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2013. Is anyone putting off getting hitched this year?? Triskaidekaphobics?

The Wedding Singer, 3 January, 2013 at 11:28 Posted on Planning 0 41

Hi all

Just wondering if any of you, or any one you know, has put off planning your big day for 2013 becuase of fear of the number 13??

I did a wedding fayre last month and there was a BBC breakfast news crew filming and asking this very same question. I'm hoping to write a piece on it myself and was wondering if there are any Triskaidekaphobics out there who are, or would consider, actually postponing their day to avoid the number 13??

James

41 replies

Latest activity by The Wedding Singer, 7 January, 2013 at 10:17
  • *gnashers*
    Beginner October 2013
    *gnashers* ·
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    Most definitely not.

    We were actually going to get married on Friday 13th just to go completely whacko...only didn't happen as we chose a venue we couldn't afford in September!

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  • snow-woman
    Beginner April 2013
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    Not for a second! we want to get married - forever - the year we start that isn't going to make a difference!

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  • L
    Beginner December 2012
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    Hi, I didnt put it off but in a similar train of thought I got married sooner so as not to get married in 2013! I'm a bit funny anyway with odd numbers (I set my morning alarm ending in 2 ie.6.02 am, have to have car heaters, television volume etc on an even number) and so when we got engaged on christmas day 2011 the options were to get married christmas 2013 or get married christmas 2012 and push ourselves on savings. We went for 28.12.12 (a nice even number!) which means we do have some debt but it was worth it to me!! ? 2014 was far too long to wait!! x

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  • Flukey35
    Beginner July 2013
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    Not in the slightest.

    Our wedding is 13.07.13 at 1pm (13:00).

    I have 13 stones in my engagement ring (not intentional but a lovely surprise when I realised) and will have 13 in my wedding ring (which is intentional).

    My OH lucky number is 13 and it's also the date of his Mums Birthday.

    13 rocks!!!!

    xxx

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  • Going2theChapel
    Beginner March 2013
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    No way! Smiley smile for me it makes it even better Smiley smile 23.03.13 bride

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  • vintagedreams
    Beginner August 2013
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    It never even occurred to me, we were struggling for a venue in August 2012 so we waited a year till 2013. I think there is enough in real life to worry about without adding on worry about unlucky dates or numbers. I personally try to think that things happen for a reason in a positive way. ( often after an initial temper tantrum of its not fair, why me etc) so for example when our first venue lost their lease hold, I lost my venue, but I gained a venue I had ruled out on price, loosing the first venue caused my parents to offer to pay the difference, hey presto I had a venue I had never thought I'd be able to have. Of course it is possible I lost my first venue due to it being a 2013 wedding but I dunno how you explain the end of 2012 brides who also lost out!

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  • The Wedding Singer
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    Haha. Yes, I'd definitely agree with most of you and wouldn't change something so important just because of a number.

    Does anyone know of any stats that suggest that this year is a quieter year for weddings than last year?

    Lea2012 - my girlfrind is the same with numbers - she'll never set her alarm for a number that isn't odd!! Interesting though, how you not only avoided 13 but went for a "nice even number"!

    Do we think that, in general, people are more likely to be number-phobic for a really important event, such as their wedding day, than for something more trivial, such as setting their alarm?

    Would be interested to know what everyone else thinks!

    James

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  • diliphirani
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    I asked a similar question here last year. Seems ages ago. Anyway, a number is just a number. I am glad there are so many bride-to-be's that aren't put off by silly superstitions. Every number is lucky.

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  • Kylieb191
    Beginner June 2024 Lincolnshire
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    I sadly had to push my wedding back to next year because a family friend is getting married on the same day we was going to get married and then two weeks later my cousin (who is only inviting auntie and uncles to her wedding) is getting married and my parents will be going away to Barbados in February too =( but atleast I got to try on my first ever wedding dress yesterday Smiley smile

    As I was doing that the lady who owns the dress store told me that her phone has been off the hook because of people wanting to get married because of the year =\

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  • I
    Beginner October 2013
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    In a word.....no!

    I don't understand, because if you were put off by 2013, why would getting married be any different from any other decision or action that you make that year. Are these people just going to hibernate until 2014 for fear of anything they do turning bad?

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  • I
    Beginner October 2013
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    Also forgot to say, I've already been invited to more weddings that will be taking place in 2013 than I have in any other year, so don't think it is putting off anyone i know!

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  • Purple*Sparkles
    Beginner June 2013
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    I am over the moon that my wedding is in 2013. We decided when we got engaged it would be a 3 year engagement, didn't give it much thought that this would make my wedding in 2013. 13 is a lucky number in my family, 13 crops up lots in big events but they have all been non planned events, ie mum and dad got their first house keys on the 13th, I was born on the 13th, my dad is born on the 13th, I was 13 on Friday the 13th. We then realised our wedding was 2013. I recently went wedding ring shopping, OH and I fell in love with one ring for me, agreed to buy it and then i asked how many diamonds it has.........you guessed it......13! When the shop assistant told me, she was worried that would make me not want it, she explained that 13 is the shops lucky number as they are at number 13 in the street among other reasons!!! I then explained the meaning of 13 to us and it was smiles all round!! I hadn't even noticed the shop was number 13!!

