***2012 good/bad/resolutions thread***

This year has had its ups and downs, but overall I've had a really good year.

Good: Marrying my best friend and having the best day of my life. I've also really enjoyed my job.

Bad: A lot of drama with H's family.

Resolution: To look after myself better physically. Eat better, exercise, look after my skin, take better care with my appearance. I'm hoping it will have a positive effect mentally as well.

I just asked OH as I honestly cant remember what we did this year!

Which pretty much sums this year up dull and non eventful, I did some consultancy over the summer in addition to my full time job so that didn't allow time for much else to happen. Just saving and wedding planning, more saving and more wedding planning.

On the plus side I now have a wardrobe full of shiny new shoes and suits!

Thankfully no major illnesses or accidents!

This year has been an up and down year for my family.

GOOD: I got to marry my wonderful husband and been lucky enough to see lots of friends also get married.

BAD: Where do I start. Started with my mum in hospital, middle with me only being back at work for 7 days after honeymoon before damaging ligaments in my foot to be off sick till end of november, BIL gran dying unexpectedly, one of my friends who got married 2 wks after being having her husband leave her for another woman (they were childhood sweethearts) and my hubby's grandad being in and out of hospital then only to be told he had Lung cancer with 2-3mths to live. He sadly died on Saturday in a hospice. We arrived to see him half an hour before he left us. We like to think he was holding on to see us.

NEW YEARS RESOLUTION: To raise money for Cancer research. Horrible disease, almost took my mum 8yrs ago. My SIL and I are doing Race for life and i'm doing the dryathlon in January. Please sponser me know matter how small. https://www.justgiving.com/dryathlete-jennifer-greatbatch

Good - I got back with my H, after leaving him last Christmas eve. I set up my own little business as I was getting fed up just being a SAHM, and so far, it's going well. My baby turned 1, and is a little superstar. After my first son being so ill at birth, and for his first 2 years, it was weird (but nice) having a child who is never ill, and who is really advanced. My eldest son has learning difficulties, and was suspected to have Aspergers, and after 3.5 years of tests, we were told he DIDN'T, have Aspergers, which was a massive relief. It also meant they were able to do more to help with his learning difficulties, and as a result, he's shocked everyone by catching up with his classmates. H got a new job, that had a massive payrise from his last job, which makes our lives easier. My parents got back together after being divorced for over 20 years, and they get married again in May.

Bad - H's money grabbing ex has been nothing but a nightmare, as has H's son. My patience has about ran out with both of them.

Resolution - To put more into my FB business, and try and make a proper go of it.

GOOD - H started a new job in January 2012, which he loves and they respect him far more than in his last job. We found another dog.

BAD - My Nan died. Work cut my hours and wage meaning we've struggled for money each month, and we've had to put our house on the market to try to ease some our money problems and make each month a bit more bearable.

Resolutions - To try to find either another part-time or a new full-time job - not a lot out there at the moment. Sell our house and start to sort ourselves out financially.

Jojo - it's taking a picture a day and writing a little about the picture. My friends and I have done it on and off for a few years but I've never completed it. Now I have a good camera on my iPhone and there are apps or a private Facebook album to upload them into I think it'll be easier. Also this should be a quieter year (I hope!) I live being able to look back and know what I was doing/thinking on a certain day. It's a good way of keep a journal without the commitment to write a massive entry. My friend keeps hers to tweet length (140 characters I think) but I just write as much as I want. Sometimes it's nothing. You can also get themes and stuff online or make up your own (thinking about doing one a week or month to keep it interesting).

Also you sound very positive, it's nice to see, I hope 2013 is good to you!

Good: Obviously my little Ollie ?. We've got our house as pretty much finished as its going to get. We've got a better car and paid off our debts. No real disasters this year for the first in ages.

Bad: I was made redundant in March which was hard at the time but probably a blessing really. Erm... That's about it. After a run of really shitty years we've finally had a good one.

Aims for 2013 are to enjoy my time off and make the most of every day. Get my ass back to college/uni and finally get qualified as I should have done years ago.

2012 has been boring for me too, this last 2 weeks has been utter hell.. but hopefully 2013 might be a stable one between me and oh..

good : bil and wife had a lovely baby girl so were proud aunty/uncle

good: were slightly more 'free' with money

bad; I've gone even more of a fat cow- so SW it is next week

bad: really want a hol abroad and oh insurance is skyyyyy hiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiigh ?

Good

- we got engaged, set a date and are in the midst of wedding planning. Friends have also got engaged.

- I am leaving 2012 lighter than I started (though only by a small amount)

- OH has new job with better pay; my sister qualified and got a job as a teacher (v. proud of her)

- I completed my CIPD studies and graduated

Bad

- Dad is running my mother to financial ruin and can't see it (breaks my heart because she works so hard to keep them afloat and he is so sh*t sometimes)

- I am still in debt (though less than last year)

Resolution

- Debt under much better control next year - budget better

- Lose the weight (for the wedding, but more importantly, for me)

- Cook better, more regularly, and stop being so goddamn lazy

And of course, get married! But that's kinda set in stone ?

