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Glassware hire
Sarah, 3 October, 2024 at 07:36

H there can anyone help with my glassware hire dilemma. We need to hire all wines glasses, champagne flutes etc and quotes are coming in really high. Please can anyone suggest alternatives or cheaper...

PhotographybyBillHad, yesterday at 22:32 1 8
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Favours
Nicole, 6 September, 2024 at 08:55

I have a feeling we won’t be allowed any food or drink related favours by our venue. What alternatives have people done?

PhotographybyBillHad, sunday 15-Sep-24 3 49
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Who pays for what?? Groomsmen and Bridesmaids
Holly, 29 August, 2024 at 14:52

Hi everyone, I am getting married in Madeira next year (my fiancé is originally from there 🤍) I need some advice on who pays for what? Groomsmen - we’re wanting to keep the suits very simple, light...

RomanticGreenStation, wednesday 11-Sep-24 28
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Am i required to ask guests to meal...?
PS, 4 September, 2024 at 08:59

Long story short. We originally planned to get married with only two of us, no family and friends at all. But last time when I was chatting with my co-worker, she said she would like to come. And just...

RomanticGreenStation, wednesday 11-Sep-24 1 31
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Seating Plans
Amy, 15 February, 2024 at 15:58

Can you all tell me how you are doing your seating plans for the top table for a small wedding please? We are having a maximum of 30 people for our ceremony and wedding breakfast and then up to 100...

Hannah, wednesday 11-Sep-24 4 130
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Maid of Honour gift dilemma
Alice, 31 July, 2024 at 21:17

Hi all, Looking for thoughts / advice for what is a reasonable gift to give the couple as a Maid of Honour, given that I've had to pay for everything related to my role in this wedding myself...

Ariane, monday 9-Sep-24 5 113
Alice
Kids activities - help I’m childless!
Alice, 27 August, 2024 at 11:25

Kids are very welcome at our wedding, and if they all come there will be around 5 toddlers around 2 years old and 3 girls between 9-11 years old. I’m trying to prepare as much as possible so they and...

Ruby, monday 9-Sep-24 1 57
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Lains Barn wedding
Sammy, 7 September, 2024 at 21:25

Hi all, I’m getting married at Lains Barn next March! Are there any Lains barn brides here?! If so where did you book for accommodation?!

Sammy, saturday 7-Sep-24 4
Katie
Shortened name on marriage certificate and vows?
Katie, 6 September, 2024 at 21:00

I'm christened Katherine but have always gone by Katie all my life. I'd like to go by Katie in the vows but when signing the paperwork does it have to be Katherine?

Katie, friday 6-Sep-24 13
Lianne
Guests and Plus Ones.
Lianne, 27 August, 2024 at 08:42

Hi all, I’m having a bit of a dilemma with the whole plus one situation. I’m wondering what the etiquette is when it comes to having guests plus ones only show up for the evening? For example, if I...

Lianne, wednesday 4-Sep-24 6 123 1
Darby
Bridesmaid issues
Darby, 24 August, 2024 at 16:55

Hey everyone, I’m having a really tough time. I have chosen my bridesmaids and they have all agreed which is amazing, two of them live abroad and have said they are happy to travel for the wedding....

Nicole, wednesday 4-Sep-24 1 63
Lianne
Double Barrel Surname Signature.
Lianne, 27 August, 2024 at 08:24

Hi all, my fiancé and I have decided to double barrel our surnames once we get married to keep my family name going as I’m the only child. I’m struggling to form a signature because it’s quite a long...

Lianne, tuesday 27-Aug-24 2 27 1
Lianne
Double Barrelled Signatures
Lianne, 25 August, 2024 at 22:52

Hi all, my future husband and I have decided we want to double barrel our surname when we get married. I am struggling to find a signature that works for the double barrel as it is quite long...

Lianne, sunday 25-Aug-24 8
Haley
Dad can't make it to my wedding
Haley, 17 August, 2024 at 09:59

Hi all, hoping to get some ideas. We are getting married in the UK i'm originally from NZ. Due to health and other reasons my dad can't make it over. He hasn't actually told me this, but i know he...

Esther, saturday 24-Aug-24 1 36
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Bridesmaid help!
C.e.h, 19 August, 2024 at 19:43

Hello, this is going to be really long so bare with and thank you for reading and any advice you give if you reach the end!x I’m looking for some advice on a situation I’m really struggling with. I am...

C.e.h, monday 19-Aug-24 57
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Colleagues at your wedding...
Emma, 8 August, 2024 at 11:30

Hi all, Please help! I've had my first wedding melt down today and spent the start of the working day crying in the toilets over whether to invite a specific colleague to my wedding. I work in a small...

