Sorry if this is a bit of a rant! After getting engaged in September 2013, my fiancé and I booked our wedding last July for August 28th this year. A few weeks after we booked everything, my older sister got engaged. I was really happy and excited for her, and even though I never asked her to she told me that she wouldn't dream of getting married before me because my wedding was already booked etc etc. She said she wanted a winter wedding so was looking at Feb 2016, 6 months after me
A few weeks later, she called me to say the venue she liked had a special offer for Feb this year and would I mind if she booked it, she even said "even though it's before you the two weddings are 6 months apart so it shouldn't affect you". I told her this was fine. She didn't book this and instead announced a few weeks later that they'd actually decided to get married FIVE WEEKS before me, in Spain. I'm not going to lie, I was a bit annoyed, especially because she knew I wanted to use my entire annual leave from work for our honeymoon and go away for 4 weeks, and now I couldn't because I needed more time off to go to Spain for her wedding. But I never said anything, I didn't want to sound petty so we just dealt with it. I should point out she did offer to pay for me and my fiancé to go to her wedding because it was so close to ours funds would be tight (they earn a lot more than us!) which I thought was very nice of her and we were grateful for this
Now despite the fact I'd told everyone our wedding date before my sister even got engaged, two of my half sisters have now told my parents (but haven't bothered to tell me) that they probably won't go to my wedding because they are going to my sister's and won't be able to get enough time off work for both. Understandably, this upset me a little bit. Also, I don't mean to sound petty, but with my sister's wedding being first it's almost like mine isn't happening. Because all anyone is talking about is my sister's, maybe when that's over I will have five weeks of my family showing an interest in mine, but she's had a year. Again, I haven't wanted to say that out loud incase it sounds childish and spoilt so I've kept my mouth shut
This week I decided to start planning my hen do. Bearing in mind, when I got engaged I asked my sister to be my MOH. When she got engaged, she told me she wasn't having a MOH because she has two step-daughters so it wouldn't be fair. Again, I was fine with this. She also said she didn't want a hen do, and I realised she wouldn't be planning mine for me or doing any real MOH duties because she'd be too busy planning her own wedding. Again, no problem.
I'd always wanted to go abroad for my hen do and never made a secret of this. I decided I would have my hen do in May because it would be too much having it closer to the two weddings. I thought this would be fine. Then first of all my sister said she might not come because she's got too much going on and "hen dos aren't really her thing". My mum then said she doesn't think she can because "it's all just more money and they need to save for Spain for my sister's wedding". My hen do is £180 for 4 days all inclusive, I even offered to pay for her but she says she thinks I should just not bother and save the money. Save it for Spain presumably. I don't mean to sound like a brat but I just feel like screaming at them - I didn't ask my sister to plan a wedding abroad five weeks before mine!!
Am I being over sensitive or would anyone else be getting fed up at this point?