Good - Seen lots of my friends get married this year and lots of baby announcements. My hobby business has done well too.

Bad - It's taken us since April to sell our flat and I feel like life has been on hold waiting to move. Still waiting. Work has been pretty pants as retailers are struggling to stay afloat. Have seen some other great opportunities but as I have been in this role for 6 years now I am relunctant to move (scared of change/failure and partly for the staff discount, share incentive plan and mat pay!)

Resolutions - I cannot wait to turn our new house into a family home and work on seeing friends a lot more and starting the next phase of our lives together. I also want to complete a project 365, especially now I have an awesome camera! I want to take some photography classes to improve my photography skills and learn to bake. I also want to go on a lovely holiday - apart from 2 days in Paris and 2 days in Ibiza (hen weekends don't count as holidays!) we haven't been away together since Aug 2011, and that was only Scotland and Spain for 3 days.

Bad: lots of work stress, meaning home life was on the back burner a bit. Nearly lost my job twice for things that weren't my fault. Spent the whole year paying 2 mortgages since my old house didn't sell. My Nan in and out of hospital and tearing the family apart by refusing to go into care.

Good: marrying MrBBB the way we wanted to, alone on a beach. Fantastic splurging honeymoon. Graduating as a paramedic after working for the ambulance service for 5 yrs.

Resolution is to make 2013 about family and home and not about the work stuff that has dominated the last 12 months. We have a mountaineering expedition in June and after that we will TTC which should be a challenge at our age!

Ooh mrs c I like the sound of lenses for the iPhone, have you tried them? Is it in a case for the phone? Have you done project 365 before?

Briefly... the telescopic one clips on to a case, the others are just magnets!

I thought about it but never quite managed it!

Bad- My Mum and Dad have both been really ill and had major operations which have put a huge strain on them and all of us. They are all of a sudden "old" and its come as a shock. Particulary my Dad. My Mum has been really hit hard with all the changes she has had to make and its been hard to wtach her suffer.

My health has declined further this year and its been a really painful one, we just cant seem to get my meds right and its exhausting. We have had too many funerals to attend this year. I have watched my friends suffering. ☹️

Good- My relationship with my wonderful husband continues to go from strength to strength, he is such a rock to me and my family.❤️

We have had some lovely holidays and celebrated our first anniversary which was fab.

My nephew getting his football scholarship in America was a high point and he continues to excel which is brilliant, such a proud Auntie!

Goals- To finally get my medication right so as I am well enough to attend a month long pain management course, and ultiamately feel well enough to stop meds for long enough to attempt fertility treatment. It may not be 2013 or 2014, but I WILL get there! Also lose weight and help my Mum be more positive!

VP that made me all teary. Your H sounds amazing. I love how positive you are too.

He's lovely Tiz, OB's met him. He walked in on the 2 of us drinking wine, had never met her and gave her a big hug! You cant shut him up like but he is just a lovely man, he looks after me really well.

I can confirm Mr VP is amazing! He did give me a big hug and sat chatting with us as if I was an old friend! He's almost as fab as Mrs VP. I've never felt more comfortable in someone's house the first time I've met them before. Oh god I'm getting all fluffy!

Oh, oh!!! AND Mr VP walked all town trying to find me a toothbrush at 1am before he came back and made me a bacon sandwich the next morning!

Bad: I hate my job with a passion, I'm stressed, irritable & a nightmare to life with, I've put on weight, had a rough couple of months with OH. Going through some tests for fertility purposes.

Good: generally my loved ones & myself are fit & healthy. I'm closer than ever to my folks & love them dearly. Friendships are starting to get back on track. I'm going through security clearance for a new job so will be so much happier when that happens. It means a 45min train journey each morning & evening & I'll be worse off financially but it's a better job with more security & benefits

Resolutions: lose weight - seriously. I've 2 stone to get off to be at a healthy weight which should help fertility. I'm going to join a beginners running club mid jan & take it up. Just to mix up my fitness & spend time in fresh air with different people. Would be great to be able to head out for a 30 min run ,ESP when I start my new job with longer days & gym classes don't suit the same. To chill out more - hopefully new job will help with stress levels! And fx be pregnant end of year when I get all the maternity benefits.

Im feeling really positive for 2013!

Good: My surprise BFP in April and seeing the positive way it's changed my family.

Bad: I feel let down by some of my friends - I'm 10 days overdue at the moment and people that I hardly know contact me to see how I am but I have heard nothing from those I have known for a year or so. I am due to be induced tomorrow and am scared but have heard nothing.

Resolutions: To concentrate on those that matter, not those that are fairweather friends - I'll be too busy enjoying my baby to worry about them!

I am sure you will be fine Rizzo- I am sending lots of weirdy internet love & vibes your way!

One of the worst things about 2012 for me was my (now ex) best friend of over 10 years wanted me to choose between her and boyo- I am still sad about the way she acted over the situation and I doubt we will ever speak again- we last spoke in March.

Maybe my resolution should be to try and get a new friend for 2013?!

