Anyone else not having a hen do?

I'm the same the idea of a big hen just isn't for me. I am doing an English tea just with my mum sister's and little bridesmaids and that's all I could want. Have been offered a hen but just don't fancy one.

I had a weekend with just my two bridesmaids and it was brilliant. Some girls just don't want to dress up like an idiot and be paraded around drunk! A hen do can be whatever you want it to be though, I know more and more people who are doing different things like afternoon tea (love that idea!) or staying at home and playing Mr and Mrs games etc. Do what makes you happy

The first time around I just had a meal with some colleagues and local friends (I live 150 miles away from where I grew up) and that was fine. I must admit I really hate the thought of a huge night out with games/forfeits/stripper or whatever, it's just not 'me'.

This time we're thinking of having a joint celebration. Possibly to an already existing event that we just go to with our friends and have a nice day/evening out. If we don't do that though then I'm not at all bothered about doing anything.

I'm not having one. I don't want a big fuss. Hardly anybody I know in real life knows our wedding date, but I am vaguely worried that my mother will try to organise something and I'll have to slap the idea out of her. (Not literally I hasten to add.)

I am going to have something low-key. No L-plates, no penises and definitely no strippers! I certainly won't be getting drunk either. I probably sound like a nun now!

I don't think your being a grinch at all!! At the end of the day its your wedding/hen do you can do what you want!

I don't feel the need to have one and if anything I think I'd rather have a spa day with just my close friends and family than go out and get twatted!! I can't deal with the hangovers anymore lol

Plus I hate all the tack and tat that comes with a hen do!

I know how you feel, I really don't want a hen do either, it just isn't me. I noticed you are getting married just before me at christmas. What I've done is asked some friends and family if they would like to do a christmas party night (it's a 3 course dinner and dance) at a local hotel instead. Everybody I've asked loved the idea and it's a nice night out without all that hen party stuff. X

I don't really fancy a hen do either. I was thinking of going yurting with my mum/sister and some close friends. Have a BBQ, a few drinks and a bonfire in the evening do what makes you happy xx

I dont fancy a hen do, i dont drink and going out into town isnt my thing

might just go out for a nice meal instead

I didn't have a proper hen. Since I don't have loads of girlie mates and am marrying my female best friend I couldn't see the point. Instead, my mum and two bridesmaids and my flower girl took me out shoe shopping a few months back - we had a champagne lunch and got my wedding shoes, got wedding make up (sister is MUA), looked for bridesmaid dresses and picked up lots of wedding bits, then finished the afternoon with drinks in a hotel lounge so Miss Molly my flower girl had lots of room to run about. Absolutely lovely, very special and not a penis straw in sight!

I did get to wear a sash though!