A bit of a moan and some advice needed please.

Oh you poor thing, it sounds like there's always going to be something on, doesn't it?! Personally, now that you know of these dates, if I were you, I'd pick a brand new one, issue save the dates/emails/texts immediately & stick to it. No matter what you do, there will always be something else on, someone's birthday, big wedding anniversary, big football game and, short from asking everyone to suggest a date to you (don't do this!), you're going to clash no matter what.

Ours is the day before my brother's 40th & the day of my twin cousins birthday and we have come under a little fire from it but we had to go with it so we've just carried on. I've apologised to my bro (he wasn't one bit bothered - it was everyone else commenting!) & the twins & plan to make a little deal of them on the day!

I think it's fine, it would probably be like a nice big family honeymoon?

Stick with your new date and just tell everyone you have booked it, quickly get out the save the date cards ;-)

I would just book the date you want as long as it is not the exact date of an event already scheduled, there is always going to be something happening.

I personally wouldn't worry about birthdays and other arrangements. If you want to change it, then change it, but don't do it for anyone but yourselves. It's my H2B's Dad's birthday 2 weeks before our wedding but we wanted to have 17th May so we could avoid spending mega bucks on a honeymoon during the summer vacation. I still can't believe he rang us to ask us to pay for him to have a big cat keeper experience day for his birthday, 2 weeks before our wedding!

MrsStobe13 xx

Thanks for your replies.

It would be difficult to find another date that would work.

If we are going to get married next year, it has to be before Wedding Season starts as we work in the Wedding industry, and there is no time to be taking days off once or busy period starts.

So the dates that are no goes are

Feb 18th OH's Bro's 40th

March 1st - The date we have reserved.

March 7th - 10th - Center Parcs Trip

March 12th- Our Daughters Birthday

Match 17th - Oh's other Bro's Birthday

March 22nd Granny's 80th Birthday

Match 26th - My Mum's 60th Birthday

March 3oth Mother's Day - This is another very busy work time for us.

April 4th - Oh's dad's 65th Birthday

Any date after this is pushing it as Peak Wedding season is starting.

Can anyone see where we can fit a Wedding in there without steping on toomany toes. I think maybe I am struggling to be objective!

What about before Februty 18th?

I think the date you booked is ok, there is a week before and after the other dates, isn't it?

Would people have to travel to your wedding? Thinking of hotel/petrol/train expenses for them, really?

Have you checked if all these people have plans for big do's for their birthdays? If they are only planning a meal out, wouldn't it be ok to book your wedding at the same day and celebrate it also with the whole family?

That's an idea...

There will ALWAYS ALWAYS be something that doesn't fit with the date.

Just go with what you think and people will fit in around you, it's your wedding! And I think people should be able to adjust things a little so you can have your wedding.

Good luck

N

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Thank you for all your replies. It really helps to hear the views from others who are detatched from the situation.

I have sat and and mulled it all over in my mind, and have decided to stick with March 1st.

The date was signifcant when we chose it, and the sentimental reason for the date will be lost if we move to another.

1st March is St David's Day. My Grampie sadly passed away in February this year and lived in Wales for the last 30 years of his life, my Grandparents retired there as my Granny is Welsh. So the date is a little nod to his memory,and also my distant Welsh heritage.

Our family have spent lots of happy times in Wales and we plan to have Places names as our table names, with photo's of us at each place as part of our table centres. I appreciate that we could still do this if we changed the date, but it wouldn't mean quite as much.

We are also planning a yellow and cream with a dash of purple as our colours, using lots of daffodils, as it's St David's Day.

Good for you. I was just about to say carry on with your date!

Just read your message. Glad you're sticking with it. It's your big day so you should have it when you want it. If you worry about everyone else's dates it could be pushed back even further. Good luck with the wedding planning x

I'd stick with 1st March, but surely that will mean you can't make the centre parks trip either since you'll be on honeymoon. Still, honeymoon or centre parks, I know which I'd prefer!

We will honeymoon later in the year, in the school holidays, so that we can take our daughters with us, not everyones cup of tea I know, bit it would seem very odd to leave them at home.

We shall have a mini moon for just us, in April.