A word of warning...

KBS. I really hope that everything works out well for you. I didn't mean to make things any worse for you (with my condescending posting) and I do agree that the persons professionalism is seriously lacking but I am afraid to say that unprofessional business people do exist and when we come into contact with them it can be very distressing.

Do people not telephone wedding venues and ask prices quite often this time of year? I have certainly made a few calls myself over the last few months. Maybe with any luck your venue will not add 2 and 2. ?

Good luck. ?

I am not going to comment but one thing I will say is be careful what details you do reveal.

A few years back a Hitcher had her wedding cancelled by someone who saw her details on here.

Just be cautious what you reveal.

KBS sorry 2 hear this, but my penny has still not dropped, dumb blonde that I am!! ?

It is that sort of forum and welcome but there was a prime example of this only a short while ago so with everything tonight, I am sure I'm not the only one who might feel a little wary.

Rachel, see the thread 'new' and you may understand my concern!

I have no wish to put genuine newbies off and everyone is welcome, we were all new once!

aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah I get it now, i think!!

I'm sure no offense was intended, wouldn't take it personally ?

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OMG I don't come on for a day and then pop on and all this is going on!

Hope you're ok KBS, I'm sure everything will work out.

Thanks to you and CB for thinking of us all and passing on the warning ?

Rachel none taken really lol just thought It quite funny.

Thanks for the welcome Kat44.

?OMG this is just awful!

And I don't know the full story KBS but I hope everything works out OK.

Am seriously considering leaving hitched completely after reading all of this.

I must admit, VickyJay, so was I....

Was this a member or just someone who happened across the post? Absolutely shocking though.

That is really scary - our venue and the Registrar said that unless the person phoning gave them the unique reference number we had they would not cancel or alter anything. They would only accept face-to-face cancellations and ONLy by quoting that number which we were asked to write down. No letters were sent with it on exactly for that reason so that no one can get their hands on it...Strange...

I can't remember if it was another Hitcher to be honest.

Hitched is a great community and do support each other, it is great for advice, sharing tips etc. It is the same as anywhere else on the internet, never give away too much information. You wouldn't give it to strangers in the street.

I hope that you won't be put off by this just be a bit more careful in things that you share.

I remember the big scandal with the cancelled wedding, it was before my time as a HIB but I was lurker back then. Hitched has had quite few loons over the years, serial liars who have caused quite some distress. In the old days there was a scandal once a month or so, normally caused by the same old group of loons, under different guises. (normally the best action was late on a Friday night!) But Hitched has always continued and has always been a very friendly (if some times un-fluffy) place to plan a wedding. Don't leave , the vast majority here are genuine human beings, Hitched is one of the most open, honest and genuine forums I have ever frequented (and I am a member of a few!)

*anyone still keep track of the loons? I know years ago there was an un-official list.

Wow. Have just read this from beginning to end and I am lost for words really.

Please please please don't give up on us HIBs though. We're not all like that ?

Nat

I have no idea how others do it, venues, florists, etc,, but if someone were to need to cancel my services, they would have to send me a signed cancelation form, which would release the date for me again. This would be something I would send to their mailing address, but also I would imagine we would call them on the phone before sending it to make sure. But so far (knocking furiously on wood) we've never had to do that.

I don't think leaving Hitched is necessary, it's just always wise to be cautious what you reveal about yourself on the internet. When you think how many people post here, and how much they reveal about themselves, it's more surprising not to hear of this kind of thing more often.

In this particular case, I would bet the HIB in question thought they would show their organizational ablities by stepping in,,but it backfired spectacularly.

As someone who has been an HIB on here for many years, something like this is a worry. I think as HIBs we need to be grateful and appreciate that Hitched even allows us to participate in discussions on here. Many wedding forums aren't that generous. So it's important not to take that trust the site has in us. I'm going to end that statement with IMHO, because others may feel differently.

Teri

Oh what a horrible thing to happen- hope it all works out!!!!

Has anyone else read this then frantically looked through their old posts to see what info has been put on?? (I admit this may be slightly neurotic!!)

Oh noes- quite scary that this has happened but I don't think a mass exile is necessary. Just be careful what you post!!

I thought this too, but all they have actually evidenced is their complete lack of competence.

Yes, and deleted a few things!

Firstly KBS i hope you are ok...I know i would be livid if someone did something like that to me!!!

Secondly, I am going to go back though all my old posts and delete anything that will give anything away!!

Hope it hasn't made anyone think of leaving hitched it would be such a shame.

Me too! And a few pictures!

I might be really dippy but can't find the corresponding thread and I will keep my fingers crossed for you KBS!

I have not been around for a while, so no idea what the original thread/issue was. But... Seriously? I am speechless. I mean, I hardly get time to run my own life, never mind ever attempting to sort someone else's out, especially without their express permission!

It is not the job of suppliers at Hitched, or anywhere, to step in and meddle with other bookings. Moreover, no one has the right to do this!

I am sorry you ladies are going through this. I hope it all gets sorted and that no damage is done!

Andrea de Gabriel

Blimey, im so confused, what have i missed?!

there are often warning on here about the details you give so i have been very cautions about giving out too many details, especially when ive googled certain things and hitched threads come up, sometimes threads from way before i even joined!

hope everything has got sorted, whatever the heck it was!!

This isn't a situation that will only happen on Hitched though as all forums will have sort of strange thing happening in some form. Think of it this way, if you have a Facebook, Bebo, Twitter page is that page available to be viewed by everyone in the world? If you have set your social networking pages up to be available only to friends because you don't want strangers knowing your details then the same should apply to forums especially if your username is connected to your real name.

Having read through the whole post now, must admit, I'm still a bit confuddled myself but I think I can see what's happened in part... as Terri and Bespoke have said, it seems that a HIB fairly new to Hitched has taken it upon themselves to "help out" by being a tad over zealous and eager to please which has backfired in the worst way. It is best to be wary about what's divulged on line in general, not just Hitched, as there are some looneys out there unfortunately who love stirring up trouble just for the hell of it especially on places like Facebook (one of the reasons why I don't do social sites at all!) I too can remember the case of the 'cancelled' wedding but this was quite a few years ago and most suppliers would not take someone else's word as a cancellation anyway so the venue were just as much to blame for their stupidness on that occasion. As far as I can see, no actual information was divulged on KBS's thread regarding naming of venue etc so, unless I'm being ultra thick, still not quite sure how this happened but hopefully it hasn't caused any massive problems. Hitched is a much more friendly place than it used to be. As Mark at Bespoke says, there used to be some real head cases on here in the past but they've all moved on or 'grown up' whichever way you look at it. Because of the nature of the forum, you will occasionally get businesses who are keen to impress and come over as being 'grabbing' for your business but we aren't all like that - honest!

I've just read this whole thread and I now kind of understand what happened (I think) anyway KBS I'm sure everything will be fine but sorry to hear what happened.. I'd just like to say that I doubt any mallice was intended in my opinion its been blown out of all proportion, and for me it is damaging the reputation of other HIBS especially for the newbies of the site. We should all accept full repsonsibility for anything we post on here, and be fully aware that this is a public site for all and sundry to view. I dont agree with the actions of this HIB and they will have paid the price but its not like they did anything vindictive I just want to get that point across more than anything going back to HIBs reputations and all that.

Oh dear KBS hope you manage to get it all sorted.

I must be V thick as the penny has not dropped with me who it may be

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