2 week ban from wedding planning :(

- but maybe it will be good to have a switch off and enjoy christmas and spending time with your OH. Then you 2 will feel close and when you feel close wedding stuff becomes easier.

Maybe you can use the 2 weeks to plan with CBM when you can meet up for a proper-good get together, night in with vino and chick flicks and wedding mags.

Aww I do feel for you NurseBride.... Am a 2012 bride also and agree there isnt a lot i can do at the moment, this side of Christmas, am the same with my OH, as at the moment i feel like am the only one who is excited and ideas keep popping in my head, everytime i think of something, ive been writing it down and collecting it all and putting it in my wedding folder, each time OH comes pass me and asks what am doing, he sees and just walks away!! grrr

Next year it will start to feel more real and you will be able to start doing more stuff, although my OH is ok with us sorting the suits out and the cars after Christmas he thinks the BM dresses and my wedding dress, table decs etc etc can all wait towards the end of next yr!!!! grrrrr

I'd say try and enjoy Christmas, celebrate the New Year and when an idea comes to you, write it down!!

We can share notes etc next year!! ?

forgot to say. am in the same boat here as well, i moved this year to live with OH and have no close friends or family near by now, and find that really tough not being able to just nip over and see my CBM or BM or sister for a girly gossip ☹️

Sounds like a plan!

I think the other thing that's bugging me is that OH is working nights Christmas eve, Christmas Day and Boxing Day, and I'm working Christmas eve and Chistmas day lates (13:00-18:15hrs). So we'll barely get to see each other. I can't even see the point in putting up the decorations this year. **bah humbug alert** Guess this is what working for the NHS is all about though, I've had 2 Christmases off in the 6 years I've been qualified and one of those was because I was poorly. OH and I have never spent a Christmas together and this will be our 4th ☹️ It doesn't normally bother me because it's what I signed up for, but I think I was hoping this year would be special since we'll be announcing our engagement - and now it all feels so rubbish.

Plus today is the two year anniversary since CBM's BIL was killed in Afghan and it hurts so much that I'm so far away from her (that's the reason why she moved, so she could be closer to her family afterwards)

Aww that's really sad, and horrible when you cant be there....as my friends keep telling me, there only on the other end of the phone and i know its not the same as seeing someone in person, but at least she will know your thinking of her, hugs to you ?

Its pretty grim that you dont get to spend xmas together also ☹️ but at least you know, you are getting married and you will always be together (soppy i know!!) and so hopefully you will get a christmas together!! and after xmas you can carry on making your wedding plans and try and meet up with your CBM and have things to look forward to!

I've just been a very naughty girl and emailed a company about wedding cars - I can't stop!

Urgh I really feel for you hun with the crappy NHS shifts over xmas as I'm a nurse also...it sucks doesn't it I try and tell myself every year that it's what I signed up for but on the day I still feel sad and disappointed and curse myself for being a nurse lol!

Maybe you could have a mini xmas a few days before or after...I know it's not the same but just a little quality time between the 2 of you could do wonders.

And with regard to the wedding planning (as this is a wedding forum!!) I think you should keep on doing your little notes when you think of stuff but be a little less intense with your planning and try to keep it to a minimum until next year. TBH I don't mean to over generalise or offend blokes but some blokes are quite laid back and the little details just aren't so important to them - they're marrying the lady the love and that's all that matters, maybe he's this kind of guy (nothing wrong with that!) so just tone it down a bit cos I think they get frightened when you put loads of stuff in there face! xx

I'm still planning for you!

I am sure you will still et some planning time in over Christmas, also the sales will be great after.

I know exactly what you mean. The only thing that is important to OH is that we get married and that we have our family there (very fluffy I know)He does want a church wedding though, which surprised me as he is quite shy. But think I'm annoying him by going on about stuff tbh

@ Sherrie You know how to cheer me up! ? I never even thought about sale shopping!!

I totally feel for you...I had the same argument with my OH last night. I had bought 2 lovely little red rose hand bags (I'm having a red rose theme)from next for my flower girls yesterday when I was out christmas shopping. I wasn't looking for wedding items, but they caught my eye and I just bought impulsively. They weren't expensice just £7 each ( pennies really), any way when I showed them to my OH thinking he would agree how cute they were, WRONG! He starting going about it being 15 months away and we cant afford to buy things for the wedding, as we have christmas to deal with, and he wishes that he could a couple of weeks of non wedding talk.

So that kind of spoiled our saturday night in togwther, I was looking forward to us sharing a nice bottle of wine, instead I got the silent treatment.

Ditto.. your lucky your only have 1 till 6:15.. im 1 till 9pm!.. its soo rubbish.. its either xmas or new year isnt it.. my OH gets fed up but im trying to offer xmas so i build mine up for when i have kids.. and you dont get paid enough for it... Im in district nursing and its always so effin cold too.. out in the freezing cold being around sick people when everyone else is drinking and eating and having fun! UUUGGGHHH!! i need a new job lol xx

As annoying as it sounds, with the amount of time u've got left 2 weeks isn't going to make much difference. I've only got 11 weeks left and I'm taking some time off over Christmas just to relax before the mad panic starts.

My friends mum used to tell her that it was on christmas day when everyone was together so instead of having christmas day on the 25th when she would always be working they always had it a few days after - my friend was 12 before she cracked on that everyone else only on celebrated the 25th!! Aslong as you have a s special day what more matters!

My wedding is 2011 and H2b is the same re wedding stuff.... wait till next year....

We're going to OH's parent's on bank holiday monday for a christmas dinner and I think OH's sister, H and little girls will be there too. So that'll be nice. After reading your replies I think that we should go out for dinner on the 23rd or something to do something special.

@minicooper - so even in 8 months time it'll still be far away in OH's eyes?! Lol