Every Christmas we have H's mum over. H does'nt have any siblings, although he does have a few Aunties and Uncles, but the one year we tried to get get MIL to go to them instead, she stubbornly refused and H and I ended up feeling guilty as she refused to leave her house. My family are in New Zealand, I have quite a big family and Christmas for me was always a big thing, and I have inherited my mothers love of everything Christmas. Now I just find the day a big let down. The last two years H and I were managing a pub and were working on Christmas day. This year I told the MIL that we would be having a hot buffet for dinner (hate cooking) and H and I were going to a party in the evening. We are invited to the same party every year, but never go because of MIL staying. This year I told H that I wan't to do what I wan't to do for a change.
Last night H got of the phone to MIL, and after five minutes silence he told me that she won't be coming this year as she 'wan'ts a roast on christmas day, so will cook one at home. Also, If we are leaving her on her own in the evening, she would feel more comfortable at home'. Aaaargh!. I just know I am going to end up giving in to this womans demands and end up cooking and staying in. I really wan't to say 'good' and plan a nice day with just H and I, followed by a good night out with good friends. But of course I can't, the one time MIL stayed at home for Christmas, H ended up in tears through guilt.
Half of me thinks I am being a bit ureasonable. H and his mum are really the only family each other has. WWYD?
