A Q for the OMs

I did for a a couple of months afterwards.

Now I am just bitter and old.

I missed it at first but not even slightly any more. It was an amazing day but like you, it's nice to be the other side now and enjoying married life.

What have I missed re being bitter and sour?

Not at all. I didn't really enjoy the planning when I was doing it (too much hassle and trying to please other people) and am glad to have my weekends (and thoughts) back again.

I did love our wedding day and would very much like another honeymoon, but that's a holiday needed.

No, but then I have worn my wedding dress daily ever since, a la Miss Havisham.

At first I didn't; I was just glad to have it all over with and I was distracted by the trauma of trying to move house. Once that had all settled and SIL got engaged, I did have a short while of missing the buzz of planning it all out, but then I got pregnant so now I'm distracted by that!

I'm still finding being married really exhilarating (I giggle whenever I get a letter with Mrs on it) and because SIL is planning her wedding, it's reminding me of all the stressful budget stuff which I really didn't enjoy.

Strangely enough, I was thinking this yesterday. I did a lot of my wedding planning at work, because I was fairly quiet, and had the time to do loads. Now, I'm flat out with work, and will be for the next 8-9 months. So, I don't miss WP at all, and am pleased that it's over and done with as I just don't think I could cope with work and wedding stress.

We're going on our belated honeymoon in April as we couldn't afford to go away after the wedding, and I'm so pleased this is the way we did it, the honeymoon will come just at the right time.

I can't say I ever missed it. But that may be because I plan events for a living, so it just felt like a spaklier extension of work.

I'm not an OM but am looking forward to getting to the morning of the wedding when the planning stage is done - and that's from someone who used to plan events for a living.

The budget side of things has been stressful at times and I have a lot to do over the next few months that I'm not actually sure I have the time to do!

I can't wait to come out the other side, enjoy the day, be a wife and have a fantastic, relaxing honeymoon.

I wasn't missing it (although I do like indulging myself by looking at the remnants of the day occasionally). However, my new niece-in-law has announced her engagement and has started to bombard me with questions about venues/cakes/etc. It's quite nice to be able to chat about stuff like that and know I don't have to make any decisions...

P1ss off then!

You've just made me cry. ***.

ETA: That was ***.

Aarggh! B I T C H

I don't miss it at all. It was the happiest day of my life, but I never enjoyed the planning and was fed up of it weeks before the wedding, what with the family fall-outs, cancelling suppliers, lack of money, nagging Mother (mine).

I enjoyed every minute of our honeymoon!

Where has Sour & Bitter come from? I've not been on for a few days...

Bullies, the lot of you. Just you wait - two months time my bitterness is going to be so far up in your grill, you won't be able to see straight.

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Whatever Kharvo...

No I don't miss the planning.

I loved our wedding day, but I had had enough of people only talking to me about the wedding and all the organising. I wouldn't say I found it that stressful but I was looking forward to just being married and my life being back to normal.

I still get excited now saying that I have a husband and seeing my married name! Plus we have our first anniversary to look forward to.

Ha!

See I had 21 months between engagement and Wedding and we started planning straight after engagement so it was a looooong time to wait. I'm happily baby planning now instead

Not one bit, but then I was the worlds worst planner so perhasps it isn't that surprising. I hated the pressure of have you got a theme a scheme etc etc.

Nope not missing it - loved my day and everything but the honeymoon aspect was the most important part after the vows - I came back from honeymoon - with a really Bumpy Landing! I have honeymoon blues (like Claire198421) live for my holidays

we have a lovely one booked this year - but hubby has already said he will take me back to our honeymoon island for our 5th...I really hope so! - as its now only 4 years away hehe

I miss the kinda wedding 'bubble' - you know all the excitement, people being excited for you...Im quite organised by nature so the planning wasnt a major hardship...I miss the girly days out with my mum looking at pretty things...

I like being married..I like having bit more money & free time.....Im settled & I like it.

Def needing a holiday booked though - cant decide on a city break type or another relaxing around the pool holiday!

I'd just like to point out that, not only are you bitter and sour, but you're also discriminating... Hurumph!

In general I LOVE planning.

I feel like I should be an event planner, but I'm not.

I do miss PLANNING not the stress. I have, therefore, turned my attention to planning other events such as my sister's wedding this year and my sister-in-law's baby shower (she is only 2 months!)

Give me a good event to plan any day of the week, however, I confirm that I much prefer being married to being engaged.

I really missed it to begin with... I suspect I wasn't very happy at the time. Wedding planning coincided with my doing a Masters course but I couldn't find a part-time job and in all honesty the degree itself wasn't that difficult to coast along with, so I was at home alone and bored most of the time. Not helped by Mr J doing shift work and being away all evening every other week. I could have put more effort into my degree but threw myself into planning instead. (Don't worry, I still passed haha!)

So I missed it a lot, but then I finally found a part-time job, wrote my dissertation, and then managed to find a proper full-time job which I enjoy. So now I have a lot less time to sit around getting bored.

Also, while I thought I enjoyed the planning at the time, I look back on it now and just feel sad. There are things I wish I had done differently, not about the day itself (I just relaxed totally, went with it on the day and was so happy to marry Mr J) but about the planning. I wish I hadn't ceded so much control to my parents, mainly.

So no, I don't really miss it.

I had wedding blues for quite a while... but that seems to have gone now. Am happy just offering advice and ideas from time to time now.

Am happy planning for our future, house hunting and getting broody!

I dont miss it but i tried hard not to let it take up too muich of my time! Plus I've thrown myself into the next project, my H's surprise birthday party!!

a friend of mine is getting married this summer & Im bridesmaids. when wever she is stressing over wedding things i do think to myself "Ha ha, your turn now!!"

I do then calm her down and try and help!

I wouldn't say I miss it, but I did enjoy the majority of it. I'd love to do it again and be more organised so that I could enjoy the last few weeks of it.

I loved planning my wedding but I dont miss it. I did for about 2 weeks when i got back to work and realised I would have to do some ACTUAL work...but that passed.

I love being married, it still feel new and exciting and I love sitting looking at our wedding photos etc i would love to experience the whole day again but I know thats not going to happen. I have read over my report a few times actually just to recap!

I'm not bitter or jealous when people tell me they're getting married, I've always loved a wedding, even before I had my own!

I miss the excitement and anticipation and I LOVED the actual day ( would do it again tommorow if I could!) but the planning bit was stressful MIL wise so I wouldnt do that again! We get on much better now its all over! I too have more honeymoon blues than wedding blues, me and H both spend hours mooning over pics of our resort on tinterweb! Maybe next year..

I really enjoyed the planning - researching, buying /ordering etc. I loved bidding on ebay, and then waiting for the postman to deliver goodies. I enjoyed talking to my work friend about the wedding etc.

On the whole, I do kinda miss it, but not in a "I'm so heartbroken, I have no wedding to plan" kind of way. I love having a bit more money, and I love being married (I still beam when I see letters addressed to Mrs XXXX).

I love hearing about other people's weddings, so I wouldn't say I've become bitter.

I kind of wish I could have that day all over again, but I can't say I'd want to plan it again! I currently have several friends getting married this year and BIL's wedding in April, so plenty of opportunity to have wedding chat still. My main task is currently to surreptitiously stop MIL becoming Mumzilla!