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I don't understand what was wrong with the responses to your first post? I thought you got some good advice.

Spamalot maybe?

What is spamalot?????

I thought people thought it was just for the wedding ceremony, as I said wedding and not for the evening reception. So just asking again, no harm in re asking people advice.

Hi there, I haven't read your original post so hope I can help here.

To be honest, I don't think there would be a problem with you using the same venue, particularly as it obviously means a lot to you for sentimental reasons and if you've had your heart set on it for that long, then there's nothing wrong. Can you speak with your friend before booking it; I'm sure that she would understand if you explained the reasoning behind it. And besides, nobody has exclusive rights to a wedding venue and you're getting married, what, a year apart? No two wedding ceremonies/receptions are the same either - it literally is a venue where you dearly want to have your reception and you will add your own personal touch to it, just as she will with hers.

Hope that makes sense! Good luck xx

I also didn't read the first post. I think it really doesn't matter. Especially as youre a fair distance apart. The only thing I would say could be a problem is if you have similar theme or it has obviously stolen ideas. If you have your own distinct style and colours then the venue will probably look different anyway. Its amazing how different touches change the way a room feels. I say just go for it.

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I woukld still book the venue as it means something to you, i know if it was me it would not feel right having to go for second best.

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But thank everyone for there helpful comments, I hope i can be as helpful when you have a questions or need some help!

I woUld say speak to your friend and explain the sentimentality behind it ..... But I can't see it would be a problem ... I know wouldn't mind. Hope that helps

I think you'll find I didn't write that. I genuinely asked why you posted a topic again when you got good answers the first time.

It seemed a bit rude to the people who took the time out to reply in the first instance.

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I thought this was meant to be a supportive place. I hadnt seen the thread the first time round. But if I had I just would have passed over it this time.

Lets be nice to each other - we get enough hassle form other people when planning weddings!

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I don't think it's a question of not being supportive. I believe it's customary if you want more help or more replies to your post to *bump* it, rather than start a new thread. This way you can acknowledge the help you have already received and make any necessary clarification.

You'll find an awful lot of questions get asked (not aimed at the OP specifically) where hitchers take the time to help others out and the OP never comes back to thank people or acknowledge the help / information they have received and top be honest, in my view that is far ruder than anything that's been said on this thread.

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I see where you are coming from but every forum has its own etiquette.

All I'm trying to explain is that posting the same question more than once, rather than using the existing thread will be considered 'spammy'. It's best to keep one topic in one thread. We get an awful lot of non genuine posters who start lots of separate threads and clutter the place up, which can make it difficult for people to spot the threads they want to contribute to.

Thanks very much

Thanks 2013, I do know how to use a forum and comment on whatever takes my fancy.

I did read your first post but didn't reply as it seemed you had a lot of good advice. We have had a lot of trolls and spammers lately who keep posting the same topics over and over - since I thought a lot of people had already responded in a constructive way and then it was re-posted, I wondered if this may be another case of trolling as hitchers have pointed out.

My response of 'spamalot?' was to kharv's points, rather than you and I didn't mean to cause offense to a genuine hitcher.

Are you worried about hurting your friends feelings? If you've got your heart set on the place in mind, and it sounds like you have, then maybe explain this to your friend. I am sure she will understand, you don't want to book it on the same day as her any way so I am sure she would be happy for you. I think it would be a lovely place to have your evening as it means so much to you xx

I agree Pandora - when you've been on this forum for a while you can spot what looks like a spam post and that does tend to be when people post the same thing twice in a short space of time.

As others have said 2013, it is best to carry on the old thread rather than start a new one - helps stop people getting confused.

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I think if you told her before her wedding then that way she will know for sure that you are just as keen as she is. I really don't think she'd begrudge you having your wedding in a place that's so special to you, also if you talk to her in advance you can maybe alleviate any fears she has of you getting married there too. I'm sure it will be absolutely fine hun. Good Luck xx

OP -The attitude you've just displayed in your most recent post is really upsetting.

People were trying to explain the "preferences of hitched" as you call it, to ensure that as a new user you have the best chance of getting taken seriously and receiving the help you are looking for. It was kindly meant and you throw it back in our faces. You may have received advice you did not expect but thats life - on a public forum you can't always tell how people might respond.

What you are doing now is the equivalent of walking into a room full of people who have been talking together for a while and saying "this might be the way you do things but i'm going to do it differently". That is your choice, but you'll find it won't make people inclined to help you.

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Is 1234 a new WP code?

I don't get it either - there's this thread, but there are also two others with lots of the posts changed to smiley faces. Curiouser and curiouser...

Weird ..... Thinking I shouldn't have bothered being helpful .... Whats the point in asking for advice then ??

Sadly this was the point I was trying to make. I'm truly sorry if I came across as a nag, but it's things like this that have lost this forum some very valuable contributors. I was genuinely trying to ensure that she got the most out of her time here but I feel that got lost somehow.

I am curious as to why there were also two different users, both with 2013 in their name, who suddenly decided to delete/blank out posts at the same time... Until that happened I'd found this quite upsetting, now I am resigned to thinking it was a troll with multiple accounts.

I think you're completely right BV. I also don't think you came across as a nag at all - you were perfectly polite, highlighting how to get the best out of the forum.

The fact that the OP later admitted she re-posted so as to get 'better replies' just goes to show we were right - it was rude to the posters who replied on the original thread.

Ah well, onwards and upwards!