Hayley, thursday 15-Aug-24 3 119
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Bridesmaids selection
Holly, 24 July, 2024 at 19:16

I've been asked to be bridesmaids for someone... but i wouldn't choose them as my bridesmaid. I get married couple of years after them but how can I not ask them to be bridesmaid when I am there's......

Shay, tuesday 13-Aug-24 2 76 1
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Wedding Invites
Louise, 5 August, 2024 at 21:44

Just wondering if anyone else has been in this situation as I'm getting stressed and anxious, I sent out my wedding invitations over a week ago, I understand they have a while to RSVP by but I really...

Shay, tuesday 13-Aug-24 2 77
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Videos after videographer left
Dee, 7 September, 2023 at 16:30

Hi all! I got married a few weeks ago and we had a great videographer there. We paid for 10 hours so they left towards the end of the night, after the party had stated. Right at the end of the night,...

Haider, saturday 10-Aug-24 2 183
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Suprise Hen for mil
Sarah, 31 July, 2024 at 15:46

I'm getting married in couple months and I have been invited to a hen party called "SURPRISE Mother of the Grooms hen evening". I have been invited to this event as a guest with no prior warning or...

RomanticGreenStation, wednesday 7-Aug-24 1 73
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Hen do planning
Laura, 4 August, 2024 at 10:51

Looking for advice. I have been planning my own hen do which I totally regret. It’s been so stressful chasing people and trying to get everyone involved. I either don’t get responses or people are now...

RomanticGreenStation, wednesday 7-Aug-24 1 32
Abby
Social media uploads on wedding day
Abby, 1 June, 2024 at 19:05

Hello girls Has anyone had to navigate through the fine line of guests posting pictures of you on social media on your wedding day?!! I don’t have a problem with people taking pictures together or of...

Kurki, friday 2-Aug-24 13 714 1
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Bridesmaids faff
Christine, 26 May, 2024 at 23:08

I am having a bit of a panic as to whom I should ask to be my bridesmaid or whether I should even have any at all! I don’t have a strong girl friend circle ( although I have lots of girlfriends, just...

Katrina, thursday 1-Aug-24 14 651
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Family pregnancy announcement
Nicholas, 5 January, 2024 at 08:44

Hi I’m looking for some advice. My fiancé and I are planning a September wedding in France mainly with family and some of our friends. His family will be travelling over from Canada. We have found a...

Gastino, thursday 1-Aug-24 79
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Son of the Bride- Bride Escort
Donna, 10 June, 2024 at 10:12

I love my dad very much but ive always said my son would walk me down the aisle. He'll be 23 by the time we get married. I have two queries.. is there anything I can have my dad do so that he doesn't...

Christian, friday 19-Jul-24 3 60
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Food for photographers etc.
Aimee, 15 February, 2024 at 14:24

Hi all What is the appropriate etiquette for providing food for people you have hired? We have two photographers and a videographer (or two, not sure yet). The photographers have said they don't...

Ben, friday 19-Jul-24 20 801 2
Hattie
Can i send a fax from my phone?
Hattie, 17 July, 2024 at 05:39

Hi, I’m frequently on the go and don’t always have access to a computer. Is there a way to send faxes directly from my phone?

MadilynBrooks, wednesday 17-Jul-24 64
Betty
Can i invite my best friends only to reception?
Betty, 9 July, 2024 at 08:50

Hi, we are planning to get married next year, it will be very small wedding, maybe 10 people, as my fiance is very anxious socially. My firends know he does not go with me to any social events, I...

RomanticGreenStation, tuesday 9-Jul-24 1 58
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Colours to go with royal Stewart tartan
LuxuriousGoldDecor707, 25 June, 2024 at 14:03

I’m not the creative kind of person! I’m really struggling to think of a colour to go with royal Stewart tartan that my partner will be wearing! Absolutely not red! I thought maybe yellow with it...

SunnyPurpleFlowers85, monday 8-Jul-24 1 26
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Symbolic Ceremony in Italy
Claire, 11 March, 2023 at 18:42

Hi all, my parter and I will be getting married in the UK with family and then hoping to have a "celebration" wedding in Italy with friends but I really want to keep it simple and book somewhere in or...

Rebecca, friday 5-Jul-24 2 50 1
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Wedding party issues
Rachel, 2 July, 2024 at 14:19

My fiancé has a neice who will be 15 at the time of our wedding and we would love for her to either be a bridesmaid or my fiancé's best woman, as we know she take the role very seriously, however he...

RomanticGreenStation, thursday 4-Jul-24 1 67
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Thoughts on doing your own videography?
Fiona, 2 July, 2024 at 06:02

My partner and I really love the idea of a GoPro being passed around on our day interviewing family members and being set up to record key moments like speeches and ceremony. Has anyone had experience...

RomanticGreenStation, wednesday 3-Jul-24 2 34

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