Advice ... Is it ok to ask them to pay?

No! mine are paying for their own nails. like you, im paying for the other things (plus accomodation for the night before). a 'nail lady' is coming on the friday evening, and they are paying for their own. dont feel bad about asking them to pay if they want them done. if they dont want them done, then thats ok too.

I think it's totally reasonable for them to pay for there own nails definitely. You're already paying for so much for them.

I'm doing the same. I have one maid and have paid for everything (including two dresses ... don't ask!) but I stopped at nails.

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You've already been very generous. Don't feel bad about them paying for their nails!

I think it's fine to ask people to pay as long as you are up front with them and don't expect everyone to match perfectly.

If they politely decline and turn up on the day with plain nails then that has to be ok too.

I think you're fine not paying (you've paid for a lot already) as long as you aren't telling them they have to get their nails done. As a bridesmaid I wouldn't feel left out if I wasn't having my nails paid for.

I agree. You can stipulate plain nails or clear varnish or risk they all have different colours if you don't care, but leave them to pay for their own. You can always say there will be someone to do nails if anyone wants a manicure she charges xyz so if anyone wants booking in let me know. Sorted.

Thanks all. I feel better about it now. I certainly don't mind if they choose not to have them done at all. I will leave it up to them to decide x

I have asked mine to buy their shoes mainly because i know they would wear them again with the colours we are having. They really didn’t mind. Apart from that, I’ve paid for the dresses, petticoats, sashs, hair and providing make up for them to do themselves.

You have paid for a lot already.

I am only putting £50 towards my BM's dress (I'm only having one) and have paid to have her hair done. This is all my budget allowed, but I made sure that she knew what would happen before she agreed to be a bridesmaid.

You're fine asking them to pay, but if they don't fancy having their nails done, then you have to let them go without.

It's totally ok. I have already told my BMs that I'm only buying their dresses. Everything else - shoes, hair, makeup etc - is up to them to decide on and pay for.

It's totally fine. I'm paying for dresses, hair and makeup and everything else they are getting themselves because I'm not dictating what shoes, accessories, nails etc they are having. I'm not even picking their hair either because there are such a range of lengths that there's no point in trying to match, everyone can just have what they want. We're all 30-somethings anyway, it would feel a bit daft to be matchy.