100yr old Nana - WWYD?????

I would keep what you have booked. At 100 yrs old even if she is still with you she may not even be up to the wedding as it is a long day for anyone.

What SherrieH says.

There's no need to sacrifice your dream venue.

If i was your nana....i would be upset if you changed your dream venue for me....i have 5 grandchildren myself.....and not sure if i'll see either of thier weddings?....but i'd want them to be happy if i was able to make it or not....you follow your dreams your nanna will be sooooooo proud of you.

linda x

Good on you for taking care of nana by the way.

Are you sure that she wouldn't be able to attend at your chosen venue? I was under the impression that legislation relating to access includes all kinds of buildings. If you speak with the owners or managers of the venue they may help you find a way round the problem.

Only you and H2B can decide whether you'd be happy to change your dream venue to accommodate one person. Good luck. Whatever you decide will be fine.

I haven't really checked but i can't think how she should get up. There is a ramp into the castle courtyard but all the rooms are up / down steps. And the idea we had in mind is at the top of the castle in openair. It really is an old ruin, protected by historic Scotland so i don't think the normal rules would apply, but who knows - will check.....

This is the Info they have on the Castle's accessability:

Accessibility: HS says: "Gardens and grounds are accessible to those using wheelchairs. Two steps lead to the inner courtyard. The castle interior is restricted for visitors using wheelchairs as are the gazebo and dovecote. Parking is available 110 metres away. Visitors with disabilities can be set down by the main gate. The public toilets adapted for disabled access. Shop: STB Category 2."

Thanks for that - just as we thought.....

We were going to be in a similar situation with our grandparent - H2Bs live in herefordshire and don't feel they can travel to scotland and my grandad was house bound, although he unfortunately died earlier this year. Instead we are having a mini reception back home after the wedding for the grandparents and the family who can't make it (being farmers a lot of them can't just go away for a weekend!) so you could always go down that route if you thought she would appreciate it?

Thats not a bad idea?

We have a similar problem with my H2B's nana who is wheel-chair bound. Our evening party room is called 'room at the top' and up lots of stairs - I love it for the ceiling, but it does mean his nana can't come to the evening party. Unlike yourself we don't see her that often, and last time I saw her she didn't even mention the fact we had got engaged. We booked it and then panicked, but having spoken to my boyfriends dad he has said that we can't book a hotel to accomodate somebody who is likely not to be able to come anyway. You can't change your plans for somebody who is likely not to come, and afterwards you can celebrate with her in your own way.

I think nana will know how much you care for her, considering everything you are currently doing - she would want you to be happy and have the venue of your choice.

x

I'd keep your original venue. Like other posters have said there is the legislation now that means places have to be more accessible. Can you check with your venue to see what they could do?

Alternatively, if she can't go, either due to not being able to get there, or doesn't feel that she could cope, or heaven forbid, she isn't with you anymore, then would it be possible to have the officiant to say something about those that can't be there?

C ?

its your day hun go for your dream ?

We only got engaged in December and because my dad's 85 and not very well we decided to get married this year. We spent ages looking for venues that he would find comfortable. In the end, the one we went for had a bedroom to the side of the reception room so that he could have a nap if he needed to. It wasn't our first choice but it was a compromise that we felt totally ok in making if it meant that dad would be more comfortable.

Saying that, he's become more ill since we became engaged and now I'm not even sure that he's going to make it to the wedding. My mum cares for him full time so she's looked into who else we could have to care for him on the day - the venue's about 45 mins from my parents. Also whether he could come for the ceremony and then go home, or the ceremony and the meal, but I don't even know if he'd make it through the meal.

It's really hard. We arranged the whole thing so that he could be there and he might not even make it that far. Don't change your venue.