**2013 Good/Bad/Resolution Thread**

2013 has been the best year of my life I really feel sad about it ending 2014 can only go down hill.

Good- Got married and had the most amazing day.

Good- Won a fabulous pre wedding holiday to St Vincent, thanks Hitched!

Good- Had a fabulous honeymoon to Vietnam, Borneo and Singapore.

Good- Recieved a fat PPI rebate

Good- Thanks to the rebate I managed to clear all my outstanding debts and am now 100% debt free.

Good- Reached my target weight in time of my wedding

Good- Met/made some lovely otters/friends this year.

Bad- I feel like I wished the first half of the year away on the count down to my wedding I feel like I only really lived the last 6 months of this year.

2014- hmm the last 6 months have been so crazy I have not even thought about next year.

This is a good idea

2013 was a really bad year for us. We are only hoping next year will be better. Had a very special member of the family pass away this year which was devastating and we are still hurting over it, especially at this time of year. Another relative had a fall and has been in hospital over Christmas but fingers crossed he will be out next week. We have also had various other family problems, money problems, job issues etc.

One good thing is I got put on miracle medication roaccutane for my skin and in the 3 months I have been on it I am virtually spot free. And to have gone from severe cystic acne to this feels incredible.

Next year we are getting married, I finish uni, hopefully going on holiday and paying back the people we owe money to! (only family though) I can't wait for 2014 to begin, feels like a clean slate.

Really hope everyone has a happy, healthy 2014!

Im glad the tablets worked for your Hoddy- I know how down it was making you.

Ok here goes-

****BT References****

Good, we bought our lovely house after an 8 month process. Now I cant believe we ever lived anywhere else.

Good, I got my little car. I've never had a new car in 13 years of driving so to have one feels very special and grown up.

Good, am enjoying watching the small people grown up and see personalities developing

Good- My Sister falling pregnant at the miracle age of 46, shes absolutely blooming

Good- Seeing close friends get married

Good-Our minibreak to France- it was so much fun.

Good- what an amazing summer! We spent it all at the beach or in our garden having BBQ's

Bad- Money troubles, I know some people get by on much less but we are finding it really tough and H is back in debt again.

Bad-Lost a close friend from uni at the age of 29 in June.

Bad-My Mum is deteriorating rapidly, she cant hold a coherent conversation anymore and its so sad.

Bad-The ex is still dominating our lives

Bad-Im feeling very unappreciated at work and have done pretty much all year.

Looking forward to in 2014-

Being debt free by July

Meeting my new niece or nephew in Febuary

Hopefully a holiday- im desperate to see some sun!

Ahh what a year!!

Theres been mega highs and lows this year!

Good - Having Dylan arrive in january was epic...and life changing obvioulsy. Who knew something so small could bring so much fun and excitement?!

Good - Many friends who I have wished for many a time have fallen pregnant finally ❤️

Good - meeting more hitchers and making them real friends ?

And then the bads...

Bad - Being forced out of my most recent place of work..it was a tough couple of months and left me in a bad bad palce

Bad - Suffering with *and breathe* PND and waiting months for a diagnosis. It has been very very hard, both on myself and mr F. The above job situation has not helped things.

Bad - having too many interviews to count yet not actually getting any of the jobs

2014 Hopes...hundreds!

I intend to have a job by February that fits me not the other way around

I also intend to get my mojo back...ive lost it and despite best efforts, have never really had it back for longer then a couple of days at a time!

Going on my first proper holiday since Honeymoon in October, and Dylans first abroad holiday!

Meeting up with friends more often

Creating new and fun memories for D..starting with shi first birthday in January!

Mines *BT* related.

Amazing: finally getting pregnant after almost 18 months post mc. Sometimes I still have to pinch myself because I can't quite believe it.

Good: after years of working his arse off doing crappy hours H is finally in a nice 9-5 job and really enjoying it, and we actually get to spend some proper time together.

Bad: mum and dad are struggling, dad lost his job a few months ago under horrid circumstances (they're going to court over it) and he's decided to bite the bullet and go self employed. They've had no income for 4 months though as he is starting from scratch so I really hope it takes off soon for them.

