There's a close group of us girls, about 10 of us, that have been best mates since primary school. We're now heading towards 34/35.
One of the girls' Dad died last week and his funeral is tomorrow.
Now, I haven't seen him in a long time (10 years plus) but knew him when we were much younger and always round each other's houses.
We're (me and rest of group) are kind of split about going to the funeral tomorrow. We want to be there to support our friend, but don't want to seem like rubberneckers (for want of a better phrase) when we weren't particulary close to him.
One of the girls (closest to the one in question) asked her if she wanted us there, and apparantly she said she didn't mind either way. Half of us think going to the service but not the wake is the right thing to do, and the other half think not going but sending a text to say thinking of her, is the right thing to do?
And I'm completely on the fence ?. Whichever half I'm talking to seems like the right thing and I can't really see things clearly. Would appreciate opinions on what you would do in this situation please?
I'm erring on going to the service, and sitting at the back. But don't want to seem a hypocrite when I didn't really know him well?