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You're paying for the dress, right? It should be a privilege to be asked to be BM.. not a chore. And she should be paying for the repairs on the dress, not you. Tell her to grow up.

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i have to say i agree although i have been in the posisition of having a hideous BM dress and me feeling utterley uncomfortable all day in it...ill fitting, horrid colour (Id flash if it didnt make me feel physically sick thining about it lol) BUT i wore it and got on with it because she was my friend and i didnt kick up a fuss and get mardy about it!! (not to her face anyway, poor Mr F!!)

WSS. I'm a CBM in August, and although I was lucky in that I was asked was style etc I would prefer, if she had asked me to wear a black bin bag, I would have. It's your day and she needs to suck it up and wear what you have chosen, simple as. It is a massive honour to be asked to be a bridesmaid! You're not being mean at all.

Tbh if I didn't like the fit of a dress but the B2B likes the dress I'd ask her politely if she minded me going off and having it slightly altered so I felt comfortable in it but I would pay for any adjustments, etc. My BMs made it really difficult for me too as one wouldn't wear strapless, neither would wear long dresses which is what I wanted.. so I caved and bought them matching dresses but in styles they'd both wear.

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il find a pic!

please do I am sooo curious

Lauren honey, she is going to have to suck it up and accept that she will be wearing that dress. If she wants a different one, she pays for it and she pays you for the repairs on the other dress she said she wanted but then changed her mind. I bet that will keep her quiet.

*Sits quietly in the corner and waits patiently for Flows pic...*

Bear in mind i was 2 stone heavier in this pic!!

but the colour suited non of us, they were all ill fitting and vom worthy! i had to have a panel in the back of mine (no pic i dont think) as she got the dresses in a sale and just bought whatever sizes she could!!

Oh dear.... I'm speechless!

Lauren, I could write a book on this subject. I lost my MOH forever because of this so I know exactly what you're going through.

Stick to your guns, stand your ground etc.

? told you ?

I feel your pain Flow! I had a similar experience, except the boning started coming out abour half and hour after the ceremony and I ended up with cuts all over me. Was so painful but I wore it the whole time, even though some BM changed out of it for the evening (and into their jeans)! Who knew boning was so damn sharp?!

yesp, same thing happened to me, under my bust, but i carried on like a trouper!!

The offedning dress is now a floor mop in my kitchen ?

I don't know where mine is. Gave it to my mum to fix, but it would still look horrid!

Wow flow...............................................

Your knockers look great in it though ?

Flow you got off lightly!

I think they are quite nice ?

I may not choose these myself as I hate satin, but I wouldn't look at this and think "OMG, they look hideous!"

Flow you think you looked bad in that well let me tell you!! When my ex MOH was planning on getting married 2 years ago (this never went ahead) she chose some dresses for us. Now the dress was a lovely colour and looked great on the other 3 bridesmaids who ranged from size 6 - 10. However on me who is a size 20 and was more of a 22 at the time I looked like one huge bloodclot!!! Its a lovely fishtail style however it clung to my ginormous backside!! Needless to say I dont have any pictures of me in the dress but this is from the website:

Anyway back to the point of this post - I would never ever have said anything to her about me feeling like a blob in this dress. It was HER big day not mine and I would have been happy for her to put me in anything she wanted and not complained once.