Anniversary cards. Do you send them to people?

I sent one of my best friends one for his 1st aniversary but not for his 2nd. Other than that I don't think I've ever sent anyone a card.

I try and remember to send a card on first wedding anniversaries, especially if we were at the wedding but other than that I don't and I wouldn't expect one from anyone for ours either. Actually, now that I think about it, I do send one to my mum and dad every year but they are the only ones

I send first anniversary cards to friends and family, and I send cards to close family for any big one after that (ruby, pearl etc).

I send one every year to close family and to my 2 friends where I was a bm at both, I also do it for the 1st anniversary.

We received quite a few for our first anniversary.

For friends, I would send a card for the first anniversary, then probably not bother after that. However I imagine I will continue to send anniversary cards to my sister and her H for a god few years yet

I don't bother with any of my family, my mum and dad split up when I was 11, and never started again when they both remarried. OH side of the family, I try and remember to send a card on his parents anniversary.

We received about 5 on our anniversary (family) and whilst it was lovely of them, I have to admit I did find it a bit odd! I hadn't expected it, and thought that anniversaries were between couples. I don't think I'd send one - certainly if I did, only a 'first' or a BIG anniversary - my parents 40th this year, for example.

Mr P sends one to all his family - every year. Including his parents!

Seems odd to me, but hey, different strokes for different folks.

Only my Mum out of my family & friends send one to us. But we get one from all of his. We didn't even exchange cards between ourselves this year!

Nope, but then I don't send anyone cards for anything. I don't do cards.

It's taken a few years but it's finally sunk in to just about everyone, except my mother.

No, unless it's a big one. I think anniversaries are personal, and wouldn't expect anyone to remember.

Only to close family for 'big' anniversaries. Like others we got a few on our first anniversary this year which was nice but I didn't expect it and will be surprised if we get them in future years. MrSC's mother, who is odd, 'reminds' us of people's anniversaries eg grandparents, cousins. We just say OK and don't send anything.

Actually speaking of cards, MrSC's (even odder) sister sent my birthday card a week late (although she saw me the weekend before and had been reminded by her mum) and wrote 'From D' in it. I don't think I've written 'From' in a card to anyone since I was about 12 - if they're important enough for a card they get 'Love', close people get 'Lots of love'. Shows me where I stand in her world eh?

I seem to remember getting my parents a present and presumably a card for their silver wedding anniversary, but other than that I don't do other people's anniversaries, not even the first.

We got quite a few cards for our first anniversary, I don't even know who some of the people who sent them are (distant relations of H who weren't invited to the wedding!)

I send them to all my close friends. Most of us are around our 4th or 5th anniversary now and it seems nice to keep it going. We receive them from both parents too, but not my sister or nan, aunts etc.

My best friend always buys a gift appropriate to the year too.

God, no. anniversaries are for the people concerned, not others.

If I've been to the wedding I send a 1st anniversary card, nothing else.

I do to my parents. But not normally to anyone else. I did this year to my nan and grandad as they celebrated their 50th Wedding Anniversary and we hosted a party.

I send a card to my folks every year, but H doesn't only the big ones for his folks. I don't send cards to my married friends apart from the 1st and any big ones.

We got cards from friends and family for our 1st, but not expecting them for our 2nd. I think my parents might though.

Buttons x

I send one every year to my parents. Other than that the first anniversary for weddings we've been to.

I knew this would pop up sooner or later; it always does when this topic comes up.

I send to my parents, H's parents, BIL and SIL and our four closest friends.

I don't understand the mentality that says anniversaries are solely for the people concerned - I agree that they mainly involve the couple; I wouldn't particularly want an anniversary party, for instance, but surely a card (or gift, if you're that way inclined!) just says, "well done on another year"...there's no harm in it, surely? These days, with divorce stats as high as they are, I believe that a year of marriage (and each subsequent year) is a real achievement, and I will continue to send cards. If anyone is offended by my card, I hope they have the decency to tell me.

I don't generally. However, we have been invited to a 25th wedding anniversary party next month and will take a card then. Would seem churlish not to.

I'd feel weird about sending an anniversary card to anyone. Maybe that's my own hangup.

I agree with Nick, anniversaries are for the couple imo and I would feel weird sending an anniversary card to anyone. I couldn't even tell you when my parents got married and I attended the wedding!

I send/give one to my parents and in laws on their big anniversaries.

I also give one to my friends, its only as their anniversary is the day before ours.

ok, you dont understand my reticence about it, and i dont understand why you want to send one. i certainly did suggest it was offensive

and jesus, wtf is going on with some of these avatar signtature things? theyre utterly revolting, in poor taste, and actually, quite thoughtless imo.

Now, comments like that make me want to enable signatures ?

TBH I'm not sure why Nick was singled out. The general opinion was that anniversaries are personal, yet Nick; was the only one that provoked a response [baffled]

what avatar things? are they the pictures? I can't understand whats what nowadays <old>

anyway, as a newly married <IN CASE YOU HADN'T REALISED> I don't ever, send other people cards. but, in the new excitement of it all, I do remember the words of our vicar who asked the congreation to remember that a community should help support a marriage, so in retrospect I think Its a nice idea. And a nice way to show your support.

WSS. In case it wasn't clear, I don't expect cards on my anniversary because it's between the two of us. Our parents may want to send them, and possibly if one day we have grown up children they may, but other than that why on earth would anyone else send us one? We've been celebrating our anniversary of meeting each other up until we got married, and no one sent us cards for that. First anniversary I can understand from people who were at our wedding. I don't even send to my parents every year - only special ones.

I didn't single Nick out per se; it was just that his comment is the opinion of many on these threads and he was the first to make it tonight, so I quoted him. It wasn't an attack on him, as I hope he realised (I'm assuming so, as his response was very reasonable).