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Alternative to bridesmaids?

Lydia, 26 April, 2022 at 01:31 Posted on Planning 0 5

Hello all! I'm getting married in summer 2023 so in the early planning stages.

I don't know what to do about bridesmaids! I have at least 5 friends and 4 cousins that I'm close to and would feel awkward choosing some without the others. I also know that some of the friends aren't very "girly" and would hate having to wear a particular dress and help me get ready, or even plan a hen do. I have other friends who I'm not quite as close to but I know would love to help me pick a dress or plan a hen do.

I have 2 additional younger cousins that I plan to have as flower girls.

Is there an alternative where I can still include my special friends in their own ways without having a group of 9 bridesmaids and all the expectations that go with them?

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Latest activity by Km86, 26 April, 2022 at 19:38
  • Ajx
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    I'm having my little brother and sister as flower girl and page boy but between me and my partner we have 6 godchildren and I really wanted them to be a part of the day without having too many children in the wedding party, so I'm going to have them as my something blue! They'll be wearing a little something blue/full blue outfit, whatever their parents decide, but we wanted them to be involved in some way. Is that something you could do with your friends? Not specifically bridesmaids so dont have the expectations but they are still a part of your day in a way.

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    Expert July 2023 Cornwall
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    I had some guys that I desperately wanted to be involved - one is my MOH as he is quite girly! The others are not girly guys at all so they are ushers instead of bridesmen meaning they are "Team Bride" but they won't be doing all the girly getting ready stuff on the morning and instead acting as greeters and are optionally welcome to any bridesmaid pre-wedding events that they want to get involved in (FH is currently debating whether he wants groomsmen at all, so may just have his one Best Man, but if he does have groomsmen too we'll either band them together with the ushers or split up some day of jobs between them). The other non-traditional role I've gone for is one of my other male friends is going to be our officiant! I'm really excited about it and so is he, but appreciate you might want a more traditional minister and it's a particular kind of person that's confident enough to take on that role!

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    That sounds brilliant! I love this idea!

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    Expert July 2023 Cornwall
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    Thank you!! Smiley heart

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  • Km86
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    I would just have the 2 little ones and no big bridesmaids, let them know you've done it to make it fair. You dont want 9 bridesmaids!
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