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Colours to go with royal Stewart tartan
LuxuriousGoldDecor707, 25 June, 2024 at 14:03

I’m not the creative kind of person! I’m really struggling to think of a colour to go with royal Stewart tartan that my partner will be wearing! Absolutely not red! I thought maybe yellow with it...

Vernon, saturday 25-Jul-26 18 283
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Celebrant wedding
Shelley, 27 January, 2024 at 22:35

Hello, I like the idea of a celebrant wedding, but do you have to do the legal bit before hand, or can you have a celebrant wedding and get married after ?

Manisha, friday 24-Jul-26 48 979
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Food for photographers etc.
Aimee, 15 February, 2024 at 14:24

Hi all What is the appropriate etiquette for providing food for people you have hired? We have two photographers and a videographer (or two, not sure yet). The photographers have said they don't...

Pet, wednesday 22-Jul-26 49 2,024 2
Caitlin
Social media uploads on wedding day
Caitlin, 1 June, 2024 at 19:05

Hello girls Has anyone had to navigate through the fine line of guests posting pictures of you on social media on your wedding day?!! I don’t have a problem with people taking pictures together or of...

Aces, monday 20-Jul-26 63 2,671 1
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Sister in-law dress drama
Sydney, 24 August, 2025 at 14:18

My sister in law has said she wants to wear a bold Red dress when my colours are baby blues and blush pinks / oranges. Shes doing this to cause drama how would you handle it or am i being OTT?

Emma, thursday 16-Jul-26 14 233
Jessica
Vow renewal celebrant speech
Jessica, 30 April, 2025 at 20:21

We are renewing our wedding vows in September and having a friend as the celebrant. Trying to find a speech for the celebrant and they are either very good oriented or plan throwing up 🤣. I want them...

Richard, friday 10-Jul-26 2 24
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Invitations - who to send to!
Eve, 26 May, 2025 at 16:54

Hello, I’m just wondering if anyone sent any of their vendors invites and if so why? I’ve seen our photographer receive some on her Instagram stories sometimes and wondered if this is the done thing!...

Kathy, friday 10-Jul-26 1 22
Eleanor
Reassurance/clarity needed
Eleanor, 24 May, 2025 at 21:27

Looking for some clarity on how my mother in law has been acting and if I’m overreacting by being so stressed by it So we started planning our wedding nine months ago and we are two weeks to the big...

Kathy, friday 10-Jul-26 1 36
Vikki
Expensivd
Vikki, 24 May, 2025 at 16:24

I’m seeing that prices for venus is more expensive for 2027 than 2026 , is this normal? Will the prices for 2027 likely come down next year

Kathy, friday 10-Jul-26 1 17
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Should i ask to be bridesmaid even though we're not best friends anymore?
Kell, 17 September, 2023 at 11:37

I'm literally agonising about the decision to ask another friend to be a bridesmaid (I've already chosen my others quite easily). We were best friends when we were at school, she knows my family and...

Kathy, friday 10-Jul-26 3 467 1
Lucy
Skylark country club administration
Lucy, 16 July, 2023 at 11:08

Anyone getting married there next year? Have you heard anything about your date from them yet? What are your thoughts with everything going on recently?

Maya, monday 6-Jul-26 9 362
Faye
No plus one desitination wedding?
Faye, 25 March, 2024 at 14:04

We are planning a destination wedding in South Africa, and are only wanting close family to come. This is due to the cost as we are paying for the full 3 day event in a game reserve ourselves for...

Maya, monday 6-Jul-26 5 118 1
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Hen do planning
Laura, 4 August, 2024 at 10:51

Looking for advice. I have been planning my own hen do which I totally regret. It’s been so stressful chasing people and trying to get everyone involved. I either don’t get responses or people are now...

Antony, wednesday 1-Jul-26 5 137
Zoe
Documentation for giving notice - German marrying British
Zoe, 26 September, 2022 at 16:20

Hi all, Hopefully someone can offer some insight as we’re getting mixed messages and info online. My fiancé is a German citizen with a German passport but has settled status. I am British and we live...

Fast, sunday 28-Jun-26 9 106
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Vendor - any advice, I'd really appreciate it!
Jenny, 4 April, 2025 at 12:36

Hi, I'm getting married in 4 months & we paid a vendor to decorate our wedding venue. Sunday - I emailed with some reimbursement questions, received a bounce back. Checked their website and it's...

Roccojasper, friday 26-Jun-26 10 241
Nicole
Wedding budget
Nicole, 16 July, 2023 at 21:23

Hi, It’s coming to the time where I need to put down a deposit for a wedding venue. I have one I really like but it’s quite expensive and we’d have to take a loan out to pay it all off. I’ve seen...