Bad: had a lot of trouble on the IL's side with the German and our niece. They are flying over for her birthday next month but aren't even sure they will get to see her.

Next Year: we're having a baby! I'm hoping it will be the best year ever. Working January then off for the rest of 2014. I just can't wait to meet out little man. 7 weeks to go!!

Good: Had a lovely honeymoon and the holiday of a lifetime driving across America

Good: Bought our first home

Good: Adopted our cat baby

Good: Meeting some awesome Hitchers and making fantastic friends

Bad: H's mental health problems have been pretty bad, and has almost brought us to breaking point twice this year

Good: We are finally in the process of getting him proper treatment

Bad: Money worries

Good/bad: Begun the slow process of fertility testing

Hopes: For H to start getting the right treatment and start getting better, to get out of debt, for H to hopefully go back to work, for me to lose weight and maintain a healthy BMI and to hopefully be in a position to begin fertility treatment by the end of the year.

BT related

Good - after what feels like many, many months of trying finally got our BFP and baby due in August

Good - settled in to our first home (moved in 2 days before Christmas last year)

Good - so so happy with my little lot

Bad - nothing this year qualifies as this and I am so so grateful for this

No resolutions other than the boring, standard, be healthy exercise and food-wise as not just for my benefit while.

Hopes - to have healthy little baby next summer

Happy New Year to all the otters!

Peanut - special new year wishes to you. I hope everything goes ok with fertility testing and the news is positive. So, so positive that your H is getting the proper treatment and 2014 is good to you and your H

Good - we've seen 2 good friends get married this year which were both amazing days. My H also had an op to solve his carpal tunnel which has made work and home a lot easier for him.

All in all 2013 has been a pretty good year. My only bad is that my little brother went off to afghan for the first time but this is counteracted by how much he is enjoying it.

2014 is going to be a good 'un too I think, we've got a fabulous holiday to cuba in a few weeks. My brother and both my best friends are getting married and towards the end of the year we're hoping to start ttc. All topped off by seeing my brother come home.

I hope all you otters get the 2014 you're hoping for

I'll get the bad out of the way then go onto the good.

Bad - hitting the lowest part of my life in February when a combination of issues (with marriage, family, work) led to me having a breakdown. I wasn't coping as well as I thought and the strain on my health and marriage is something I never want to repeat. It took me far too long to ask for help and advice, particularly from you lovely lot.

Good - the above has turned into a positive. H and I are now far better at communicating and we looked into the areas of our lives where we needed to make changes and have made those changes.

Good - Mine and H's mini-break to London was great fun, as was our holiday in Croatia. Also the Bristol mini hitched meet. Getting on a train on my own and going to an unfamiliar city was a big step and helped my confidence a lot.

Good - H's weight loss. He's lost over 4 stone, is happier in himself and is a lot calmer.

Good - my Mum's improvements in her mobility after her hip replacement.

*BT reference*

Good - Finding out that we're expecting - baby due in July.

I'm looking forward to 2014. We've got a wedding in August (H is best man) and hopefully the safe arrival of our little one in July. Prior to that we're going to make an effort to do lots of things together - enjoying more walks, day trips, finishing the house, etc.

Thanks lovely. I am feeling really positive that we have some kind of "plan", even though I'm sure it won't be easy. I hope you have a fantastic 2014 too, although it is obviously going to be a massively exciting year for you anyway!!

After a very good 2012 my 2013 started off well with a magical weekend when we got engaged last Jan and focussing on wedding planning helped me not to dwell on other things.

Other goods have been

Seen my dad loads more this year as we've been able to fly over more and vice versa it's been lovely

Two wonderful holidays

A wicked engagement party with all my family and friends all in one place

Lots of lovely memories made with family and friends

I've discovered hitched and coming on here and meeting otters has been lovely

Bads are

I'm struggling to keep my fitness and weight in check and really need to stay focussed and motivated this year

After six good months my health seems to be getting worse again and I need to work out what's made it worse

I need to start thinking about what my next step is career wise

Hopes for 2014 are that my friends and family continue to stay happy and healthy and that oh and I continue to go from strength to strength. I'm really looking forward to our wedding and honeymoon and hopefully we will get to move house and just enjoy life in the company of our family and friends. And also more straight hair thanks to my ghds :-)

Hugs to those otters who haven't had a great year and hopefully 2014 will be a good one for all of us!

