Advice needed from Scottish Hitchers!!

Oh's dad is English but has lived in Scotland for many years and has a collection of kilts. Best man is part Scottish ( lives in England, never in Scotland) and will wer a kilt. My dad is definitely in a suit!

I think it's up to you and the chaps, I don't think it's a faux pas to wear a kilt though.

I have to say, I've never heard of anybody ever complaining about an Englishman wearing a kilt. Perhaps a bit odd if there were no Scottish relations at all but your ushers are there as support for the Scottish groom. My fiance and I are both Scottish, our best man is English. He has lived in Scotland most of his life but even if he hadn't, we would have asked him to wear a kilt because he's part of the Scottish bridal party x

I am Scottish and was BM for my Scottish bestie in June who was marrying an english man (in Scotland). She didn't know until she got to the top of the aisle that he, his best man, ushers and father (all english) would be in kilts. She was thrilled and every one at the wedding thought it was brilliant! I understand the age old scottish-England divide and the staunch protective feelings that the Scottish have about kilts...however weddings are not about taking sides and should be a celebration rather than strict tradition. Ignore the parentals and put em in kilts!

This is fantastic! I was so excited when OH wanted them all to dress up in kilts and I'm a bit upset too at his parents view on things. I'm glad to hear that so far, you guys don't mind.

I'm going to disagree with the majority. My father and his family are Scottish, and would think it was a bit pretentious for an English guest to wear a kilt. Kilts are the family tartan, and English families (in the most part) don't have tartans. We would also think it a bit odd for someone to wear a tartan that wasn't their family colours too.

You do get tartans from McCalls called the Pride Tartans that are not family tartans - this might held the situation a little?

Thanks BBB - although they won't be guests, they will be part of my Scottish OH's wedding party if that makes a difference? x x x

I dont think its wrong at all, we are quite happy to share our tradition

A tartan might mean more to a scottish person if it is their families tartan but certainly shouldnt stop an person of a different nationality wearing one

Thanks guys, I just read out your comments to other half who is relieved to hear that majority of you don't mind English people wearing kilts. Just have to tackle his parents now....

At the risk of nit picking, clan tartans are a relatively modern invention and only started in the 19th century. In theory anyone can invent a tartan and register is as one of their family tartans. Regardless, there are plenty of non-clan tartans available now.

I think it's perfectly ok for an English guest to wear a non-clan kilt if they are in an otherwise Scottish wedding party.

My OH is Dutch and moved to Scotland when he was 3 Years old. He will be wearing a kilt and has worn a kilt to weddings on many occasions but he dose not wear a clan tartan he usual wears Scottish union or Scottish pride tartan. He has two brothers and one wears his wife' tartan and the other doesn't really care what he wears.

Where are you getting married Scotland or England? Scottish people in general I feel wouldn't mind other nationalities wearing kilts especially at a wedding. At the end of the day it's your and your OH wedding but you want your ushers to feel comfortable. Have a look on the internet there are lots of options for kilts.xx

My OH is English as is all of his family and he will be wearing a kilt as I’m Scottish and we are getting married in Scotland. I asked him if he would wear a kilt and he agreed. His best man who is English is excited about wearing a kilt. All of the bridal party will be in kilts the only one who wasn’t keen was his nephew who is English but he has now had a change of heart.

OH dad and brother aren’t wearing kilts and I’m ok with that but lots of his family have specifically asked if we mind them wearing kilts and I’ve told them not at all. OH brother in law is American and he is desperate to wear the kilt, apparently he wanted to wear one when he got married but OH sister wouldn’t let him so now is his chance. Seem that’s even though we are having more English people at the wedding than Scottish most of them want to wear kilts. I think Kilts look fantastic and can’t understand why anyone would be offended at someone not Scottish wearing them.

I'm Scottish but my OH is English and he, along with all of his family, will be wearing a kilt to our wedding. No tartan is decided as yet although I'm not fussy at all what they pick. I'm a McDonald so there are numerous clan tartans for me but I'm not bothered either way really.

Most of our friends (English/Welsh/Irish) have also expressed an interest in wearing a kilt since they are coming to Scotland with us for the wedding. I'm delighted ?

H wore a kilt to our wedding and he is 100% Welsh! We were going to go for the "Jones" (his/our surname) tartan but this colour didnt go with our colour scheme so we opted for "Pride of Scotland" tartan. We both love Scotland and I must say he looked gorgeous in it.

Thanks for your comments guys. Hearing your points of view has totally reaffirmed OH's point of view about kilts!

C x x x x

I am Scottish and although I didnt have a wedding party, a lot of people wore kilts.

I dont think it is a problem for an Englishman to wear a kilt, especially if the bride or groom is Scottish, to me that shows that they are embracing their heritage. My H wears a specific kilt for everything, it is not his family kilt, it is just one he really likes, his dad, both granddads and his uncle all had different kilts and none of them were their family tartan.

If its what you and H want, do it, I dont see a problem unless the people wearing them really dont want to.

TBH - I think that its an all or nothing for the bridal party. Its part of the Scottish bridal party and therefore i think they should. I'm english OH scottish and my brother has worn the kilt many time ( both be living in Scotland for 30+ years though)

I would say its about a disrepectful as a Scotsman being asked to wear a top or tails. Which is nothing at all.

To me there is nothing better than seeing the male bridal party in Kilts. - There is even a tartan now for those who don't have tartans. so you can chose one for the colour more than anything.

Tell your OH to go for it and make the kilt swing!!!