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Grovelling. Lots of it.

And never go through his personal space again.

Sorry to hear this but if you trust him 100% why are you snooping on his Facebook account to see who he is talking to?

If you're reading his facebook messages to see who he's been talking to, then by definition you do not trust him 100%. In which case, he is entirely justified in wondering whether getting married is the right option at the moment. Do you understand just how badly you've invaded his privacy?

exactly this.

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This. I had a similar thing, but mine was looking on his work phone at emails. I wouldn't go on his facebook.

You need to realise that you have done something wrong and stop trying to justify it yourself.

You will just have to let him 'drag it out' as you say for as long as it takes really. I got caught snooping on OH's emails in our early days, and he did forgive me but obviously it coloured his view of me for a while. We worked through it and it turned out I uncovered something unplesant but that I am glad I found out about, so for me it was worth the week or so of frostiness. It also lead to a really great talk between us which ultimately helped us be stronger together. I hope for you there will be a silver lining like this.

I don't think i'd be bothered if my OH went through my stuff. I have nothing to hide and if I was being shady, then I'd be sure to delete any evidence anyway. (not that I am, my stuff is an open book)

I've been tempted to look at OH's stuff in the early days, but I couldn't bring myself to do it. It used to bring on an increased heartrate that felt like it was going to pop out of my chest!

I think if I were you, i'd just say that seeing as he spends most of the evening on the phone, you feel like a third wheel. Maybe he could communicate with you instead.I personally can't stand social networking. It kills reality! My OH is always reaching for his IPhone incase he's missed the latest Twitter or FB update. Wish he'd drop it in the bog sometimes. ?

I can understand why you did it. Dealing with a long term health condition as a couple is hard and it doesn't just impact on the sufferer, especially if you're not communicating about it. I think you need to sit him down and make a genuine, honest apology. Tell him that you know it was wrong and that you have no excuses. Then try and explain to him some of your fears so that this situation doesn't happen again.

I'm not sure what you were hoping to gain or find by going through his facebook?

As Peanut said, health conditions are tough on both of you so you need to speak to each other openly and honestly and explain how you both feel, its the only way to deal with it.

You need to do some serious grovelling and expalining as to why you've done it. Everyone makes mistakes though so hopefully he'll forgive you.