Marryme, wednesday 24-Jun-26 11 606
Jess
Bridesmaid help
Jess, 30 April, 2026 at 13:51

Both my fiancé and I have chosen five people each for our wedding party. One of his groomsmen has a girlfriend who isn’t in my top five choices for bridesmaids. However, the four of us are part of the...

Donald, tuesday 23-Jun-26 4 90
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Managing family without being a bridezilla?
T S, 26 September, 2023 at 16:35

I have a problem. My sister is two years older than me, and happily lives alone with her dog. She has never shown any interest in having a romantic partner, which is absolutely fine. However, any time...

Adrian, wednesday 17-Jun-26 9 272 1
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Walking yourself down the aisle?
Sarah, 28 January, 2023 at 18:08

I have always intended to walk down the aisle by myself. My dad died in 2011, and so to me, there was never any other option. I’m a strong woman, very independent, and always have been. My sister got...

sahilverma3, wednesday 17-Jun-26 6 509
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Thoughts on doing your own videography?
Fiona, 2 July, 2024 at 06:02

My partner and I really love the idea of a GoPro being passed around on our day interviewing family members and being set up to record key moments like speeches and ceremony. Has anyone had experience...

Babita, tuesday 16-Jun-26 5 75
Janet
Web site help
Janet, 13 April, 2024 at 13:39

Is it possible to add more than one dropdown option for menu choices? I have a menu with a choice of starters , mains and desserts and i cant see a way to do this. I have added and amended the...

Lana, monday 15-Jun-26 2 51
Harriet
Save the dates questions!
Harriet, 18 February, 2024 at 12:28

Hi, We are so excited because we booked our venue in Italy for October 2025! When would you suggest we send out the save the dates? We thought we would do it around April of this year so that there is...

Eric, wednesday 10-Jun-26 25 878 2
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Maid of Honour gift dilemma
Alice, 31 July, 2024 at 21:17

Hi all, Looking for thoughts / advice for what is a reasonable gift to give the couple as a Maid of Honour, given that I've had to pay for everything related to my role in this wedding myself...

Willium, monday 8-Jun-26 9 228
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Wedding date dilemma
Daria, 27 August, 2023 at 11:11

Hey all! Looking for some advice here… My partner and I have been discussing wedding plans but have not formally set a date yet. We have been looking into a venue for April next year but have not...

Leoparker, friday 5-Jun-26 8 700
Cazpot88
Photography payments
Cazpot88, 20 February, 2024 at 18:04

Hey beauts, need some advice We found a photographer on Facebook who charge different amounts depending on how many hours you wantThey've already sent me their bank details for the deposit, which is...

Abdul, thursday 4-Jun-26 14 264
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Registrar and celebrant at the wedding
Elouise, 18 January, 2026 at 12:17

Hello! I’m getting married in October and we wanted to do a handfasting and unity candle for our ceremony, I’ve ready that registrars can’t perform these as the legal and belief aspects needs to be...

Elouise, sunday 31-May-26 7 90
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Wedding party issues
Rachel, 2 July, 2024 at 14:19

My fiancé has a neice who will be 15 at the time of our wedding and we would love for her to either be a bridesmaid or my fiancé's best woman, as we know she take the role very seriously, however he...

Mohsin, sunday 31-May-26 3 118
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Partner invites/plus ones
Paul, 3 February, 2026 at 13:25

So up until this point its been stress free! Now the invites have gone out, its flipped and its stressing me out. What are peoples thoughts on inviting family members partners?? Basically, we're...

CarmenCHunt, saturday 30-May-26 6 111
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Hen party dropouts
Estina, 21 September, 2023 at 05:52

Out of all of my friends, I am the very last person to get married. I will be 40 next month. Most of my mates have been married for 10-13 years already. Have the kids, the house, you name it. I was...

KiIlass, friday 29-May-26 8 1,369
Sophia
Handling nightmare/overbearing family
Sophia, 23 August, 2023 at 01:36

So, I only just got engaged, I’m talking a few days ago and my fiancés mother is already a nightmare. Making little comment to the point we don’t even want to properly announce it anymore. She’s also...

Mohsin, tuesday 19-May-26 14 447 1
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Cash Bar?
Gracef, 11 August, 2022 at 21:18

I’m just looking for some advice really. I was chatting to a member of the family about the wedding the other day and mentioned that it’s a cash bar. He was shocked and looked at me horrified and said...

Mahi, saturday 9-May-26 21 1,341 2
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Glassware hire
Sarah, 3 October, 2024 at 07:36

H there can anyone help with my glassware hire dilemma. We need to hire all wines glasses, champagne flutes etc and quotes are coming in really high. Please can anyone suggest alternatives or cheaper...

Julia, friday 8-May-26 4 131

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