Other than that my Grandads health has seriously declined and on several occasions my Dad has mentioned that he might not be at our wedding- meaning he wont see any of his Grandkids get married- however even if he is there it is very doubtful that he will really 'know' what is happening. My Grandma has been in denial about my Grandad for a lot of the year but after a breakdown on Boxing Day with my Dad we think some progress has been made.

On the positive side....everyone else is generally happy and healthy.

My year has been rubbish!

Bad - Starting off with slipping the disk in my back and being unable to do much, my mum having to have emergency surgery, my Dad being unwell on and off over the year, my little sister's arthritis getting worse. My mental health suffering as I try to be strong for everyone else. and my cousin committing suicide last month.

Good - The wedding planning it on track, its all pretty much paid for just a little more cash to find! my OH has finally begun to understand how my brain works and is trying to help me. my degree is going well and not long left!!

Resolutions - To not push myself to hard, or be to hard on myself it is exhausting! To finish my degree with a 2:1, to find a full time job, not worry about the little things about the wedding! Just enjoy my year its going to be a big one!

Big hugs to those that need it

Good - Our wedding! I also went to two other beautiful weddings, which were emotional! I have met some lovely new people and have made some fun memories with existing friends. We went to our first GP abroad, which was amazing. This year has also brought a few pregancies for our friends, one couple were trying for 3 years. I have also changed jobs and have started a new course.

Bad - I have found out that some people are not who I thought they were, but I will learn from this and be careful who I trust in the future. I'm currently struggling with my 50hr weeks and my course, but it will be worth it I'm sure. H's cousin lost their baby, which was so sad.

The worst thing was my Uncle dying last month. He was poorly, but I didn't realise how much it would affect me. It has shaken my whole family.

Resolutions - To eat healthier, do more exercise and try and lose weight. To pass my course, and the next, and hopefully start my dissertation. To see a lot more of my friends and their new additions. To not let other people's opinions bother me so much.

Good- I got my new job and I love it. Mrmini also got a new job and seems much happier. We had a fantastic holiday in turkey, that's about it.

bad- so much crap had happened, my mum getting ill, my uncle is dying, mrminis ex is still not letting up with her ridiculous demands and nasty actions, my scars are not healing and im more self concious than ever, we lost the house we wanted, I've been in hospital and am still not 100% after my op, there's loads of stuff gone on in 2012.

resolutions- make memories while we can with mum, buy a house we love and try and get more ink for my 30th.

We had a tough start to the year but got through it stronger than ever. I've enjoyed being a wife our first wedding anniversary and our 14th year together.

I met new friends and spent time with old ones.

I have lost loved ones but gained new arrivals.

2013 I am looking forward to meeting our little boy and enjoying every minute of maternity leave!

This is a really good thread. I'm looking through peoples's posts and recognising them for things they have mentioned during the year, so definitely getting to know people on here.

Good - We got married and had the day of our dreams. It surpassed all of our expectations and it was wonderful being surrounde by our families. I got a new job and although it is only a 12month contract, I needed to get out of my other dept for the sake of my mental health. We moved from our flea and mouse infested flat into a beautiful house with a fantastic landlady. She got us a bottle of wine for Christmas!! We also got our lovely (and very naughty) kittens who certainly make life interesting... I ran the race for life 10k in 1hr 14mins after only taking up running to lose weight for the wedding. I can now run 5k in less than 40minutes and run at least once a week. You would realise what an achievement this if you'd known me at school!!!

Bad - Found out that Nana has a diverticular tumour, and although she is responding well to treatment and is more like her old self, it's still terminal. I am generally okay with this, but every now and then I have a bit of a breakdown. I fell out again with my real Dad over the wedding and now his Mum won't speak to me. Me and my Grampy keep having to have covert meetings because she gives him such a hard time if she knows that I've seen him. Fell out with my oldest friend who decided that she wasnt going to come to our wedding, the morning of.

All in all, it's not been the worst year. Lots of positives. I am so thankful that I am going into the new year with my Nana still here and fighting fit and all of my family around me. In 2013 I intend to spend more time with my friends and family, and less time worrying about what people think of me. I will *try* not to sweat the small stuff (like finding OH's dirty socks on my clean kitchen floor) and just get on with it. I will keep running and playing netball and enjoying it, stay active so that I don't have to calorie count constantly.

It's been a pretty good year overall for me.

Good - got the job I missed out on last year. I've been doing it now for 5 months and I love it. We had our lovely honeymoon in Zanzibar, and have celebrated our first anniversary. A few new babies born to my friends and family, and several lovely weddings.

Bad - the main thing has to have been OH's health, both physical and mental. He's slowly getting better, but there have been times when I've really struggled to keep my temper with him and to look after him as well as I ought to. Oh, and MiL, who is usually lovely, called us both fat just as we were leaving yesterday. It might be true, but I don't need/want her to tell me!

Resolutions: 1)lose weight, partly for my own health (NOT to keep MiL happy!) and secondly for the benefit of Project TTC which will probably start in late 2013/2014.

2)Start seriously saving for a house deposit.

3)Pass my exams.

Aww the feeling is more than mutual my lovely! You are welcome any time, we loved having you! And ? at the toothbrush I forgot all about that! Bless him!