Adding guests to RSVP's

I don't think you should have to accomodate them - no disrespect to you H2B's great aunt but I think it's rude to do this even if you know the people have been added to the RSVP - let alone if you or your H2B have never met them!! Is this something your OH grandparent's or parents could take up with her?

I have had this too. A single guy who had no plus 1 on the invite, but is part of a group of friends of which many are single, has replied on the website for him and his daughter. We aren't inviting kids of evening guests. I didn't notice it at first and now feel its a bit late ( 2 weeks later) to approach this, so will probably have her there!!!

I've had this three times so far! I think it's so rude. I was honest and said we havent got the numbers for them, hence why they weren't invited!

Thanks for the advice, am going to have a think. I am weighing up whether is it worth any upset

will have a ponder

I've had a guest also announce they were bringing someone along who had not been invited, it's annoying as hell! ?

I just had to go back to them and set the record straight by saying we have limited space during the day and the additional person was not on the list of daytime guests. I said they would be welcome to attend the evening reception instead. Turns out they weren't even planning on coming anyway!! Grrrrrrr

I can't believe people actually do this... i'm dreading this part, i'm way too soft, i'll probably end up doubling my guest list .. Luckily, i think OH would step in..

Good Luck!

I'll be telling our guests (if they even try this) that no additional guests can be catered for. Our numbers are capped at 70 during the day including the wedding party, so we have no choice but to be strict! The evening guests we can be a bit more accommodating.

You have to think about if they're not the only ones that do this. If you say yes to some but not to others, you have to think of potential comeback on that.

It's rude..but she may not have realised it. I would contact her and explain that you just simply don't have the space for people you don't know =o) or you make an exception but then will you make more exceptiions for others? could you maybe have the other 2 just too the evening? x

Unless the great aunt is very old and travelling with her grandson would be the only way she could get to/manage the day, I'd set your H2B (via MiL if necessary) to tell her you're sorry but you can't accommodate any extra guests. Even if she does need to come with him, he doesn't need to bring his girlfriend!

I can't believe people have the nerve to do this!

I wonder if people have turned up to weddings without an invite?

I'm dreading doing our invitations.

Oh my days - I can't believe how rude that it.

I agree with most people on here when they say that you need to think wisely about letting her bring someone as an exception - because you'll get a lot of people wanting to do the same (maybe) and arguments are caused when people are treated differently!

If it's because she couldn't get to the venue without her grandson, then why can't he just drop her off and pick her up?

We've had this, we invited a couple we're friends with but didn't include their 2 teenagers, who we thought wouldn't want to come anyway. RSVP came back with kids included. We didn't have the heart to tell them they weren't invited but now i'm trying to work out the seating plan i wish we had! Just 2 extra people had made it a nightmare!