Great idea for a thread Tizzie. I'll be saying goodbye to 2013 with a mixture of emotions.

**Some BT refs**

Bad:

Had some horrible rows this year - first with my sisters and then with the in-laws - I don't think they are all my fault and have spent a lot of 2013 re-examining how I deal with things (and in tears unfortunately)

Tough times at work - struggled to command respect with my team but that's getting better now (also in the good section!)

Good:

Got married to the love of my life

Bought our first home

Sister had her second baby who has Downs syndrome but is in perfect physical health which is wonderful considering she was told he would need two massive operations on his heart in the first 6 months of his life - his only disability right now is his learning disabilities which is wonderful

Went to some lovely weddings of really good friends & was lovely to see them so happy

H got a well deserved promotion and a lovely pay increase

Despite my struggle with my team in my job in the first half of the year, things have started to go well and i had a really good positive end of year review with my boss

Resolutions:

Stop smoking once and for all

Cut down on drink

Lose weight, get fit & get into some good routines with my well-being

Finish the house renovations

Hopefully start TTC'ing in the latter half of the year

*some BT*

Good: reflux subsided, easy pregnancy and perfect planned c-section for our little man. Recovery a million times better than before.

Good: Got good PPI payouts (prompted to chase by Otters).

Good: Bought our first house a year ahead ofschedule. Although Bad: moved when baby was 8 weeks so really stressful and frustrating

Good: Good health for our dog (she had cancerous lumps removed 3 times in 2011/12)

Bad: stress of baby/moving etc has made things a bit rocky in our marriage. Which wasn't what you want in the first year

No real otherbands? Overall the year has been good to us. Especially health wise. Family all made it through OK.

2014...

Hope family still OK. Hubbys grandad in his 90s and getting less mobile.

All being well we will beputting a conservatory on the house this summer. Money depending though as we want to pay for it without borrowing.

A good friendgetting married although not until December so ages to wait!!

Hopefullyu stop breastfeeding in August. That will mean I can leave both kids with grandparents and go out. And drink. I intend to be drunk on NYE next year!

Also looking forward to not being pregnant/ breastfeeding and having my body back. Its been owned by the boys since July 2010, with a gap of about 5 months

Not sure if itspossible but would be nice to meet some otters this year!l

I feel like I've blinked and 2013 has whizzed by!

Good:

We are getting married this year!

Also very excited about our honeymoon, haven't had a holiday since June 2011 and never been all inclusive (although not so looking forward to flying).

After four years after losing his perfect job then doing crappy minimum wage and commission only jobs OH finally has a pretty good job, is being recognised for his hard work, got a promotion and pay rise. He doesn't want to stay doing that forever but it's a step in the right direction and he's so much happier and has more confidence.

Found and joined Hitched and had a great time at the Hitched meet. You're all lovely.

My nephew is growing up to be a gorgeous, polite and absolutely wonderful little man.

Have had a lovely time planning our wedding even though the year has gone so fast.

I've always liked doing creative things like baking and crafts and so on but never thought I was any good at it but I've really had a confidence boost this year making our invitations and Xmas pressies.

Our families are happy my brother has a new girlfriend who seems lovely and my sister has a new boyfriend who she now lives with and is very happy.

My friends are happy and healthy as can be too (touchwood).

Went a lovely friends wedding this year and it was beautiful.

Our hamster baby Bumble is still going strong after he was two in October/November (roborovski hamsters only live up to two years). He's a bit slower now and doesn't run marathons in his wheel anymore but he's still pretty active for his age and is still the same funny little character (he jumped up in his cage last night to see the fireworks on tv!).

I've managed to lose a fair bit of weight this year (about 2 stone), so I'm really happy about that but want to lose another stone before our wedding in April, it's really boosted my confidence.

