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I reckon I'd feel the same as you, but I'm sure there are some who'd disagree and say she's just exited! At the end of the day, your wedding is going to be more important to you and hers to her.x

Just think how excited you were when you first got engaged?! You cant really assume that she would hold back her arrangements/plans etc until after your wedding. Can understand you being a little put out but its a bit unreasonable to think that she should wait till after your wedding to talk about her future one.

I can understand why you're feeling upset about it but unfortunately, I think you're just going to have to suck it up and put on a brave face.

She's bound to be stupidly excited, perhaps more so because yours is so close and she must be looking forward to being in your position.

Your only other option is to talk about it with her. Tell her you're very excited but you need her support for the next few days. You'll be able to reciprocate in due course and once you're married and back from your honeymoon it can all be about her.

I do think she's being blinkered but I imagine it's very easy to do. I'm sure the next 11 days will fly past so do all YOU can to enjoy it. It'll only come round once, after all!

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Whilst I want to say that she's not being very fair and really should let you enjoy your last week of wedding plans, I know how impossibly excited I've been since we got engaged and if I had any friends for whom I was being bridesmaid, I can't guarantee I'd be any better behaved!! Is she the sort who'd react well to you being a bit jokey about it and saying (in a light-hearted way!) 'alright, we can spend the next year squeeeing at you, but now it's MY turn!'? Gets the message across but without you being sad at her and risking her calling you a bridezilla!

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I think you have to appreciate that right now, her head is going to be buzzing with excitement and ideas and all the rest of it, and whilst you might have had the same situ when you were first engaged with another friends wedding being very close and you handled it in the way you did, I don't think many people would do that tbh...

Engagements and wedding dates send even the most level headed person into a dizzy spin, and whilst you might feel she's taking the shine off your last few days before your big day, I'm sure she'd be upset to think she's pee'ing you off. Lets hope she doesn't make your day all about her day (but I guess as a new B2B she's obviously going to be thinking 'thats going to me in x months....) but I think you do have to suck it up and just think 'oh well' and keep focussed on your day and what is important about a wedding day - the marriage, not the day... and no one can take THAT away from you.

Enjoy your day when it arrives!