Am I being a bridezilla?

I agree with Venart. Fair enough dictate on the dress, but if she feels uncomfortable with her make up a certain way then thats fair enough. Not everyone likes having their make up done by other people. If shes being awkward for the sake of it then have a word, but it might just seem that way to you as its your wedding.

I think asking someone to dye their hair is very bridezilla-ish I'm afraid!

WSS. You should appreciate your friend for who she is. Why should a wedding be a sombre colour matching affair? As long as you are surrounding by happy friends and family, surely that's all that matters. I don't see why her hair colour, style and make up should ruin your day????

Even on the dress front, I think she is allowed to express her opinion but if that's what you decide then she should go along with it.

You are and you aren't.

With regards to the dress, if you're paying for them, then she should accept what you've chosen. She did agree to be BM after all.

However, you have no right to dictate what she can and cannot do with her hair, and as others have rightly said, you knew her personal sense of style when you asked her.

When of my BMs is a real 'rock chick', and her hair is always dyed black with streaks of another colour (currently hot pink), and she said to me, "don't worry, I'll dye it a sensible colour for the wedding." I told her, "don't be silly, I asked you because you're you, and I want you to be YOU on the day."

I know I am repeating what most people say.......but I'm going to all the same. I've read quite alot of posts on here along these lines and I just think it's all a bit over the top.

Surely you ask people to be bridesmaid/flower girl/best man/usher etc etc because you love them and want them to share in your special day? That should be the end of it - their hair colour is wrong, their shoes don't match etc etc - it's not important!

Or maybe I'm just a bit too un-bridezilla?! ?