Hi,
Apologies for the long post but I'm new to the forum and this is my first one as I have a dilemma...
We got engaged in Sep 2010 and are getting married in Sep 2011. We want to have a really small wedding, only 45 guests so I initially decided to only have 1 bridesmaid, my sister. One of very close friends has 2 adorable little girls, 5 and 7 and after a few months deliberating I've asked them to be flowergirls. So far, so good, wedding party doesn't outnumber guests!
This week my OH mother announced that her other son's girlfriend wants to know if we'll have their daughter as flowergirl. I mentioned it to my OH and he seems keen on the idea but I'm really really not. I've met the girl once and I think it'll be odd to have a virtual stranger walking down the aisle with me. On top of this, the girl's mother is a nightmare, a total cow. She's a really nasty piece of work who isn't very nice to my OH's mother especially (examples include telling her she wasn't a very good mother cos her son doesn't do much housework, telling her that she spoils the atmosphere when she goes to visit). I've only met this woman once but my OH and his mother never have a good word to say about her, just another way that she's done upset someone. So aside from not knowing the daughter at all, I would have to deal with the mother who would have to be there on the morning with the little girl. Just thinking about her being there on the morning stresses me out.
I don't want to be mean and potentially upset my OH by not having the little girl but I really just don't want to have her as I don't know her and I know her mother will be a nightmare.
I'm really sorry this post is so long, I just needed to get it off my chest as it's been getting me down these past few days...