" + 1's" on wedding invitations.

We decided that if we didn't know who someone would be bringing, they'd be invited on their own. So, we invited OHs but not +1's if that makes sense? Awkward one though if she's already invited someone ?

Hmmm difficult one!

We are having a smallish wedding and know everyone very well, so we dont have that problem.

As for the evening do, all our invites are +1, we are aware that means there will be several complete strangers at our wedding, but if it makes our friends have a more enjoyable time then its worth it x

I'm having this dilemma myself. Still trying to whittle down our guest list.

I'm thinking at the moment, that if someone's been married/together for ages then of course I'll invite them, but as to the singletons - well I think I'm just going to invite them on their own. Like you said, it makes a big difference to the budget!

And who knows, maybe they'll find someone to pair off with at the wedding!

It's a really difficult one though!

Ali x

We decided early on in our planning that we didn't want strangers at our wedding, especially if by inviting a friend with a plus one, it meant we couldn't invite another friend who we really wanted to be there. So we've invited only partners who we know, and spouses/live-in partners. Anyone else will have to come alone, and if they don't like it well tough - it's my wedding!

On our info sheet in the invitations, we are putting a bit on there about it to avoid any confusion, along with the 'no children' part!

It is a hard one, my friend and I are getting married within two months of each other, and one of our best friends is single at the mo, she hasent put plus one for her, and she is my BM (lucky!). I think I am the smae I dont want complete strangers in the day there, I will being having a few plus ones in the night.

Futuremrslord, could I ask how you are wording the no children if you dont mind, I am getting my invites printed this week, didnt really want them going on the invite but want to slot it in somewhere, to avoid the confusion.

No problem, here is the section from my information sheet, hope it helps:

Guest Information

We have been unable to invite children to our wedding due to restrictions on numbers at our venue. We hope that parents will still be able to attend and take the opportunity to have a “child free day!” Also, some of you might have noticed your invitation doesn’t mention a guest or “plus one“, for the same reasons. We’re sure there’ll be plenty of friends attending for you to chat to, but if not we hope you’ll make some new ones!

That's really nicely worded, Futuremrslord. I can't imagine how anyone could take offence at that!

Thankyou, I hope no one will. It's taken a fair bit of working out but I think it's a nice way of saying don't go bringing your horrid screamy snotty toddlers to my wedding!

I edited the post to make the text easier to read and now it's gone huge and weird, sorry!

Yes it was a bit tiny before! LOL!

I'd rather not have any screaming little ones at our wedding either, fortunately, unless a guest gets pregnant now, I should be fairly safe!

Luckily we know, or have met, most peoples partners. The few single people that are going are in the same group of friends as many other guests so will know lots of people anyway.

If I did have a single person coming who wouldn't know anybody, I might put a +1 just so that felt more comfortable, but then I wouldn't like not knowing the person.

Theres only about 4 single people coming to ours, and we didnt invite them with a plus 1, but they all know each other well anyway. however-OHs mum invited quite a few of her friends and their plus 1's (I've never met any of them in my life-but hey). obviously if I had the choice, they wouldnt be coming, but we had to to keep the peace.

We had 'and guest' for all the single people invited but there was only a handful of them so it doesn't affect our numbers too much. Most of them aren't bothering with a guest and are hoping to 'meet' the other single people who will be there!!

This didn't really affect us, but it is very presumptious of your friend to invite someone without asking! we have decided that if our guests have been with their partner for a good while, and are an 'established' couple, we will invite them both. but am not inviting +1's to make my single friends feel better as we are planning to have a relatively small wedding.

Thats what I thought, but I didn't really know what to say! ?

To be honest, had it been someone else I would probably have just said 'I'm sorry but we have had to really pare the guest list down and there is just no room for plus 1's', but this particular friend has been through a really difficult time recently, and has also been a very good friend to me ... so I felt it best to just go along with it and avoid an awkward conversation or put her in a difficult/embarassing position with the friend she already appear to have invited (OK, I know she put herself in that position... but nonetheless... I feel it has just been a misunderstanding/ lack of thought on her part)

Thanks furturemrslord, thats a real nice way of putting it! Most are mates are ok with the no kids (looking fwd to a day off), some of his fam have been a nmare thou!!

Me & my H2B were discussing plus ones & we agreed not to invite them, again we dont want a bunch of people we dont know turning up for free food. Also I had a party a few years ago and we allowed plus ones & some people bought some friends who started fighting with our friends, so always told myself never again, I know it may not happen but dont want to risk it.

A friend of mine told me at her wedding she didnt invite her cousins boyfriend....partly because she didnt even know she had a boyfriend, but also at time she found out table planning etc was already done and she had told other single friends (or friends who had recently got with their partner & who she never met) that they werent invited. Unfortunately her cousin did fall out with her but at end of the day it is your big day & u invite who u want to invite.

Kelly x

Not many of the guests we plan on inviting are single but that may change before the wedding which is 18 months away. we have decided that if they are single and they will know other people there then they will not have a +1 on their invitation - but we have a few of H2Bs family coming from hampshire who will know nonone so we are gongi to let them bring a guest should they be single if that makes sense? x

For the day do we haven't added plus ones for people who are single, there are not many and we wouldn't have been able to invite them all if we had plus 1, but they are seated with good friends so they will all know someone.

For the evening do we have plus 1 for people as its a little cheaper in the evening and some of these are less likely to know other people.

I don't actually have that many single friends, so what I've done is ask them what they would prefer to do - as I have the flexibility to do this. My parents are paying for the reception and were insistent that we invite plus ones - its their money!

In fact it's kind of worked out quite well, as I get on well with some of my friends friends - and we've been out together a few times - so its a way of ensuring my friends have a fab time, and also getting a few extra friends in who I wouldn't have invited on their own.

But all my friends have been very accepting - and not expected to be allowed a +1. TBH the only people I won't know at my wedding are some of my H2B's family