2nd time Brides...

Yep i am just the same....last time i got married in my most fave place....had a theme that had the WOW factor.....everyone said it was the most fun wedding they had ever been too....and now i got to top that....HOW THE HECK DO I DO THAT?

H2B has been married before and he had small wedding and wants to go bigger....so we having church wedding which i didnt do last time...i am getting married in white as well which i didnt do last time....but this wedding is gonna be about us and the love we have found for each other in my little corner of suffolk where i live (he is Australian and lives in Melbourne)

Dont want anything like last time....I told my friends i didnt want anything that i had at my last wedding and they thought i meant them!?

Hi, in a way it's easy for me as my OH hasn't been married before and I got married abroad 1st time around.

All I say is trends and fashions change change so just choose things that are liked by you both regardless of your theme's and decor 1st time, , , , xx

I agree with loveska its my 2nd my hubbys first some things are the same ish as in its a reg office but the one i did get married in has closed down and the new one is the guildhall in bath loads bigger a little more posh so although sort of the same different as well if some of the things you really want mean something to you then have them no one will think oh they had that at their last wedding well i wouldnt anyway, i think the only thing i would prob remember from one to the other if i was a guest would be the music but i doubt anyone would have the same twice as for the dress fashion has changed you will fall in love with another im sure of it, i can honestly say im not sure the first one was the one for me anymore as i love this one a gazillion times more x

I am a 2nd time bride. My first marriage took place in Cyprus followed by a church blessing and village hall reception back in the UK, so quite low key which was all I wanted then. This wedding will be my big dream wedding so I am really enjoying planning it.

I wouldn't focus on trying to top your last wedding and dress, I would just plan a wedding that suits both of your styles today

I'm a 2nd timer too, my H2B is a 1st timer. My first wedding was big; posh manor, big dress, fancy food etc etc.

However this one is totally different. A big influential factor is because we don't have much spare money, with our little boy. More importantly though, we both recognise that the wedding is about our family trio being together and having a happy day. My dress is totally different, its a registery office wedding, and we're having the wedding late, so that we only have to pay for one meal (which if we dont have the cash for will be a cold buffet and not a hot one).

We both want to expand the family and buy a house, so I'd rather spend my thousands (if I had them lol) on a deposit for a house.

Can you honestly say your tastes and ideas haven't changed since your first wedding? I'm a second time bride and I feel this time that I'm in complete control, I can have exactly what I want (what WE want), and I don't have to pander to the wishes of my parents, OH's parents, family, convention or tradition. I think 2nd time around you have a chance to learn from the first time, not only about weddings but about yourself.

Who cares if something that is definately YOU ends up being echoed in your 2nd wedding. If you like a certain style of dress stick with it, if you like a specific design for invitations then have them.

2nd time Groom here...

This time, I'm much more involved and interested. The first time around, we had a 1yr old daughter, and I was happy to look after here whilst my ex was arranging things with her parents. We were young, and it feels ages ago..

My daughter is now 14 and one of our bridesmaids.

My thoughts - I'm getting married because I want to, we've looked hard at our suppliers to get the best we can afford. I'm also much older and slightly wiser than I was 12 years ago!

The more recent "2nd time around" Weddings I've attended have been very relaxed, the couples simply enjoy the day, and dare I say are less stressed.

For me, the invites, and even the venue is not too important - I'm simply looking forward to the ceremony and being together with Carmen, and sharing this moment with our friends.

We are both second time round and to be honest i'm finding it fairly easy really! OH married in 1984, myself in 1993, and so much has changed in the style of weddings since then, its not difficult to be completely different.

For me the first Wedding to some extent was controlled by my parents, as they were paying for most things, the OH cant' remember what he did last week let alone back in 84.

So, for our wedding we are doing what we want to do, we are doing what is us, and to be honest its tuff luck to anyone who doesn't approve and believe me there are a few!!?

WSS

Yeah , agree that, you taste maybe changed ,due to the time,suggest you choose a different style wedding dress this time. also fingure out another another wedding theme, it'll work, be more confidence, you'll have a perfect wedding.

I think some of my tastes have changed... I no longer care about impressing anyone else or pleasing them anymore, it will be exactly what I want.

Maybe the whole situation just seems similar (although the absence of butterflys last time was an indicator..... lol) and perhaps after it is all done I will look back and think how different the 2 were.

Thanks for all your replies though

Agree ?

I got married for the 2nd time in August this year (hence my username lol!) and I wanted this wedding to be a lot less formal than my previous one back in 1996. I deliberately chose different things this time in terms of stationery, dress, flowers, food everything I wanted no comparisons. I got married in church last time in 1996 and had the full veil, bridesmaids, confetti, speeches, receiving line the lot. This time we had none of the formal stuff we wanted the day to be about us celebrating and having a good time with friends and family around us which is exactly what we did. ?

Oh yes!!! You could be me! I had always said I'd never marry again because how could I? First time, the day was perfect - my perfect dress, my favourite music, my favourite colours, my perfect venue. To marry again would mean duplicating the day, or settling for second best. Mainly for that very reason we're getting married abroad, alone. That way, the music can't be classical (we get African drums and that's that!), the menu can't be traditional, the dress can't be the amazing gold couture 18th century costume I had made before, it's not practical. I only agreed to marry H2b on the basis that we do something so completely different that nothing can be compared, even by me, otherwise I'd get upset and regretful. Any hint of UK tradition / style or my preferences and I'd not be able to do it again! With an African destination wedding, it's all SO different it's not a problem