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Advice needed - I have 2 dads, who should walk me down the aisle?

katiea2000, 17 May, 2010 at 19:04 Posted on Planning 0 8

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Hi all,

I really need some advice as I'm feeling awful at the minute and i'm not sure what to do. We only got engagaed a few weeks ago and me and my OH are already thinking of getting married on the quiet!!

My mum and dad divorced when I was one and my mum re-married when I was 5. I stayed with my mum in the week and spent the weekends with my dad and that is how it stayed until I was 13 when my dad had to move away as he threw all his money away on yet ANOTHER silly business deal. My step-dad has been brilliant to me my whole life, i have been so lucky to have him. He has probably been more supportive to me than my dad and so i am now in a tricky position. My dad has suggested that my step-dad takes me to the Church in the car and then he (my dad) walks me down the aisle but my step-dad would be 'guttted' if I did that (so my mum has told me) as he feels he has been more of a dad to me and so therefore he should do that part.

Has anyone got an idea of how I can get round this? I can't have one walk me half way then swap as then one would have to walk behind us and I would be feeling bad for that person.

I would really appreciate any ideas!

Thank you!

K x

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Latest activity by Mrs S*, 17 May, 2010 at 20:57

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ebee · 17 May, 2010 at 19:11
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Is there room for them both to walk you down the aisle, one on each side? ... as you've said - you have two dads ?
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Mrs_M_2b · 17 May, 2010 at 19:16
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I think the 2 of them walking you down the aisle would be the best option
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Juicymelons · 17 May, 2010 at 19:19
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If neither can agree their role, I would ask your mum to walk you down the aisle, have one dad travel in the car to church and handover to your mum and have your other dad give the speech xx
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Jumbly Girl · 17 May, 2010 at 19:50
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You haven't said what you want. If you put their feelings on one side for a second, have a moment to think about what you really want. There are ways around including both for different elements - e.g. both could give speeches, one could be your witness, one could have your father/daughter dance while the other walks you down the aisle.
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mariclare · 17 May, 2010 at 20:09
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Hi there, my daughter gets married next year and asked me to be the giving away person and I am honoured. I realise this may not be suitable for you but it is one answer but don't know how you would feel about this. good luck anyway. x
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katmoore · 17 May, 2010 at 20:15
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Hi there! ive also had this hard decision to make but my real dad wasnt there for me much growing up and to me my step-dad was more of a dad to me. Which is why he is walking me down the aisle! My real dad is upset with me and i dont even know if he is coming to the wedding yet! Whatever you decide it should be your decision!it is your day! Sorry if this isnt much help to you!x
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debmci · 17 May, 2010 at 20:35
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i think your mum should do it. that way you've put neither of them before the other!!
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kenzie3 · 17 May, 2010 at 20:39
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I was gonna say what about having thm both walk you down if there is room, or if you really cant decide thn go with ur mum x
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