Even though we've been skint this year and we've not been able to get out as much as we'd like for days out, date nights etc we've still really enjoyed ourselves this year and been ad happy as ever.

We treated ourselves to going ice skating at Tower of London last week it was absolutely amazing, a very special day and I shall remember it for a long time.

Bad:

Both of our remaining grandmothers passed away this year within 2 months of each other.

Work still isn't great and still looking for a new job but I am thankful I have one.

We've been skint this year while saving for the wedding.

For the first time in his life OH has put on a little weight and it's really bothering him, I'm trying to boost his confidence and make him see that nothing has changed in my eyes as I fancy and love him so much as I have always done and I don't even notice it, only when he talks out about it. It's almost like we've switched because I was in the same place a couple of years ago so I hate to think he's feeling this way and wish I could do more.

With the wedding coming up I'm thinking more and more about my mum and that she won't be there to see me get married and it's making me very emotional and fragile.

Resolutions:

OH and I are going to start exercising together this year, we will be so much more motivated and stick to it when both of us are doing it.

To have a summer or year of fun after our wedding when we'll have more money. Thinking more days out, more date nights, weekends away, maybe a festival and a trip to Paris if we can afford it, can't wait.

To carry on eating a balanced diet and stay as healthy for the rest of the year. I know I'll put a bit of weight on after the wedding but I don't want to pile three stone on again. If we carry on exercising that's even better.

Sorry for the waffle!

Good : had a few great memories, best friend got wed, had a few days break with oh in London, got our rescue dog,

Bad: the rows with oh isn't getting better , I feel like I am being pushed out of my own family feck them then I have my friends..

Resoloutions : get a divorce and find a man that treats me descent and that doesn't batter me, get a new job that does not involve children, get my finances in order.. and live life more to the full.

Oh leni, will you get a divorce do you think?

Happy New Year, otters!

? Leni, hope you're ok.

Good:

We sold our old house which is helping to get our finances on track

H changed jobs & got a payrise and was then asked back by his old employer, with another payrise and a more senior position. This is also helping us get straight with our finances.

Bad:

H's health - he was seriously ill in March/April with a kidney condition and he had another relapse with it in November although far less serious thanks to the careful monitoring by his Nephrologist. He's just been diagnosed with the start of osteoporosis and had a pneumothorax after a broken rib in December. It's like Holby City in our house at times

Work. Already the anxiety is starting to tug at me and I'm not back until the 6th.

Resolutions/Hopes:

That we achieve a nice happy medium with H's health, where his kidneys are doing what they're supposed to do and he's not in pain from his Ank Spond (it was the medication for this which damaged his kidneys in the first place)

That we continue to sort out our finances.

My job, I hope that things get easier.

Good (BT) - One of my very close friends who was TTC for a long time has fallen pregnant.

Bad - My sister's marriage officially ended a few days before Christmas when the divorce waas finalised. It's been painful to watch my sister change from the usually very happy person she normally is to someone deeply hurt, upset and heartbroken.

2014 - Both myself and my brother get married within 6 months of eachother so it should be a happy, positive year..... a bit bitter sweet though when taking in to consideration my 'bad 2013' as I do worry about how my sister really feels about both her siblings getting married when her marriage has ended.

sorry didn't mean to be woe me .. who knows what will happen, but I just need some ''loving'' might go on zook or match.com ?

EDIT; I want some of k's resoloutions .. more sex ?

Good in 2013-BT Refs

• Finally a new job after 2 yrs of searching
• Laser eye surgery has massively improved my day to day life
• Took up running & can run 4 miles straight
• Had a fab holiday
• Finally bought a new car, a Nissan juke after much longing

Bad

• Bring diagnosed with skin cancer malignant melanoma - had a stressful painful operation, got all clear week before Christmas
• Fertility problems - undergoing tests & having a horrific HSG which I have made a formal complaint about
• Money scarce

However on Friday I discovered I was pregnant!!!! doc reckons 6weeks - we are overjoyed at our luck as we were starting fertility treatment next week. So 2014 is beginning wonderfully. I'm due in August.

we have a long wkend in Newcastle (Christmas present from OH) to see Jack Whitehall & have booked an apartment. We also have a wedding & my 30th birthday this year.

