A bit of a WWYD/AIBU

Minerva, that's me told ?

Chook, I fear skipping would totally knacker my knee once and for all.

ETA - thanks again, everyone, wise words here as I'd expect from Hitchers.

Move in together. Within a few months you won't want to talk to him anymore so won't care about being home early.

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I totally sympathise, and this is part of the reason i don't belong toa gym any longer- on a weekend you want one near home, in the week you want one near work, its a 2 hour round trip and just generally gives you less time for any other commitments (I think too much is probably being made of LOMLs involvement in this- for me, i get annoyed I don't have time to fit in study, I think we all have our little thing gym going effects)

the only thing I can think of, is can you walk to work a few times a week?

Actually i see nothing wrong at all with what minerva said. we almost never eat together and its not an issue.

Stelly, that's an excellent point ?

Thanks again, all. Must head off to the gym now ? At loml's place tonight and he is cooking so chances are when I get there at 9 he will be staring helplessly at a couple of raw pork chops ?

But they want to eat together so it is one for them.

its not convenient for sophie, yet she s doing it anyway. there are various solutions to this, most have been mentioned. one of them (ie him) has to change something or the alternative is just not to eat together. sophie hasnt actually said (unless i ve missed it, which may well be the case ?) that eating together is a must.

I have come to this a bit late - do you have to go to bed at the same time? It's rare in this house for me to wait up for H to come to bed.

Hmmmm. I think he needs to adjust /compromise in terms of maybe not working out straight after work every night and thus arrive at yours earlier . That said, I suppose I do more of the "adjusting" in my relationship. My hours are 9-5 albeit with a two hour commute each way. H works shifts and does karate training twice a week and on Saturday afternoons. He fits in the gym around his shifts.

I go to the gym at 6.30am before work 2-3 times a week and at weekends. I am just too zonked after work, and I don't like it to eat into my evenings with H. If I went after work I wouldn't get back til at least 9-9.30 and I don't like to cook/eat very late. If H is in earlier, he will cook, but tbh, I prefer to do it. So, I get up at 6. Arrive at gym for 6.30, work out for an hour, shower, change and make my way to work. Then, I feel it's "done" and I am set up for the day. When he is on "middle shifts"-he is home by 6.15-6.30 and I am in at 6.45-7 most evenings so that works out well.

Weekends, I ease into the day and have a longer work out. Sometimes, H comes with me on Sundays. We have a later breakfast, read the papers, hit the gym, he sees his kids, and I have the afternoon and evening to do as I please.

Eating together as much as possible, is imprtant to me. We also go out to dinner at least once a week. I am a fairly keen and experimental cook, but again-in the week especially, I don't want to be faffing too much in the kitchen. I want to be curled up with him on the sofa with a glass of red, watching a film or talking-not getting in at 9pm, cooking and eating really late and before you know it, it's bed time! Of course, that's ok, as the exception-if one or both has had something on, but not the rule.

In your shoes, I would broach him varying his work outs, but I would also try and hit the gym first thing, once oe twice a week, You'll adjust to the early starts-if I can, anyone can! And I usually average 6hrs sleep-7 max the night before. Summer is fast approaching, keep those evenings free for more exciting things than sweating on the cross trainer or mincing about in the kitchen like Fanny Frikking Craddock at 10pm at night!

Good luck.

It would just so happen that on learning this, I have to abstain from eating after 8pm for medical reasons ? Waaah!

I am not ignoring the later replies to this, just tryingto get the putanesca sauce reduced ?

I'll reply more fully tomorrow.

I think you have to lose the pottering time and batch cook (I do) so on the nights I am late(r) than normal it's just a question of chucking on some pasta / rice and reheating. Maybe have a sauna / potter at the gym.

Doh. Didn't think about the knee thing. Can he leave the gym early one or two nights and you cook a quick meal/defrost something one or two nights?