Anyone not having a hen night?

There is nothing to say your hens HAS to be getting drunk & being amde a fool of. I'm thinkin of a restaurant, or pampering day. Possibly a bar in the evening if I want to, but alot of my friends have children & I think they too will be grateful for a good day/evening, without the raucous night time party.

There's nothing to say you have to have a hen night - I know loads of people who've had a lunch or quiet dinner or treated themselves to a spa day instead - whatever suits you (and your budget!!)

I doubt i'll have one.

Most of the friends I socialise with are male, and their idea for my "hen do" would be a strip club, as they see me as one of the lads.

And as I wouldn't like my OH to see a stripper, I doubt he'd like me too ?

Plus, TBH, I can't see me having the energy to want to do anything. Like you, I have kids (3, and 1 on the way), so it would mean finding a sitter too, which is far too much faff for a night out.

Why not do that for your hen night instead? A night out on the lash decorated head to toe in phalic objects is not my idea of a good time either so we are glamping, visiting some dungeons and doing a ghost walk, granted there will probs be some drinks around the campfire!

I have heard of people doing spa days, having meals & activities at home, going out for meals, attending some kind of class or workshop. It can be anything you want it to be so long as it it you and your girls (and any honorary girls you may have). Its more important that you enjoy it than consume your own body weight in alcopops ?

ME!!! The thought of it actually started to make me fret so my OH said 'well just don't have one then....' A revelation! So I am not having one either.

The majority of people coming to our wedding have over 200 miles to travel and accommodation to pay for so I would really rather that they save their money to go towards that instead of forking out for a weekend away for a hen do. Plus the thought of a house/room full of drunk women is one of my worst nightmares!!

And quite frankly I care not if I am disappointing anyone!

I don't know of that many people who actually have the 'traditional' L plates and devil horns hen night these days - would be my worst nightmare anyway, I'm not a big drinker at all and just wouldn't enjoy it, so I'm going ice skating on the outdoor rink, then shopping, then for a meal and a cocktail making class - those that want booze will get it but it won't be ridiculous amounts....hopefully!

I feel so much better. I'm going to break the news to the girls (anyhow they know what I'm like I hate going out and being pushed or queueing for drinks - I have no patience!)

I'd love to have a spa day, a meal and go for a couple of cocktails and be home tipsy but not drunk or ill. I'm sure as my friends are also in their 30's, some in their late 20's would probably prefer that. I've already declined a hen weekend in Blackpool, just not my thing and wouldn't be fair to the hen for me to be sitting there with a face like a smashed faggot all night. I'm going to do what I'd like to do and I'm sure the other girls would enjoy, if not then they don't have to come! x

I'm having a very quiet hen night. I made it abundantly clear to my bridesmaids that the 'typical' hen do was about as appealing to me as rolling in broken glass. Obviously if that's what they'd planned, I'd have loved them forever anyway for going to the effort of planning a do for me! As it is, I believe we're having a quiet night in with girliness and homemade cocktails. My idea of heaven! I still get to have all my friends together - some of whom I haven't seen in months - and I still get to have a sort of send-off but without all the stuff that makes me cringe.

Watch them turn up with pink feather boas, L plates and a dress-up veil for me to wear at home now, hahahahaha

This is what it should be about!

My worst nightmare is the one's you see on tv, girls out round town on the lash - etc

Mine is arranged more around a nice meal than the drinking part! xxx

What you've mentioned IS a hen do! We planned my sister's this weekend just gone and, although she does enjoy the odd drink, she's not a "drinker" as such. We had a spa day on the Saturday, a meal out, followed by karaoke then chocolate making on the Sunday. Some people drank, some didn't.