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H & B
Beginner July 2025 Northamptonshire

Wedding Date Clash

H & B, 2 December, 2024 at 22:04 Posted on Etiquette and Advice 0 6
Hi All!! This is my first post and I’m looking for some advice on a potential wedding date clash…
We got engaged in November and have just started looking at planning/venues. Ideally we’d like to be married next year in 2025 (I’m aware it will be a lot of planning but we don’t really want to wait until 2026 as we want to try for a baby asap after the wedding)
There’s a venue we really like and are going to view this week. If we like it, they have late availability for a Saturday in May for £5k instead of £8.25k which is a huge saving for us, we’re also considering a Friday in November for the same price so to me the Saturday in May seems a no-brainer (apart from trying to plan a wedding in 6 months)We will also be looking at other venues with late availability but as we want to use an external catering company and the options for this seems so limited
My potential issue is I asked my bridesmaids to be if the May and November dates work for them and one came back saying it’s their Partners 30th birthday that date and they already have plans and will be on holiday.I spoke with our mutual friends and they think she would cancel their plans to come to the wedding if we did hold it on that date, but I still feel uneasy asking her to do this (even if not directly asking I am essentially asking her to do this). She’s one of my best friends and I can’t imagine her not being there. Any ideas please? Now I have the idea of a sunny May wedding, November just seems like a comprise which I don’t like for my wedding day x

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Latest activity by Babita, 12 March, 2026 at 13:09
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    Genius July 2020 Monmouthshire
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    That's such a tough one. I don't think you can assume that your friend will cancel her plans if you pick the may date, so you need to think about that when making your choice. So it looks as if you can't have the venue you want, the date you want AND your friend being bridesmaid. I would suggest spending some time thinking through each option and imagining best and worst case scenarios before making a choice.

    E.g. you might pick the May date and then have horrible weather - or have an unexpectedly good day weather-wise in November.

    You might pick a different venue or date to accommodate your friend and then she gets flu the day before and can't come.

    If you do decide to pick the May date, I would suggest ringing your friend to explain why - hopefully, she will understand that you can't pick a date that doesn't work well for you just so that she can come. You could still include her in pre-wedding events and also she might be able to join the ceremony online so that she can still be there virtually. I know it's not the same, but better than nothing.

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  • PhotographybyBillHaddon
    VIP January 3000 Leicestershire
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    Depends if your friend has already booked her holiday to some extent but the problem I see is finding a venue that will let you have your own caterers - this will drastically narrow down your venue options. so trying to tie a venue in with your friend is going to be tricky. I am nearby in Leicester and know a could of venues that allow outside caterers.

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  • Martin
    Curious March 2024 West London
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    You might pick a different venue or date to accommodate your friend and then she gets flu the day before and can't come.

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  • JackTheCool
    Curious July 1985 West Yorkshire
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    This is such a delicate situation because it touches both practical planning and emotional bonds. Wanting a specific date and season is completely understandable, but it’s also clear how much your friendship means to you. Open communication might help here, without pressure or expectations, just honesty about how you feel. Moments like this often reveal a lot about priorities and balance within close relationships especially when big life events overlap. Whatever you decide, choosing with empathy and clarity will likely bring you the most peace on your wedding day.


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