advice needed ladies :(

Personally i would keep her if she will continue to be your friend after the wedding. Do you speak to her a lot?

It depends on how your relationship with her is. Maybe give it some time?

I wouldn't jump straight in and remove her as a bridesmaid. For one thing, i've seen a pattern on here that sometimes people get back together, and with 2 months still to go, there is still that possibility (unless there is a severe reason why they broke up)

If your good friends with her then you should keep her as a bridesmaid. She obviously must have made the grade at an early stage if they'd only been together 2 and a half years for you to choose her as a bridesmaid...if that makes sense.

Hope it all works out for you!

Depends on why you picked her to be your bridesmaid in the first place - if you felt you had to so she was included in the wedding for your brother's sake, then you shouldn't keep her. If you picked her because you're friends with her and she's been supportive throughout then keep her.

Might also be worth waiting a week or so before you decide - obviously I don't know the circumstances but a lot of people break up and quickly reconcile - give it time to calm down a bit and see how you feel. Depending on why she broke up with him she might not want to be there anyway.

If I'd have broken up with OH before his sister's wedding last year there's no way on earth I'd want to be in a room full of his family etc where they'd be asking me questions etc

thats the orignal reason she was made a bridesmaid. I never knew her before she got with my brother which is why i feel it wouldnt be right now. Ive spokent to my brother and theres no chance of them getting back together, i wont disclose the reason theyve split up but i cannot see them getting back together i shall wait a few days and see how he feels

thanks ladies x

Have you spoken to her she i am afraid so say MIGHT not want to be a BM at a wedding of her ex's sister..... If i was her i would be ducking out

Well, I'd leave it a couple of days to simmer down and see what happens, but if they don't get back together, then I would think about asking her not to do it - she might be quite relived anyuway! (sha may also assume that she's no longer going to be a BM, I suspect I would assume that, if I were her...)

If you'd been freinds with her anyway, then I would say keep her as a BM.

Has she exprssed an opinion?

Not so much expressed an opinion but just text me and my brother asking if weve made a decision, to which weve both just said we need to decide as a family really

If this happened to my OH I wouldn't advise her to keep this girl on as bridesmaid. From the sounds of it the only connection you have to her is through your brother and to be able to say there's no chance of them getting back together it must have been a bad break up. I can't imagine this girl will still want to be your bridesmaid if the break up was that bad, so maybe the decision will be taken out of your hands if you make contact in a few days.

Ok think about it this way - you look back on your photos in 10 years times - are you going to remember her fondly or think who the hell is that person - oh yeah it was my brothers ex?

WSS !

Kx

WSS. I'd leave it a week, contact her & ask her if she still wants to be BM because you'd understand if she didnt. She'd prob jump at the chance!

Alot can happen in 2 months - whilst things might be civil between them now they could quickly turn sour - it depends on why they split, what sort of people they are etc.

Do you have a friend you could ask who would fit the dress?

You have your photos forever - so ask yourself 'in 10 years time will I regret keeping her on the wedding or will I look back & be happy with the decision?'

unfortunatly not.. and really havent doubts after the day weve had regarding it

. Let the dust settle for a week & think about it again with your OH, your bro & your family. Do what feels right for you. X