Am I odd, lol? Hen party opinions

Me! We hired two cottages in the Peak District and our "activities" included making pizzas, making cocktails, rambling to a real ale pub, having a BBQ, having a quiz and some Playstation-based karaoke. There were little traditional hen gifts and a few dares but that was it. Nobody, as far as I can tell wore any make-up nor any heels for the entire weekend

In his speech, Boy credited it as "the most middle-class hen do he'd ever heard of".

You arent odd! Mine was coastering and zip wire in the day, and a nice meal in the evening - not a penis in sight!!

On the flip side my friends hen do 3 weeks later was a full weekend away with penis' everywhere you looked - whatever makes you happy! ;-)

My weekend hen was like this. Although we did have a 'make a wedding dress out of tin foil' competition. That was fun. People were mostly in swimwear as we had a pool, hot tub and sauna.

I did have a tacky night out too though!

Not at all! The last thing I wanted was a stripper, veil and L plates. I did get willy straws though. If you don't want it then say so, it's your hen and you have to enjoy it.

All these hen do's sound lovely. That's the sort of thing I want to do too. Sounds like loads of fun. For me its previous girly time :-)

This sounds exactly like the hen do I have been instructed to organise for my soon-to-be sis in law, and it sounds great! I would like something like that for mine too, which will be about 6 months later.

I've been very clear with my MOH that will be no strippers, penis's or L plates anywehre near my hen night. We are hiring a big house in bournemouth, having a slumper party on the friday night the polayuing laser quest and going to a comedy club on the saturday with a bit of clubbing afterwards but nothing wild. Then a nice pub lunch or day at the seaside depending on weather. I did want a spa break but not many of my friends could afford it and as i live in another country i wanted all my friends to come along.

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My hen night will be 3 nights in benedorm but that's just because I've never really been abroard or done the girly holiday thing, the only thing I've put my foot down on is a stripper, I would be mortified and probably leave the room to cry lol, just pleased my MOH who is arranging it feels the same way phew.

You're not strange at all! I came home from my hen weekend on Sunday an it was exactly like I wanted. Four of us went to York, rented a house by the river, drank a few cocktails, did a chocolate making class, some shopping and ate some lovely food. The main thing I wanted was a weekend where everyone did things they wanted, nice and relaxing and not all 'me me me'! And thankfully there were no veils, L plates, sashes, matching t shirts, rounds of sambucca, strippers or butler's in the buff. The weather was fantastic, and it was perfect!

Not odd at all! In fact the three hen parties I've been to recently have all been willy-free ?

I'm even more boring - I don't want a hen party! I just know I would absolutely hate having one!

Me also!

Ive just been told about a chocolate making workshop with treasure hunt and afternoon tea and it sounds to die for.

My sister had exactly that for her hen night - a lovely spa retreat with treatments and a meal. No willy straws or inflatable cocks - and it was just as good as a p1ss up!

I am the same I want a quiet meal with all my friends and family. I am not a drinker, and when I do drink I get tipsy very easily. I want to remember the night but I have had good messy nights. Everyone to their own.

I want both, I'm planning on some fun activity in the day, then a willy filled night out in the evening, people can pick and chose which part they want to join in with, and I get to do both. But I certainly don't think your strange, plastic willys and L plates aren't for everyone!

I'd prefer something a bit more subdued- I don't mind a bit of willyness but not in public,lol ! The thought of having to parade around in a veil and L-Plates fills me with dread...but I still hav'nt made up my mind what I'm doing yet!

I'm big into the fetish scene and work part time in the adult entertainment industry (no, I'm not what you're thinking!!) so I'm clearly far from a prude but the idea of giant inflatable penis prizes and pink, fluffy, tacky crap makes me feel physically queesy.

Each to their own but it's really, REALLY not me at all and my moh keeps teasing that she'll have at least one pink fluffy thing and I really hope that she "gets me" when I explain that it's a plain NO.

My idea is that we'll spend the evening at my house with lots of alcohol and play drinking games along to various films. Then the next day when we roll out of bed around 12 we get refreshed and go for lunch, followed by bowling and arcades, then a casual night out but not a late one. Then on Sunday my uncle is coming round to give everyone reiki massages as he's a professional.

I've made sure that there's no girly stuff mainly because it's not my style and two of my bridesmaids are male.

Me! I wanted a nice evening out having dinner and a theatre trip, which is what I had. The girls from work pimped it up a bit and we went out to a late night bar afterwards, but no penises, handcuffs, L plates etc. I did accept sashes and pink balloons, but anything else was banned!