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  • Katherine Courtney Weddings
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    There are some amazing deals to negotiate this year as a result of the "2013 Fear Factor." I would highly suggest couples consider the advantages that may come their way by scheduling their big day in this special year.

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  • pandorasbox
    Beginner August 2012
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    I wanted to avoid 2013 because of the connotation with 13. I don't think anything bad would have happened because of 13, just I don't like the associations. I wanted to wait til 2014 but hubby wanted 2012 so he won.

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  • freckles87
    Beginner May 2013
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    When me and OH first got together, we used to joke about when we were going to get married and I always said I would never get married in 2013. I'm quite strange about odd numbers, but to be honest it doesn't bother me at all when I think about it. It's just another year. Plus when someone mentioned that this is the first year since 1987 that has all different numbers in it, and I was born in 1987, it kind of fits in a weird way!

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  • The Wedding Singer
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    So, from this very unscientific study of about 10 responses Smiley smile most of you see the idea of avoiding this year due to it being unlucky is nonsense, but there are a couple of you who have actively avoided getting married in 2013.

    Extrapolate that over all engaged couples (about 20%) and it could point to far fewer weddings than in a 'normal' year. Also, to bear in mind that the most posters on here are likely to be planning for this year, and their very presence means that they are not bothered by an 'unlucky year', we may have more 13 phobes out there than we thought!!

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  • Chris Giles Photography
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    We aren't getting married until 2014 as we don't like the number 13, superstition or otherwise. Plus more time to save up.

    With regards the wider wedding community every person I've spoken to who has been trading a few years are claiming to be down somewhat. This mirrors my findings at wedding fairs last year. I had two around October and nearly every couple I spoke to were 2014's

    One venue I was at last week were down so much they were pushing more corporate stuff, mystery evenings etc.

    I've only given anecdotes from those who I consider are established, not in a period of growth and are consistent in the industry.

    Everyone is blaming the superstition thing but I think it's just going to be a bit flat this year for no specific reason.

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  • Jen31601
    Beginner March 2013
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    We didn't even question the year. I never worry when it's Friday 13th so to me it is just a number. We got engaged at the beginning of 2012 and 2013 just seemed the perfect choice to us.

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  • unexpectedpenny
    Beginner January 2013
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    I'd have waited to 2014 but my nans health brought it forward (I really wanted her at the wedding)

    Not because of superstition though! I do prefer even numbers but haven't worried something bad will happen because of the number 13.

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  • The Wedding Singer
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    Interesting Chris! I'm very slightly down on last year, but up on the year before - certainly not by a concerning amount or even enough to think it's some kind of trend. But very interesting to hear others are finding this year quiet. Like I said in my last post, even if it's only 20% of people that are avoid 2013, it's enough to make a fair old dent in everybody's calender!

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  • Chris Giles Photography
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    Agreed,

    I think 2012 was a bumper year for many anyway so that will skew peoples thoughts on this year already.

    I had a few weddings in November and December where they brought it forward.

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  • quackers
    Beginner August 2013
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    I wanted to get married in 2013 I picked it as this year it is my mum and dad's 25th Wedding anniversary and my nan and gdad's 50th so I liked the tradition!

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  • quackers
    Beginner August 2013
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    What advantages just because of the year?

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  • I
    Beginner October 2013
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    I certainly haven't come across any deals because it's 2013! If only....

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  • LilMissBusyBride
    Beginner August 2013
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    I find it odd that ppl would avoid it (even if I do prefer the sound of an even number!). My take on this is life is too short and imperfect already...get married when the time is right for you rather than focusing on details like the year!

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  • C
    Beginner June 2015
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    We are getting married in 2015 cos we need plenty of time to save! However, personally, I would avoid getting married in 2013 or on the 13th for that matter. That's purely my personal opinion, my OH doesn't see any problem with the number 13, but I do avoid it. Likewise, Id never live at number 13!

    xx

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  • Mrs C
    Beginner March 2011
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    I don't like the number 13 but I don't think I would have moved a wedding because of it... I prefer even numbers to odd but got married 19 03 11!

    Could it just be that no-one really has money to spend as the economy is still pants? Would be interesting to see which elements of the wedding industry are noticing a squeeze. Essentials vs nice to have?

    I don't see suppliers offering deals just because of the year.

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  • diliphirani
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    I think most suppliers offer deals all the time. When someone calls me and says they want me to work with them but the budget is tight, my first question is what is your budget. I try to work out a way forward.

    If someone calls and their first question is what do I charge, I am far less flexible.

    I would be surprised if most suppliers are different.

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  • *Nursey*
    Beginner May 2012
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    When we got engaged at the end of 2010, I said to OH that we had to get married in 2012 as 2011 was too soon to save and 2013 was unlucky!

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    Beginner July 2013
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    Exactly this!

    although when we booked our venue the wedding organiser there told us a lot of people have delayed until 2014!

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    Beginner July 2013
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    Exactly what snow woman says . Never gave it a thought we just knew we wanted to get married and when we got engaged we knew we will have saved enough by 2013.

    although the wedding organiser at our venue told us a lot of people had delayed weddings until the following year !

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  • L
    Beginner September 2013
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    Nope! My married name will be Baker - Baker's dozen is 13 and lucky for us! Smiley smile

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