We need to get ready for our arrival & get some serious saving done but all is generally well.

Peace, love & happiness to otters.

I can't believe this year has flown by!!

Good:

- I got engaged

- I secured a new job

- I moved in with my fiance

- Finding out I'm pregnant

- Clearing all debts!!!

Bad:

- Issues at work

- Issues with my mum but shes made her bed and she can lay in it

Looking forward to in 2014:

- Finalising on the house we are buying

- Going on my 12 months maternity

- Having our first baby

- Getting married

- Enjoying life

Congratulations SaSasi, wonderful news!

Wow SaSaSi... That's fantastic news!!

2013 hasn't been too bad, finally moved into our forever home after a 60 week epic process, had a (mostly) lovely holiday to Cuba, my dad came over from Spain for a visit (first time I've seen him since Aug 2011). A lot of friends who have been through some tough times, but also a lot of good news for them too. I am truly grateful for what I have.

*BT* 2014 brings an exciting arrival, hopefully a finished bathroom and lots of time with friends and family. Hopefully a trip to Spain and Cornwall in there too.

Much otter love for those in need, and a high five for the rest. I love you all.

*p.s. for those on my fb, the new arrival isn't public knowledge on there yet, thank you please!

Congratulations Mrs C and SaSiSi!

What an exciting year for all the otters!

I think my year was mostly good, I just kind of plodded along as always

Good - we finally booked and started planning the wedding

Good - I finally learned how to manage my finances effectively

Good - Got a new job with a decent salary that I actually enjoy

Good - met some lovely people both through my new job and wedding planning

Good - I have 3 happy, healthy children who are all doing well at school

Good - OH and I had our very first child-free weekend away together

Bad - I lost my job and had a stressful 6 weeks trying to find a new one

yep... definitely a good year, the job loss is literally the only negative I can think of.

Hopes & Resolutions - I hope I can still get into my wedding dress after going from a job where I was physically active all day to sitting at a desk and have piled on the pounds. I resolve to lose said pounds! I really just hope for another relatively uneventful year. It's taken me 36 years to have one and I quite enjoyed it so more of the same would be nice!

BAD - Fined £600+ for car tax

GOOD - Finally got that (small) pay rise

2014, get this wedding out of the way, redecorate the study and organise a nice holiday to relax

Thanks ladies...it's a big shock to the system , I have spent so long reading up & learning about getting pregnant, fertility treatments & not delving into pregnancy, labour etc...now all of a sudden I am having a baby

Wow congratulations mrs c and sasasi!

2013 = meh.

Two miscarriages in the space of three months has kind of tainted the whole year tbh.

There have been other bads but they don't compare so I cant even be arsed to go into them.

There have been some goods:

Had a lovely 1st anniversary trip to Scotland in March

Met some lovely Hitchers

Had some fantastic times with friends - if there's one area of life I'm blessed in it's my friendships

Love on Top is growing nicely

Some of my favourite people got their BFPs after some very long hard struggles

2014:

We want to move house. It's not going to be easy but there's a glimmer of hope

I really hope our TTC efforts are successful soon

H is hoping to make steps to improve his happiness in his work

All in all, 2013 can do one.

(Please don't quote anything ?)

2013 has been my best year yet

Good *BT ref*

Getting Married, honeymoon in Florida where we did some amazing things, falling pregnant, buying our next home, H got a pay rise.

Bad

Some family issues that have been going on for a few years but I can cope with those.

2014

Hopefully move into our new house fairly soon as its taking an age! Meet our little girl in April.

Tears in my eyes reading this, hope that 2014 proves to be much better for lots of otters and many congratulations and healthy wishes to all the baby otters due this year-i hope to see many more BFPs for otters this year.

AFM-wedding, job and move all boxed off in 2013. this year I hope to qualify, boyo have a permanent job somehow related to his degree. My Grandad to be cared for in a decent nursing home. My brother and sister in law to have an awesome wedding. Hopefully move again somewhere more permanent and sort my skin out.

Oh and MEET MORE OTTERS! ?