry, it will all fine on the day. If you need a diversion from PIL just tell them your photographer desperately needs to borrow you!

    TG

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  • Spring
    Beginner February 2008
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    Katamari that did make me laugh. Just like me, never quite completely in the wrong.

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  • Katamari
    Beginner August 2008
    Katamari ·
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    ?

    Oooh, I feel rather sheepish reading this back now - what a daft thing to get in such a tizz about!

    Thanks for all the replies that made me see sense (even BWC).?

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    On the Thursday night when your respective parents pick you up could you not all meet and either have tea together or a drink before you go your separate ways?

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