Inititially, we asked a shared friend (N) and FSIL to do our readings.
We asked FSIL mainly because my brother's in my wedding party, she isn't one of my bridesmaids and FH didn't want her to be a groomswoman, so we wanted her to feel included in some way.
N felt like the perfect choice as he's the mutual friend we met though, arguably he's closer to FH than me but wasn't close enough on either side to be in either of our small wedding parties, he was super excited but then it transpired our wedding clashed with his brother's! Ofc, he's going to his brother's and we completely understood.
We then decided to ask my friend J. This friend is a close friend of mine who's also probably travelling the furtherest so making the biggest effort to be at our wedding, is super charasamatic and a great public speaker. We thought it worked well having one from my side and one from FH's side.
Then FSIL said no, she didn't want to do a reading.
So that's put us in a bit of a pickle. We're keen to have two readings as we've found two readings that we like, and many of our friends have said that as a guest the readings are their favourite part of a wedding ceremony.
I suggested FFIL, given that FOB gets to do a speach so maybe FOG would like to do something too, but FH said his dad would definitely hate it.
FH looked through the close friends on his side of the list, and felt either they wouldn't like to do a reading or that they couldn't be trusted with a responsibility (looool).
He actually then suggested my friend B - also super charasmatic and I know would love it!
The next closest person we have to a shared friend is my K, who FH regularly hangs out with solo now, but K is very shy and softly spoken so that's why FH suggested B.
I'm worried that if we ask B, then both readers are my friends, in addition to our officiant being my friend. Outside of the context of N and J being our first choices, does it look bad that everyone speaking during our ceremony are my people?
We could ask K first, but I don't want him to feel like he has to say yes (he's a lovely people pleaser) and then either hate it or be so quiet the guests can't hear him... or we could potentially ask one of the groomsmen, but then that would mean J is the only person we're giving a 'job' to that we haven't honoured with a place in the wedding party... or we just ignore the issue of trying to even out the sides and just ask B as the best speaker?