I'm booked my do through Orchid City & Spa (apologies if I'm not supposed to name companies). Staying in a 4* spa hotel & going for a nice meal in the evening. My MOH is under strict instructions not to end my night in a club because I hate them & tend to have panic attacks in crowds (especially after a few drinks!)

This all sounds perfect to me. A bit of middle-class drunkeness and then a good night out filled with lots of dancing. (No penis related items allowed though)

I personally wouldn't want a stripper, L plates, t-shirts etc but I think it's odd to have a hen do you don't want! I had to tell a BM in no uncertain terms if she brought along a stripper I'd be upset, I'm happy to do it for her hen when it's hers, but I don't fancy it!

I find most male strippers look cheesy, unattractive and generally quite greasy and unappealing so I wouldn't want one either.

I feel the same way! Quite a way off yet but we're thinking of having a nice afternoon tea somewhere and maybe some time in a spa. Just nice and quiet and relaxing. The dreaded L plates and inflatables fill me with fear!

You're not odd at all! I have no idea what I'm doing (BMs have organised it all!) but I know it won't involve strippers, L Plates, willy straws, veils etc. It's the only thing I've stressed about it, the rest is up to them (and I trust them to stick to it - CBM said the same for her hen and we abided by her wishes and had an amazing time). My only concern is my work colleagues want a night out with me before the wedding and judging by what they did to another girl in the summer I need to be afraid!

My MOH hired a converted barn in the middle of nowhere and we played games (she got ones from my childhood and some more traditional hen ones), watched girlie films, painted nails, and she organised a lady to come and paint pottery with us. It was perfect for me and I actually had a number of friends tell me they were rethinking what they would like to do for their hens when their time comes as they said it was nice being able to enjoy the whole weekend without being hungover! You're not odd at all for not wanting a big night out!

I just put the laptop on to find ideas for my hen night. Thank you so much everyone, I no longer feel wrong by NOT wanting a big night on the tiles!! Love the idea of renting somewhere to stay and just discovering the area, eating good food and just a few drinks. I'm not a big drinker, but some of my friends are - well, it's my hen and I'll do as I please! (sounds a bit bridezilla!)

I don't think you're odd at all. Loads of great ideas here!

I've only been to one hen do and there were lots of plastic penises & penis related games, which wasn't too bad as we were in a pub in a private room. No stripper either which was great! They had a nice meal & played some games and quizzes about the bride and groom.

For mine I'd like something in the day or early evening so my teenage but under 18 daughter can take part plus other female relatives who are older or don't drink or go out late can all come along. I still like a night out so wouldn't mind ending up in a club. I haven't spoken to my older bridesmaid about the hen do yet or really thought about it but intend to have a big say in it. Daughter has said hen do at a theme park or go ape - do like that idea other than it still not being any good for older relatives! Spa wouldn't go down well with everyone I want to go but I do like that idea. I will revisit this topic in due course!

No no - my 'tacky' night out was a 50s themed night out with karaoke and a meal. No strippers or anything vomit inducing.

I share your opinion too. I didn't want costumes, L plates and a drunken night out. It is my 2nd wedding and I don't tend to have nights out like that anymore anyway so we booked an afternoon cream tea, river cruise, Hen games in a private section of a bar followed by limo bus for an hour (complete with bubbly and a pole but in private). We finished the night at a lovely restaurant where more friends joined us for dinner.

It was just what I wanted and really enjoyable.

It's not odd at all!

Im also 26 and not wanting any of the usual penis shaped paraphernalia, I just want a couple of days to chill out at a hotel with a spa, some cocktails, good food and company

I've already said to my CB and other BM's that I don't want any blow up penises, L plates, veils, hen do sashes or any of that stuff and if a stripper turns up I'll refuse to take part! I don't mind willy straws with our cocktails but that is as far as it goes!

We are thinking of going sailing for my hen do - cant wait!

Im the same as you, however i have decided to have 2 hen do's, one we will be doing hte night out but not too tacky i have warned them and 2nd which is my choice when OH is on his stag do i am going to have a tea party at my house for all the ladies and our mums as they wont come ot the night out

Ive been on hen weekends of pure drinking and I honestly cant do that for two nights anymore and only 29! For my hen wend we have hired a cottage for the wend - Friday we are staying in with some drinks/food and im sure games then sat we are heading out and Im sure i will be tacked up but that doesnt bother me.

I have though said no strippers for me or I will walk out - not me at all !

It would be boring if everyone had the same anyway so as long as you have fun then thats all that matters. x