a 'its got out of hand' moan

It's not pointless - rant away, we are hear to listen (well, read)...

It is a pain in the backside when people say 'I don't like the idea of that', or 'you gotta do it this way' - it does my head in!!! I am quite stubborn, but h2b is trying to keep the peace, even if it means changing his mind about what he REALLY wants

We have had a couple of comments and moans from his parents already about our ideas, and basically, if there are any more from anyone, then I will just say there won't be a wedding, we will just bugger off one day and get married (at times I am VERY tempted to do this).

Our parents have no money, so it is us paying for the whole thing, so even more reason for us to be stubborn! Everyone will just have to like it or lump really, we are making sure that the wedding is very convenient for them cost and travel wise, we certainly are not demanding that they fork out loads of money for hotels etc. so we have based our venue around that, but regarding having a humanist celebrant, not having my FSIL as a bridesmaid and the fact that it is outdoors.... tough tits!

I hope your big day is fantastic, and I am sure it will be, despite people sticking their oars in. Try not to feel fearful, you are getting married at the end of the day, and with 3 weeks to go, I take it all if the big decisions have been made anyway? So no-one can change them or your mind now! If they carry on, just politely tell them to back off, what's done is done and that's final All the best

I agree with HeavyMetalMaiden!

Your day, your choices no matter how much people disagree this is the day when it is all about you (and H2B of course!)

We had a similar issue with people not liking our choices because 'thats not what happens at weddings' and in the end a friend found me one of those 'ecards' that says this....

Remember, you're not getting married to impress a room full of people... You're getting married to make the man you love your husband

I posted it on Facbook with the title 'So if you don;t approve of our choices for OUR wedding.... i really couldn't give a toss' and it seems to have worked so far as loads of 'guests' have commented saying its our day and they've all backed off a bit lol!

It will always be hard when people have paid for bits of the wedding but they should respect the fact that its still your choice.

*hugs*

The main things, like venue, tog and meal has been sorted but we haven't decided on vows/readings etc. There will only be 8 of us, two sets of parents, and bestman/girlfriend.

I'm not very girly and dreading wearing a dress (even though its what I thought I'd like the most). When I voice my fears I'm told to enjoy it and just dress up, its only one day. I had a hair trial which the other half didn't like as it wasn't me... but none of it is me really... which I think is the crux of the problem, and now it's too late. I've told my OH these feelings for ages and he just has nothing to add Which opens up a whole new can of fears.

I wish we hadn't let them pay for it now, but I guess I have to just get on with it. (If I was advising myself it's what I'd say) but I just feel I can't, I feel to stupid and anxious about it all.

I don't feel we can run off and do it as dad is ill and he's been looking forward to it etc. (Doesn't help I'm an only child too)

Oh hurumph!!

If it's at all, I was dreading dress shopping. I'm a big girl and all I could envisage was looking like toilet roll doll cover. I voiced all my concerns to the wedding dress shop I had had recommended by no less than 7 people and my 'stylist' could not have been nicer.

I was incredibly surprised at how I felt trying dresses on despite it being a pet hate of mine (trying clothes on and especially in public) and was over the moon nutty when 'the one' turned up, I simply could not believe I found a dress that made me smile so much.

Based on the above, please don't worry about your outfit too much. You do not have to have a huge dress, there are so many choices out there on all budgets. Hell, a friend of mine even got married in a beautiful trouser suit.

What I'm trying to say is you choose what makes you feel fab, not what anyone else wants you to wear. You know what you and H2B likes so think of it as dressing up for him.

As as for the hair, I have very short hair (about 3inch) so it's staying exactly as it is, just with the addition of a side tiara..... Your H2B probably got it spot on, you still need to look like you as that's why he loves you.

Persinally i I never see the point in people who look completely different on their wedding day but maybe that's just me lol!