Advice needed - guests cancelling

I have a similar problem, My h2b's BROTHER ffs is not sure he and his girlfriend can make it, lllllllllooooooooooooooooooooooonnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnngggggggggg story lol

so we are going to upgrade 2 evening guests and if they are good friends I think they will appreciate it rather than get annoyed or be insulted?

I personally wouldn't be offended at all, lets face it it's an upgrade rather than a demotion!

Be prepared for people to decline the upgrade as it's quite late notice.

Could you check with the venue first then make the decision?

I wouldn't mind - just explain the situation etc. Others might mind but then hey ho. A boyfriend of mine got bumped up to day guest at one of my friends' weddings - we hadn't been together that long so he hadn't been invited from day 1. He didn't mind!

I would upgrade too, if you know them wel enough they shouldn't be offended! Save you wasting 2 day places.

If the venue can't amend numbers I'd invite a couple of evening guests. If I were a guest I wouldn't be offended in the least bit. In fact I'd be flattered that you thought of me.

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I remember getting upgraded but a)couldnt attend anyhoo and b) the way it was done was a bit off so I'm going to suggest that you dont tell the 2 that theres been a cancellation and say that there is space should they wish to attend the day, how much it would mean to you both if they could attend the day service.

We have upgraded some people but they dont know about it, they just got a day invite a bit later than everyone else got theirs...

Were you offended because they said there's been a cancellation? I don't understand why you would be, that's just the way weddings go being restricted by numbers and all.

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Thanks ladies, great advice as always

Going to contact the venue in the morning and see what they say. Just been looking at the evening list and most of the guests are local but have kids/work Saturdays so maybe it is too short notice.

At least I don't feel i will be offending anyone now

I've been upgraded before and was delighted. I never felt like a second choice. The couple had cancellation and they could have asked any of the evening guest.

OH and I will come! That saves you lots of hassle!

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HaHa I feel I should be inviting some of you. I know more about some of you than I do my IRL guests!

Seen more of some of you too lol (see boudoir)

I had some day guests not be able to make it, but chose not to replace them, as everyone i wanted there was there, and everyone else was going on the eve.

However, i was once invited to an old friends wedding - because others had dropped out, and i was really chuffed to be asked. I wasnt offended that i wasnt first on the list. I was pleased that i was first on the backup list.

Actually, looking back it was a case of I was going to be invited.... but never was. Then 2 days before, she called to say someone had pulled out and I could come afterall.... It was also on the day of my birthday and had made plans so I politely declined. I just felt a bit 'second best' due to the last minute invite... but never made a big deal about it.

hope u get summin organised Cheska.

We only had guests who were invited to whole day. We had a sudden drop out about a week before the wedding so I invited the sister of one of my bridesmaids who I'd really wanted there but just couldn't fit on the list (we're not hugely close but know her through my bm obviously). I explained why we were inviting her so late and that it was all paid for and we'd love her there. She totally understood and came along, she wasn't offended at all.